I feel like my husband is a roommate, and not even a good one...


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Jodi - posted on 01/05/2016




If I were in your shoes, I would consider some couples counselling to try and fix this broken relationship. And if he refused, I'd call it quits. Sorry but he has checked out, and you shouldn't have to sacrifice your happiness to stay in a marriage that isn't even a marriage any more. You deserve to be happy (you both do) and clearly that is not happening. I think it is time for action.

Jen - posted on 01/05/2016




Sorry, got pulled away by my 10 year old lol.
My husband and I have been married 11 years, together for 13 years. I have a total of maybe 4 months of married happy times with him. I live with a man who sleeps on the couch, only comes in the bedroom to shower or try to have sex once a month. I cannot have sex with a person who i have no intimacy with. The fire begins with intimacy. I have explained this over and over. I feel like a hooker, when he just comes in for 30 minutes and as soon as its over...GONE. Goes back to the couch. I have even emailed him, as when I try to have an adult conversation, he groans, rolls his eyes, looks at the ceiling, the laptop, like a child in school who is in trouble with the teacher.
He spends money without asking about bills, is completely dependent on me,
When I have needed his shoulder or support, he has not been there for me. Recently he told me that when we met he was still in love with his ex girlfriend and thought I could help him get over her. This was the straw that broke the camels back. All that and then the bomb about his ex.
Never wants to mow the lawn, never wants to clean out the garage which is stuffed tot he gills with his ever growing 2 month hobby equipment and garbage. Says his only responsibility is working. He works so he shouldnt have to work at home. Every moment at home he spends on the couch asleep.
I make all the minor repairs in the house. Never a kind word, never a sweet smile, just calls when he is mad about me not buying soda...or asking me for money for gas because he spent it all.

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