I am a first time mom of a 3wk 1day old spoiled little boy. He will not sleep more than 30mins at a time in his bed before he starts crying. He goes back to sleep easily as long as someone is holding him. I know I need to let him cry it out but is he too young to let scream? How long do I let him cry?

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Sarah - posted on 02/02/2009

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What a sweet little boy! He does not look spoiled at all. I don't believe that a 3 wk old baby can be spoiled! I have a 3 year old little girl and I still try to hold her when ever I get the chance. Babies this young need to be held, loved and comforted. You are their whole world and you need to build that trust with them. When they cry you pick them up. If sleep is a problem for him and you, just sleep with him! When he goes down for a nap you sleep with him too. You both will get some much needed rest. Just enjoy this time with him. Because you will never get it back. Maybe invest in a sling or other baby carrier to keep him close to you. He can take naps and nurse while in the sling. And as for crying it out.... when he cries he is trying to tell you something, so listen to him and figure out what he is telling you. Please do not let a 3 week old cry it out. There is definetely something that he is trying to tell you when he does cry, he is hungry, diaper needs to be changed, stomache is upset, etc.

Good luck

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Hi Katy,



Your little guy is a handsome fellow! My son did the same thing. It sounds like your little guy is a high-needs baby like mine was. He is 2 1/2 now, and he has been a wonderful, smart, and funny guy since the day he was born--who took cheap 30 min naps and woke me up thru the night every single night. I was shredded, I was so tired! And I had a 4yo to take care of, too. He is a great, well-adjusted child but truthfully he still wakes up once a night looking for me. For years I slept with him for part of the night so that I can get some decent sleep.



l I will tell you what helped me. I rec'd the Dr. Sears Baby Book and it talks about babies like ours. I highly recommend it. It explains their nature and the best way to connect with them.  They actually are very bright, intelligent children who seem to be in touch with their instinct not to let the mom get too far away. I recommend the Dr. Sears website, too, for parenting tricks to help your little guy find sleep and give you a break.



I am sure it is hard on you. It was on me. I kept thinking that all babies were like on tv, that we could just put them down in a crib and they would go to sleep.The truth is they are happiest when they are in contact with their mommy. It is just the nature of survival; he is hard-wired to need to be with you.



You may have just spent some $ on a great crib and bedding, and he won't go in it! He may eventually go in it if you give him a pacifier and swaddle him where his arms can't wriggle free and keep him awake. There is a swaddling blanket that helps keep the arms down and the babies sleep easier. It's like being back in your tummy.



If he does not take a pacifier or if you are nursing, it is ok to have him sleep with you so long as you know the safety tips. You will be surprised at how well he will sleep if he is in contact with you. Actually, you might not be surprised at all since you already see how he will sleep when somebody is holding him! I think the key is for YOU to get the most sleep. I recommend the path of least resistance! At least til you are feeling better. Then you can continue to try ways to get him to sleep more on his own.



And don't worry too much about things that you need to get done right now, they will eventually get done. :-)



If you can, sleep when he sleeps. Perhaps nap alongside of him in a safe place where he cannot roll off.  My kids used to take amazing naps when I napped with them. I also used to lay with them then sneak away to get a few things done and they thought I was still there.



I would not let him cry it out. He is so little right now. It has a real physical and emotional toll. The less babies cry the more they flourish and grow. It is simply his way of telling you he needs you. It can be very frustrating and tiring for you, I know, but the more secure he feels the happier he will be. Plus you will bond with him more, the more contact you have with him.



If you are ever at wit's end, you can put him down in a safe place and leave the room, count to 10 or something, until you are calm and ready to try again. I've done that and it really helps.



Good luck with everything!  And hang in there! You are his #1. Nobody can do for him like you, and I'm sure you are doing a super job.



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You can try wearing a snugly or a sling. I know that is hard but your hands are free to get things done. Deep breaths this will pass.

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Don't let a newborn cry...he needs you. Maybe try an infant carrier while he sleeps you can keep him close and go about your day :)

Beth - posted on 02/02/2009

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from what i've read, you cannot spoil a baby that young. Babies cry when they need something even if it's just comfort. You don't want to let them cry it out at this point because you want them to feel confident that you'll take care of their needs. Starting at around 6 months is the recommended cry it out age. Have you tried swaddling your baby boy? There is a good method outlined in the Happiest Baby on the Block book that gives you 5 tools to calm fussy babies. Some babies do need to be held more than others though so enjoy it while it lasts if that's the case!

