i dont no what to do to keep him around

Lashea - posted on 08/19/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )




He comes and goes when he wants and he thinks its ok to mentally abuse me and he has his friends talk bad to me he dont wanna see his own son and i dont no what to do anymore.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/20/2015




Do you have custody, and support established? If not, do so. If so, stop letting him control you, and tell him that he has to abide by the court ordered visitation times and terms.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/19/2015




Then don't let him. Change the locks, tell him to call in advance before coming over...and instead of letting him into your home....meet him somewhere public. I am saying this assuming he does not live with you, but we need more information.

Lynn - posted on 08/19/2015




Your post is pretty short and not really clear of what it is you need help with. But I'm guessing its your baby's father.

So I would say, if you don't like the way he treats you and you guys are not together then don't bother with him. If he wants to see his son, let him. Try this for 6 months. If he doesn't show any interest or doesn't come around to see his son document this and then go file for full legal and physical custody. Once you have that in place wait another 6 months and continue to allow him to see his son, even if he doesn't. Then in 1 year after you allowing him to see his son and he declines you can take him to court for child support.

It makes a better case and is easier rewarded when you can show of all the steps you went to, to cooperate with him and it shows that even after a year aside from that he doesn't see his son that he also has yet to financially support.

If you do this you won't have to deal with his friends or his mental abuse. you may never get him to engage with his son but at least you will get some kind of financial support.

hopefully this helps.

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