i am a stepmom who wants a child of my mom

Maddy - posted on 06/29/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )




I recently talked to my husband about us having a child of our own. We have 2 kids who are my step children and his kids from a previous marriage. When we first started dating i discussed with him if he would ever want to get married again or have anymore children he answered yes to both. I continued to bring it up with him a few times throughout our relationship just to be reassured and he did at times too. But just the other day i decided to sit down with im so we could have a serious conversation about it to make sure we were still on the same page because he seemed to shy away from it lately if someone brought up about us having a child. So we did sit down and talk. Now he is telling me that he isnt sure right now due to finances and that i am making him feel bad because he can't provide me with what i want which is a child. I was completely caught off guard! I thought this is what he wanted now he is telling me he hopes we can but right now just can't do it. Said he has done this before (meaning having children) and he knows how expensive they are. We both work and yes he does pay child support. I tell him that i am not saying i want to try next month but i so badly want a baby, a child of my own, with him. He tried to make me feel guilty by tellng me that he cant believe i am making him feel bad because we can't financially afford it and it started a huge argument. I kept telling him that this will work out we will find a way. Personally i thought we are doing pretty good for ourselves. I mean we are not rich at all and of course we do have bills and a little debt but nothing major. I just dont want to look back after another 4- 5 years from now and i still dont have a child. I just dont know what to do. I am so afraid we wil never have a child together, that i will never have a baby that i so preciously want. I do love my step kids but i just dont want to take care of another womans children for the rest of my life and not have any of my own. they do have a bio mom who they spend most of their times with per divorce decree

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