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Heather - posted on 02/11/2009

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Not sure who told you that you were spoiling your 3 week old baby, but they are wrong! He is 3 weeks outside of the womb and the world is still a new scary place for him. Try swadling him. My son startled himself awake often and since it was summer I didn't swadle him. I wish I would have cranked up the A/C and swadled him. Are you breast feeding? He may actually be hungry (I know it sounds crazy) but it is a possibility. If you know that he is not hungry he may just need a paci to soothe himself with the sucking action.



I'm leaning strongly towards he just too young to cry it out. If he is crying right now he needs something. Even if that something is just your arms. Best of luck Katy.

Jennifer - posted on 02/11/2009

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Babies are not spoiled when you hold them until they are at least 6 months old. They need to know that they can count on you to be there for them. Don't forget, that little guy doesn't know what anything is yet including spoiling but he will remember that you won't come when he needs you. Hold him and interact with him as much as you can during the day. This will set up the day, night schedule for him and show him that when its dark, you won't give him the attention because it isn't play time. NEVER think that you are spoiling a child by picking him up and holding him!

Jessie - posted on 02/11/2009

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I wasn't paying attention to the age ... my goodness girl ... you better love and hold that baby until they get a little older ... enjoy having an infant bc it doesn't last long!  when he gets about 2-3 months old and is having the same problem ... worry about it then .. and 3 weeks old he is still trying to adjust to being outside of his mommy's tummy!



 

Jessie - posted on 02/11/2009

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i know it is VERY HARD but i had the same problem with my lil girl and you just have to let him cry until he puts himself to sleep ... I did it for one night and she would cry but never like the first time ... just remember this ... they have to learn how to put themselves to sleep ... if they don't they are ALWAYS going to need you to do it ... you are not hurting him you are helping them!  I know its hard but I PROMISE the outcome if you can hold through will be such a blessing ... my baby girl is almost 3 and she falls asleep on her own and has been since she was 3 months old ... i still rock her for about one or two songs and then she crawls into her bed and she sometimes sings and plays with her "night nights" but she will go to sleep when she is ready!



you need to make sure you have a "bedtime routine" that will help him out to and let him know "hey its time for bed!"



 



I hope this helps and i will be praying for you and your baby boy!

Nathalie - posted on 02/11/2009

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It is hard when they have a difficult time putting themselves to sleep, but be patient. 3 weeks is very, very young they are not going to sleep for more than +/- 2 hours at a clip. Do not worry about spoiling him you are not.

What worked for me with my first was to first make sure he was tightly swaddled, a little white noise in the back ground, and when he did cry (assuming he is fed, and dry) I would rub his back gently - to let him know I was there. You can try putting him to sleep swaddled in something you have recently worn. You smell helps to sooth. That did the trick for me most of the time Do not pick him up!!! I do not think he is old enough to let scream. By the way he is a cutie! Good luck

Stephanie - posted on 02/11/2009

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My daughter wouldn't sleep anywhere except on either my chest or her fathers the first two nights, we went for a car ride to the hospital and she slept like a baby in her car seat, our dr. suggested we just bring the carseat in with us put it next to the bed, she slept like a baby in that with her blankets tucked in tight around her until she was almost 2 months old....good luck!

Tricia - posted on 02/11/2009

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hiya,some babies feel a little insecure so if u wrap him tighly (not too)the babe should fell more secure,however,some boys are really hungry,mine were.little bits and often,i felt like me eyes were on my knees,lol

Kristen - posted on 02/11/2009

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With my 1st baby (he was pretty needed), we got a sleep positioner that was snug around him and then we would heat it with a heating pad.  It sort of made him think he was still being held.  By the time he noticed he was in his crib, he was too comfy to care.  I lucked out with baby #2..  He's a great sleeper - but we did buy the sleep positioner again when I was pregnant, just in case.  My doc suggested it.  I would try it - you have nothing to lose.  Good luck!

Kristen - posted on 02/11/2009

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With my 1st baby (he was pretty needed), we got a sleep positioner that was snug around him and then we would heat it with a heating pad.  It sort of made him think he was still being held.  By the time he noticed he was in his crib, he was too comfy to care.  I lucked out with baby #2..  He's a great sleeper - but we did buy the sleep positioner again when I was pregnant, just in case.  My doc suggested it.  I would try it - you have nothing to lose.  Good luck!

