i have a 3 and 1/2 year old daughter who eats nothing.i have taken her to every doctor i know and all there test came back normal,i need help


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Angela - posted on 12/09/2012




A mother's work is never easy. Your daughter is at normal weight for a four year old (she is 3 1/2) depending on her height. What foods have you tried feeding her?

There are Therapist that can help with picky feeders, if this is what is going on with her?

It is not healthy at her age with a bottle. It can cause her serious health issues with her teeth. Take the bottle away, she will lose weight, but will put it back on later. If she is getting full from formula and cereal mixed, she is not going to eat. So stop hindering her from solid foods. Give her time she will eat. It may take 40 times serving her peas before she will touch them (first step to eating is to touch or move it around on her plate). Maybe 20 more time before she will taste it and spit it out or place it back on her plate (second step). Let her know at this point it's ok not to like what ever it was that she tasted but reward her by telling her she did a good job trying it. Ten more times thereafter before she eats it (last step and what you want).

When you do serve solid foods:

You sitting down with her (with the same thing she is having) and show her how your eating it too. Makes sure to describe the foods to her like the texture, how it crunches, and stay positive. Give her her own plate and try to give different colored foods so she can see them. Sometimes color can be the key. Make sure the food is not touching because that could be an issue too. Once you find what she likes try to serve it and introduce another. If she likes m&ms try putting them in mashed potatoes where she has to dig them out to eat them. If the texture is ok, you have not only helped her with touching the potatoes but now she has tasted it too. Maybe with candies in it but you have to start from somewhere. Compromise with her. If she taste something new give her a few m&ms after that meal. Don't make it hard think of it as a fun game with her.

Please don't give in after a few days or weeks. Let her know she can't have the bottle or formula with cereal that she is a big girl now. Big girls eat big girl food. Maybe a family member her age can be helpful by being her meal pal.

Dove - posted on 12/09/2012




My son is over 4.5 years old and JUST made 37 pounds.....

At 3.5 years old if she is still on a bottle w/ cereal in it.... I can't imagine any doctor that wouldn't be helping you here. What have they suggested you do?

Start w/ soft things... baby food, applesauce, pudding, etc... Losing weight at that age isn't really a GOOD thing, but give it more than a week. Maybe start w/ a soft spout sippy cup and just make each transition slow. 3 year old kids are very stubborn creatures, so you have to be more stubborn than she is...

Or just keep letting her drink from a bottle forever. Maybe I should do that cuz it took my son 8 months to gain 2 pounds when he eats real food ALL day long. lol

Oneka - posted on 12/09/2012




i did that for about a week she lost almost 2lbs because she didnt want the cup

Amy - posted on 12/09/2012




Your 3 1/2 year old weighs as much as my 6 1/2 year old. Just keep offering food but don't force it she'll eat when she's hungry but I'd get rid of the bottle.

Oneka - posted on 12/09/2012




she is only 40lbs,she still drinks formula with cereal from a bottle an she just refuses

to eat any kind of food.i am really worried,i cant help thinking something is wrong

Michelle - posted on 12/09/2012




Is she just refusing to eat or does she gag, throw up or have other symptoms? Is she putting on weight or in the normal range for her age?

We really need a bit more information.

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