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I am so angry about my CHILD support order! I can scream...

Carol - posted on 01/19/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My ex and I had a baby. He abandoned us. He has never been in my child's life. For a while he was giving money to us when she was young but it was here and there.. not dependable... I didn't try to cause issues and in his life so I let him give us money when he said he "could"... I didn't want to be the typical baby mama. He told me that he didn't have any money so I said... don't worry I will give you time to pay... He didn't pay anything to me for an entire year... the next year I ask him to start helping me and he started giving me money here and there... finally I said to him... why can't you give me anything toward her.. he said that he didn't have anything. I said to him...20.00 a month would help.. that is pullups for her..and at least I know you are trying... well he stopped sending anything at all...SO I finally gave up and filed for child support last year.. It has taken a YEAR without anything from him and finally I just got a judgement and an order. He appeared in court and tried to get out of it.. finally I received the order. DEFAULT ORDER OF SUPPORT.. He didn't give them ANY of his income information.. nothing.. so they went of my income and the support is very low. I just wanted this...!@@#!@# to be fair. He couldn't..It wasn't about the money, it was about responsibility of taken care of his child...HE CHEATED HIS CHILD... WHAT A B_____! I waited until she was 6!!! to take him to court and most women would have taken him a lot earlier... I am so angry....He lives in a HUGE house in GA... HAS another HOME in DC... and doesn't want to help me with his own daughter at all... NOW miss NICE is GONE.. He wants to be a !@#@!# then so will I. I am sooooo p.... He better be on TIME every month.. if he doesn't I am filing for contempt... and in three years... I am going back for more.. I want every penny that he owes my daughter now.... BEING NICE DOESN'T WORK. I AM A FOOL... I won't be any more... He doesn't know how assertive I can be... He is about to find out... I don't know how he sleeps at night... Karma is going to get him...

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Carol - posted on 01/19/2016

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He has to send it to DCSS... until he has an income deduction order from his job... He refused to give them any information... so they don't know. I calmed down.. I was just so angry.. I am glad I finally did this.. I waited because I was hoping we could co parent like adults.. without the courts getting involved.. I was trying to give him a chance.. I really wasn't trying to cheat my child.. we made her and I was hoping we could work together... That he would take care of her even though we wasn't together.. I was so stupid.. I understand now.

Carol - posted on 01/19/2016

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no I just got the child support order... Ok. I need to go after the custody and visitation order... I understand.

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