Kristen - posted on 02/11/2009

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With my 1st baby (he was pretty needed), we got a sleep positioner that was snug around him and then we would heat it with a heating pad.  It sort of made him think he was still being held.  By the time he noticed he was in his crib, he was too comfy to care.  I lucked out with baby #2..  He's a great sleeper - but we did buy the sleep positioner again when I was pregnant, just in case.  My doc suggested it.  I would try it - you have nothing to lose.  Good luck!

Brandie - posted on 02/11/2009

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I would never let a baby that young cry...i just had my 3rd little man he is 6 months now.   Are u breast feeding?  U may need to supplement?  If not it may be the formula?  I tried many different formulas with my boys and for some reason the isomil seemed to do the trick...when i found the right formula for them they were soo happy and content!  I hope this helps and its worth a try cuz it sounds like something is not settling well with ur little man?

Rene - posted on 02/11/2009

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is he eating really well, on formula, you may need to switch it, carnation good start is easier on them , my son couldn't digest regular one, took me 6 months to get him to sleep 4-5 hours, good luck

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i am a mom of 3, 13,11, 8, is he eating okay, are you breast feeding, if so i think he is hunger, i would get him to your doctor, no new baby only sleeps 30 minutes. go with your gut, he is not spoiled at 3 weeks.



Quoting Katy:

I am a first time mom of a 3wk 1day old spoiled little boy. He will not sleep more than 30mins at a time in his bed before he starts crying. He goes back to sleep easily as long as someone is holding him. I know I need to let him cry it out but is he too young to let scream? How long do I let him cry?





 

Tonya - posted on 02/11/2009

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hold your baby. do kittens or puppies sleep alone? why would we do that to our babies? do mothers of apes let their baby cry it out at 3weeks old? come on. lets get back to the basics of what we are. we are mammals!!!! we need to hold our babies, nurse our babies and sleep close to our babies.

Tonya - posted on 02/11/2009

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hold your baby. do kittens or puppies sleep alone? why would we do that to our babies? do mothers of apes let their baby cry it out at 3weeks old? come on. lets get back to the basics of what we are. we are mammals!!!! we need to hold our babies, nurse our babies and sleep close to our babies.

Marcie - posted on 02/11/2009

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I have a 7 1/2 year old little boy & I don't think you can spoil a baby if you already love him a lot. If you don't lay down the law for yourself & your baby, then he wil never learn & will always want to be picked up when you need your rest. I never spoiled my son when he was a baby in 2001, there's no such thing. I used to wake my son up around 2 in the morning to breastfeed him which stopped when he was 2 months old. I would wake-up for breakfast, either my mom made it or I did, then my son woke-up, breastfeed him, put him back to bed cuz he was already a sleep, then I would go back to sleep. There's nothing to it. If your son cries, let him cry, it's good for his lungs. What I used to do with my son was sing lullaby's to him while he was in his crib & he fell a sleep. I hope this information helps.



Marcie Redford

Skylur - posted on 02/11/2009

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At that age you can not spoil a baby. You want him to build confidance in you and when you allow them to "cry it out" it can ruin that trust and confidance. They don't start learning cause and effect until they are about 6-8 months old. Try swadelling him when you put him in his bed which simulates the womb. All that extra space in the crib can be overwhelming for a newborn. Also try something that vibrates in the cribe, first years makes something like that for cribs. Also try something that makes white noise which will also sooth him.

Emma - posted on 02/11/2009

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hi my baby was the same at that age i didnt let him cry i would just rock him or cuddle him then very gently put him in his moses while rocking him he stopped doing it after about a month he now goes down easily with his teddy n blankey hope this helps!

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remember he is young he is use to being right next to you and is very scared when he finds himself alone. I have don a lot of search about letting them cry and its actually not good for them it makes them feel abandoned among many other things. give it time he will adjust, when my daughter wants to snuggle at night i just remind myself that one day she will want to be on her own and i try to enjoy every moment of snuggling.

Corinne - posted on 02/11/2009

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When you allow him to sleep in your arms does he lie flat? My little guy had the same problem. I would lie him down, after he was sleeping and then he would just wake up and cry. This went on for about a month or more. He ended up having a little lactose intolerance and lying him down would make him uncomfortable. Have you ever tried Ovol drops for gas pains? Worked for me! Good Luck!

