i have a 15 month old girl and i want to get her ears pierced. her father who i i havent been with since the day she was born is saying no. do i have to agree with his decision?

Katie - posted on 03/29/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




Hello i am knew to the circle and i need some opinions. I have a soon to be 15 month old daughter and i would love to get her ears pierced. i talked to her father who i haven"t been with since the day she was born, and will never be with, but he said no to the idea. Do i have to listen to him or as her mother can i make the decision. she only sees her father every other weekend so i make most of the decisions for her anyway. what do you think


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Katie - posted on 03/29/2012




Thank you to all you moms and your opinions. As a new mother i feel it is important to know and get an idea of other mothers who have more experience and knowledge on being a parent. I have put thought into all of your advice and have decided to let her decide when she wants her ears pierced.

thank you again,


Iridescent - posted on 03/29/2012




Since you asked him, I'd respect his input and ask him his reasons at least. If they're reasonable, hold off. It sounds like you already have a custody arrangement, and I'd be pretty upset if my ex had a child of mine (as the mom) and took them for their first haircut, and that's not even a permanent body modification.

Isobel - posted on 03/29/2012




Welcome to Com...just a little friendly warning: this topic tends to get a little heated. When it starts to heat up, don't take it personally...it's just one of those things.

As for your question, You don't need a father's permission to pierce your child but I really wish you would reconsider and wait until she is old enough to decide for herself whether or not SHE wants to pierce them.

Brittney - posted on 03/29/2012




I personally would ask why he doesn't want them pierced. I wont get my daughters done until she asks for it and we have allergies to metals in the family, so it is very likely she wont be able to wear them anyway. But since he still sees her, he might take them out while she is over at his house and they wont heal properly, so it is important to be on the same page. Sorry, I'm not telling you what to do. You can do it if you want to, but I say that he still has a right in the matter as well. Good luck with the decision and maybe someone else can help you more.

Amy - posted on 03/29/2012




I think since you asked his opinion you should respect it. If you want them pierced that badly maybe discuss an age that he feels would be more appropriate.

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