Husband's best friend living with us....

Amanda - posted on 04/09/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




When I was 8 months pregnant we decided to move into a townhouse with my husband's best friend. I was really hesitant for obvious reasons, but my husband convinced me it was a good idea. Now our son is four months old and I'm really not enjoying having his friend around. I'm exclusively breastfeeding and sick of having to hide away whenever my son is hungry or I need to pump, and I also think having his friend around is now starting to impact how I'm raising my son. I feel obligated to always keep him quiet, so putting him in his crib or teaching him to self sooth has been out of the question. My husband really enjoys having his bff live here, am I over reacting or is it time to say something?


Ev - posted on 04/09/2013




Actually, no you are not wrong to feel this way and you should say something. It is your home and you need the privacy of a family. His friend should be able to go get himself a place to live and if they want to hang out they can do it here. You should not have to feel like you need to "hide" to breastfeed or pump the milk. Its not fair to you or your son. You should not also have to feel like you can not teach your child things he needs to learn anyway.


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Liz - posted on 04/09/2013




It's definitely time to say something. Shared living works for some people and doesn't for others, but most people would prefer privacy with their family when attending to a newborn. If you feel stressed by the situation then it needs to change.

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