Husband will be deployed when baby is due. Stay put or go home to family?

Kelly - posted on 08/21/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




I'm pregnant with my first child and my husband will be deployed when the baby is due and won't get to meet his child until they are 4 months old. I am going back and forth about the decision to stay here or to move home with my parents when the baby comes. We just moved here and haven't gotten a chance to know people yet and we don't live on base. My biggest concern is to have enough support around me while he is gone.

I would love to hear from anyone else who has been through a similar situation and if you decided or were able to go home to your family, or if you stayed put and had family come out to help for a bit.


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Renee - posted on 09/16/2013




Can someone come out to be with you? My husband was enlisting in the Coast Guard and we decided to go back home to be with family when I was pregnant with my first, but for me it was a bad idea. Maybe have your family come to you. Your mom or sister or whoever.

Belva - posted on 11/20/2012




Stay put hun ! being a retired military myself an mom of three be leave me traveling with a child is a real pain when they are tiny ! Plus you want to be were your Military benefits are an the company is ! if they need to reach you they need to know were to come ! your family needs to come to you ! this is because if you are in a contract for a home you will be responsible to keep up the home an pay rent on it till he gets back . leaving is not a good Idea ! it would be allot easier for mom to come to you if you live on post an you leave you have to keep up the property while you are gone !

staying with the company is well worth the stay !

Chaya - posted on 08/22/2012




I personally couldn't, but if your family is supportive and willing to help, that may be the solution.

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