I feel like my 23yr daughter wants to move out

Rosa - posted on 09/16/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




My daughter is 23 yrs old, is a full time student & works full time as well. She has a boyfriend but she has not presented him to my husband or I. She has been staying overnight at her friends house at least 3x a week. My husband has had enough with her staying at anyone's house. I'm not naive & know that she is sleeping over her boyfriends house. She's not doing anything wrong like alcohol, drugs or partying..
One of my issues is if she moves out will she still continue to go to college.
I feel that my relationship with my husband is taking a toll on us due to always arguing about her not being home..
I would like some feedback on this..


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Michelle - posted on 09/16/2015




I agree with Dove, she either pays rent or moves out.
If she's staying with her boyfriend then maybe they should move out together.

Dove - posted on 09/16/2015




At 23 she needs to either be paying rent to stay at home... or moving out. There is nothing wrong w/ her choosing to sleep elsewhere part of the time, but the rental agreement would be the same whether she sleeps at home full time or part time... and if she is not going to sleep at home a call to let you know would be respectful.

If she is 23 years old and working full time... there is no reason in the world why she can't get out on her own. If you want her to continue living in your home you need to sit down and write up a contract that all the adults in the household can agree on... otherwise she needs to make alternate living arrangements.

At 23... her life choices are her decision and she can be fully responsible for the consequences of those decisions.

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