I can't get my bf to spend time with my 3 kids

Lori - posted on 12/08/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )




I've been dating my boyfriend now for almost 2 years and have lived together for 1 of those years. My boyfriend has no problem with disciplining my children or making them clean things up but when it actually comes down to him doing anything such as playing a game or going to the park or reading a book to them or even watch TV with them it's like pulling teeth with him. My 10 year old daughter has a lung disease called cystic fibrosis, type 1 diabetes and anxiety disorder so she is a huge handful to handle. She was diagnosed with diabetes March 31st 2013 and since then has become somewhat depressed since she HATES needles. For some reason my boyfriend is especially hard on her and I don't know how or if I should stop it. Now the reason why I say how or should is because my daughter has longed for her father to be in her life for as long as I can remember and he's too busy playing mind games with her and blaming me for her not seeing him. She LOVES my boyfriend and quiet frankly I really don't know why with how hard he is on her. I'm stuck with trying to figure out what would be best for her. I also have two boys. A 7 and 4 year old. He's not nearly as hard on my boys then he is my daughter but yet my boys don't go to him for anything cause they know if they do their just going to be rejected by him by him telling them to go away or go downstairs or go outside our go inside. The other night I talked my boyfriend into putting the lights on the Christmas tree while he made my 7 year old clean the living room. After he got all the lights up, my 7 year old went up to him and asked can we put the ornaments on together and he flat out said no you have to do that with your mom. We don't really go out anymore because all of the times in the past that he wanted to go out he always wanted to leave the kids behind. Even for road trips that he has suggested doing. I don't know how to feel or think about all this. I can't help but feel like he's using me cause my parents helped me buy the house that ended us up moving into together. I seriously need advice please. Good or bad

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