Rosealinda - posted on 02/11/2009

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well first of all congrats on the new bundle of joy.My name is Rosealinda and i have 4 kids and im only 24,so to help u out do u have those thermol blankets,those r get to wrap him up in they're the best,and yeah he is not old enough to just let him cry it out but remember that crying for is good for babies it strenghin there lungs so it is good for them to cry,there is diffenetly something wrong if he's cryin himself to sleep for over 15 minutes.Also try some mylicon medicine it comes in a green lil box and give him what it says,it for excessive gas.if he startels himself he just might want to be wrapped tight.hope this helps u,good luck.

Donna - posted on 02/11/2009

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i don't know if you have a baby swing. but with both my children, they slept much longer if i put them in the swing when they were that little.

Donna - posted on 02/11/2009

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i don't know if you have a baby swing. but with both my children, they slept much longer if i put them in the swing when they were that little.

Traci - posted on 02/11/2009

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Just be careful!  I used to run a day care and one of my parents held her daughter to the point of craziness.  If you hold him all the time, he will get used to it and expect it.  She had to hold her daughter while cleaning, eating, sleeping, even going to the bathroom!  I'm not sure which of these suggestions you'll try, but please don't become a victim of your child.  You will start to get aggrevated and neither one of you will be happy.

Christa - posted on 02/11/2009

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First congratulations! I know a newborn has a totally different schedule and it can be tiring. I do think he is too young to scream for long. At this point in his life his crying is just letting you know he has a need. My 1st born was that way, I learned to hold her softly until she fell asleep and I laid her in her crib next to a soft blanket so she would feel like she was next to me. Try that and see what happens. I also let her sleep on her tummy. I know studies say not to, but she would sleep much longer that way and would just keep checking on her to make sure she was still breathing. I know of a lot of mothers who discovered that this works. I wish you the best. Hang in there!

Nicole - posted on 02/11/2009

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By the way, both of my girls slept through the night from birth but they had me right there for them....

Nicole - posted on 02/11/2009

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I am one of those moms who allowed my kids to sleep with me and when I witnessed a mom just putting her baby in the crib and walking away, it amazed me.I was just too scared to have my babies that far from me. I think letting your baby "cry it out" will definatly make it feel abandoned. I also think that babies should not be independent. As a mom, I think I should be there anytime my baby needs me especially when it comes to comfort. My girls are now 6 and 12 and let me tell you...You wont always be able to baby them. They will start pulling away in their own time.These are the times that go soooo fast and you can never get them back so enjoy it and hold on to every moment!!!:-)

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He's too little to let him cry it out. you should talk to your doctor. you could also try to prop up the crib with pillows under the mattress. He might have an ear infection and doesn't like to lay down because of the pressure

Lisa - posted on 02/11/2009

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I agree with some of the other posts - try swaddling him.  It seems super uncomfortable to adults, but most babies just love it, it calms them down and keeps them calm.  We swaddled our daughter all the time when she was wee, and it made a world of difference.  Also, eventually he may need to cry it out, but not at 3 wks.  He doesn't have the neurological development to soothe himself yet - so that is why he cries for you!  Don't worry, just love him and cuddle/nurse when necessary and as he gets a bit older you can reconsider leaving him to cry.

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put him down on his own in his own bed and as long as he is fed and has a dry bum there is no reson why he cannot sleep thought the night

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swaddling may work

i am a mum of four girls and dont think he is to young i let all of mine cry and they are sleeped thought the night from a few months some say white noise works a hoover left on or low music may help

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swaddling may work

i am a mum of four girls and dont think he is to young i let all of mine cry and they are sleeped thought the night from a few months some say white noise works a hoover left on or low music may help

Shelly - posted on 02/11/2009

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I agree with the other ladies. He is way to young to let him "cry it out"  I didn't try that until my girls were 3month. The front carrier worked for me!

