I had HELLP Syndrome, and I think I'm going to tie my tubes.

Amanda - posted on 10/11/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




My husband and I planned our first child, and things really didn't go as expected.

I did everything they recommend before getting pregnant, taking prenatal vitamins, eating healthy, and exercising. I work in a fast pace industry so I was always active. Not overweight, and perfectly healthy. I was rarely ever sick, a good weight for my height, and already ate well. I did like sweets and things so I simply cut back on them when we starting trying to have a baby.

My pregnancy was great, I did gain a ton of weight though. I went from 100 lbs to 180 on the day they admitted me for delivery. They put my due date at the end of March - 1st of April.

The last week of February I suddenly started having horrible back pain. All my checkups were fine up till then, so I assumed it was from all the weight I had gained. I went to bed that night, and woke up with the pain still so I decided to go to the doctor. I was told I had HELLP syndrome ( I had no idea how bad it was until after the whole ordeal). my platelets were around 30k which is very low, and protein in my urine, but I don't think my blood pressure was high. And I wasn't at risk of preeclampsia beforehand. I was admitted to the hospital Saturday morning and gave birth to my daughter Monday night. My platelets were constantly going up to a safe level and then dropping again so I had to give birth naturally. C-section was not an option at all.

She was born early, but she was perfectly healthy thank god. I spent a week in the hospital recovering. my platelets took a long time to go back up, and my body was extremely weak from the whole ordeal. I got home a week later, and 4 hours home I was back in the hospital with Pneumonia. That was another week in ICU especially since I also had the flu on top of it all. We already have 2 kids (not by me) so this is our 3rd, but my first. I found out that HELLP was hereditary with me, and honestly I didn't know how risky it was for mothers and babies. I also didn't know I was on the high risk side of the scale.

My daughter is about 8 months now, and I'm constantly afraid that something bad will happen to me if I get pregnant again. I am back on the pill, but I'm so scared that if I try to have another baby she could lose me in the process. I have been thinking of getting my tubes tied. I just don't know how risky that process is, and what goes into the procedure. I just want to be around for her always, so whenever I have an intimate moment I'm scared of going through all that again.

I know if I do it she will be the only child I have, and there will be no turning back. Will going through will it get rid of the constant fear I seem to have with this happening again?


Sarah - posted on 10/11/2016




My best advise is to talk to your doctor. Each pregnancy is different and each pregnancy has risks no matter how much you try to avoid them. Find out the percentage rate that you will develop HELLP again. I have had 4 pregnancies. I developed high blood pressure with my first but never had it with the other 3. My last one I developed gestational diabetes I didn't have it with my first 3. With each pregnancy the risk of both was there just like any other pregnancy it was just the luck of the draw if I would get it or not. So first find out your risk level then decide it that is something you are ok with taking or not. If it is no, then ask questions about tubes being tied. I have not had this done, but did ask about it. To my understanding is it is a pretty simple procedure and I believe you are released the same day.

You will need to grieve that loss. But that does not mean you can't grow your family. Adoption might be a very good option.


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Amanda - posted on 10/11/2016




All I know from this is that so long as I keep that same partner (And I don't plan on changing lol) my risk goes down by 20% but if I have a child with someone else my risk level remains the same as my first pregnancy. We just didn't know because there wasn't a history of it in my family for them to go on before I got pregnant.

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