I have 3 kids, 16, 14, 12, and my 51 year old husband of 20 years has been diagnosed with a chronic, potentially fatal health issue. I don't know how much to tell the kids. Historically, I have been very candid with them, about all sorts of topics, but I don't want to upset them. Any ideas about how to handle this problem?


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Jean - posted on 12/20/2012




I sat them down and explained the chronic condition my husband has. I told them what the possible prognoses are, and let them guide the rest of the conversation. Now they are familiar with what can aggravate the condition and are actively helping me take care of him. I suggested counseling sessions,if they feel comfortable with that, and let them know they can talk to me anytime.

Holly - posted on 11/27/2012




i am very sorry for this, I wish i knew the BEST answer for this. other than just coming out annd telling them, there is not much else of a choice. I would suggest having a warm, sit down, conversation. and let them know that they need to spend as much time with their father that they can, because there is no turning back time. I also suggest family counseling, including grief counseling before and after, so that they know how to deal with it, before anything happens

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