Rebecca - posted on 02/11/2009

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it is totally impossible to spoil a 3 week old. welcome to motherhood and lots of sleepless times ;)



there could be any number of things (and not always the same thing) causing him to wake that regularly. for one thing, he may not have got his full feed and need more feeding - for example, sometimes babies drop off before they are finished feeding, you need to keep rousing them gently until they have had enough. for a 3 week old breast fed baby this means they need to feed for 1/2 hour on each breast before the feed is over (and yes when they are this tiny it is normal to spend 8 hours a day breastfeeding). i am not sure of the timing for bottle feedings as i didn't bottle feed when they were so young, but any how it is much easier to tell when they have the right amount from a bottle (but i recommend breast feeding if there is no reason that you cannot).



in the day, i did use the sling quite a lot with my baby, so they were close to me and i could still get things done. i also put them down in the pram before they were asleep but when drousy and rock them to sleep. babies need to be close to their mothers to grow into confident children, this should never be considered spoiling by any stretch of the imagination.



try to get as much rest as you can, as much support as you can, i know it is exhausting, but the first 6 weeks are the hardest, then until they are 3 months it is still really hard going, but by the time they are 6 months old it gets to be much easier, so please do hang in there.



a mothers touch is soooo important to a small baby's well being. however, i think Vicki Freeland had some good suggestions also!



another thing to check is winds and/or colic, for which you can do things like massaging the tummy in a clockwise direction with baby oil or similar product suitable for small babies, as well as cycling his legs against his tummy. plus if you are breastfeeding, you can drink fennel tea as this helps them with digestion, or if you are not breastfeeding, put a bit of fennel tea in his formula. just crush a few seeds of fennel or use the actual plant (herb) steeped in hot water until cool. it has a mild liquorice taste.



also check that there are no drafts where he is sleeping. swaddle him as someone else has also suggested -- it really makes a huge difference. he should be bound up nice and tight and tucked into his blanket.



make sure he is not too hot or too cold, as any discomfort will make them cry.



He is definitely too young to let him cry it out (yes, i know you are tired -- i hope you have help because it is pretty overwhelming being a new mother). You should not let them cry it out until 6 months, but I left it to one year because when I tried six months with my eldest it didn't really work, so gave it up as a bad idea.

Kelly - posted on 02/11/2009

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as cruel and as horrible as this might sound, if u dont let your baby cry and sleep when he/she is supposed to now while they are young and waiting for their routine of life the harder it gets. My first baby would not sleep unless she was attached to me (lying on my chest that is, not suckling n my boob just lying listening to my heart beat I think) she would not sleep..... PERIOD!!!!! Until my mother inlaw incouraged me to to do control crying, I think she would still need to sleep if not attached to me , but still close by... As horrible and as cruel as u might feel by letting your baby cry, it is a healthy thing... to an extent... But if you do have worry's or concerns ask your baby health care clinic, i'm sure they will agree... good luck and remember, having a baby is the best and most rewarding experience any girl can have, regardless of mistakes or fears.... MOTHERHOOD IS ALL ABOUT LIVING AND LEARNING, AND LOVING...

Jessica - posted on 02/11/2009

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Three weeks is still really young to cry it out. I let my daughter sleep with me, and I rested when she did. She hated to be swaddled because she liked having her arms free and would suckle on her hand. I started putting her in her crib to sleep at a little before three months and she is fine. I also had a co-sleeper right next to my bed and that thing was a lifesaver. She is almost 5 months now and I just started letting her cry it out. Cherish this time and closeness you can share with your baby. They need it. It will pass trust me.

Angel - posted on 02/11/2009

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A baby cannot be spoiled at this age. He only knows what he needs. He can't differentiate that from what he wants. Be patient, mama! I would also second the swaddling idea!

Angel - posted on 02/11/2009

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A baby cannot be spoiled at this age. He only knows what he needs. He can't differentiate that from what he wants. Be patient, mama! I would also second the swaddling idea!

Megan - posted on 02/11/2009

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'crying it out' damages their brain. if it doesn't feel right to him to lay down to sleep alone, shouldn't that tell you something isn't right? try laying down in your bed with him (safely so he can't roll out) remember he was IN your belly for nearly 10 months. you need to reassure him that you're there still for him and that you always will be. Good luck!

Amy - posted on 02/11/2009

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He is definitely WAY too young to cry it out. You shouldn't even think of implementing that until he is at least 4 months old. Babies his age gernerally cry when they NEED something...even if it is just to be held.

Amy - posted on 02/11/2009

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He is definitely WAY too young to cry it out. You shouldn't even think of implementing that until he is at least 4 months old. Babies his age gernerally cry when they NEED something...even if it is just to be held.

