I am not a mom. I am a dad. I need advice.

Jeffrey - posted on 10/02/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Since everything I search over the net seems to lean towards dads who are non-custodial and don't want to pay child support. I am a dad who has my son 5 days a week. I work full time in a family business where I have the privilege of bringing him to work where he sees his cousins, aunt, uncle, grandparents every day after school. His mom gets him Tuesday nights and Friday nights. She chose a bar-tending "profession". Well, along with the bar-tending came the drugs, alcoholism, and now eviction. Needless to say, now she feels she is entitled to child support because she cant afford her apartment on her own. She doesn't seem to feel that being fired from 3 bars for drinking on the job has anything to do with it. Either does the attempted suicide that lost her the last job because she was hospitalized. Can anyone out there put my mind at ease in wanting to go for full custody at this time. I feel a little insensitive but I am not seeking child support. I have payed for everything from day one including getting her a matching crib for her house. She feels that I should have to make her living conditions as good as mine since I live a 3 bedroom house and pay a mortgage. I provide full healthcare, all summer camp, best school in town, dentist, eyeglasses, etc. etc. etc. I don't mind paying for all of it since I can. Is a judge going to be nicer to her because I have a job, diploma, and a well paying career and she doesn't have a home, GED, or money. I am going insane here. Maybe even an ulcer coming on. I make 3k a month and she was at 1200.00 with food stamps if that helps. We were never married so there is NO ALIMONY. I do help. I furnished her house with couches bedroom sets, but they are now pretty destroyed. Cats can ruin everything.


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Amy - posted on 10/02/2012




Why would you have to pay child support if she only gets your son 2 nights a week? It wouldn't make sense in my opinion for a judge to order you to pay her when you have the child 90% of the time.

Brittney - posted on 10/02/2012




I don't know much about this, but I would say do to the living conditions and habits, it should be easy for you to get full custody. I don't think a judge is going to be nice to her because of the job situation (you said she has been fired from 3 jobs), drugs, alcoholism, and that she barely has a home. Good luck!

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