Linda - posted on 02/11/2009

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He is not spoiled. He is way tooo young for that. Is he colicky. Check his diet or does he have to much gas. At this age you don't let them cry it out long at all. Try swaddling him, he will get the same sensation of someone holding him.

Ann - posted on 02/11/2009

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OMG!!! 3wks and 1day and you call him spoiled already, poor baby he can probably pick up on the fact that your not feeling quite right with him and feels uncomfortable. Since nursing a baby is how we show them love, when has it been a crime too love someone too much, and he is adorable i don't know why you would want to let him cry.

Hold him and love him as much and as long as you can, he will grow up so quickly before your eyes and before you know it, it will be too late to get it back, cherish every moment with him and enjoy him because he wont want to be held for the rest of his life

Krystal - posted on 02/11/2009

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get the book "the happiest baby on the block" by dr. karp.  it helped me when my daughter was a baby. have you tried swaddling.  i swaddled my kids with a pacifier and put them to sleep in a swing. the motion is something babies like b/c it recreates the motion in the womb. also try some white noise.  hope this helps.  good luck

Tasha - posted on 02/11/2009

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Quoting Katy:

I am a first time mom of a 3wk 1day old spoiled little boy. He will not sleep more than 30mins at a time in his bed before he starts crying. He goes back to sleep easily as long as someone is holding him. I know I need to let him cry it out but is he too young to let scream? How long do I let him cry?



hey i'm a mom of 5 children and i had this problem with all of them. i know that it's very hard top see someone so cute just ball and ball but, it's ok. if you don't let him cry it out abit he will be like this for as long as he wants.i still have to rock my 2 year old to sleep not to mentoin he is more then 50 pounds. i know there so cute but just try and see how long it will take him to cry himself to sleep. it does'nt mean your not a bad mom it just means your giving him some independence. i made this mistake 5 times he'll still love you and you will have a bit of sanity.

Tasha - posted on 02/11/2009

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Quoting Katy:

I am a first time mom of a 3wk 1day old spoiled little boy. He will not sleep more than 30mins at a time in his bed before he starts crying. He goes back to sleep easily as long as someone is holding him. I know I need to let him cry it out but is he too young to let scream? How long do I let him cry?



hey i'm a mom of 5 children and i had this problem with all of them. i know that it's very hard top see someone so cute just ball and ball but, it's ok. if you don't let him cry it out abit he will be like this for as long as he wants.i still have to rock my 2 year old to sleep not to mentoin he is more then 50 pounds. i know there so cute but just try and see how long it will take him to cry himself to sleep. it does'nt mean your a bad mom it just means your giving him some independence. i made this mistake 5 times he'll still love you and you will have a bit of sanity.

Francesca Maria - posted on 02/11/2009

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Hi my name is Francesca Maria I had the same problem with one of my kids. I tried everything and you know what I did? It's simple, you have to put something of yours,like the top of a pigiama on his pillow,because he smells your perfum of mom! Try it out!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Celeste - posted on 02/11/2009

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He is too small to cry it out,wait at least till he's 6 months old before doing that. because at the moment he needs your nurturing and doesnt understand that if u leave him to cry that u will come back. U could maybe give him a wind down cry of a few minutes to make him tired and then settle him in his cot.

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Dear Ms. Shipp, Don't let your baby cry. He has just come into a world and comforting him lets him know at a very core that this world is a safe place to be. Children at this very early age only realize the world in a way of how it makes them feel. I have two girls and I comforted them by talking, singing or just acknowledging that they were distressed in some way even if I couldn't get to them right away. Research says that you cannot spoil a child by comforting them until about 4 months. I believe(from personal experience) that the more you do now, by way of comforting them and not letting them cry for more than 3 to 5 minutes I say. (10 minutes research says) that your child will be OK. You take care and give that beautiful baby boy and the love and attention he needs now and he will be so independent later.

Celeste - posted on 02/11/2009

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Usually they go through sleep cycles,and wake up before going into the next cycle. Grown ups also do that,but we go straight back to sleep, where babies tend to wake up and think they are finished sleeping. Try to resettle your little one by body rocking in the cot or patting his bottom till he is drowsy again,avoiding eye contact. Dont get him out of bed yet as he has to learn wthat u expect him to stay in his cot for at least an hour

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