I have a 9 year old son who take food from the kitchen, whne asked about the missing food he says it was not him, eventually we got to the truth but how do i stop it happening again it has happend twice before?


Amanda - posted on 11/07/2011




In my house there is no such thing as stolen food because the food is for everyone to eat. I find it interesting when I hear parents dont understand why their kids are "taking food", because they are prob taking food for the same reason you do. They are hungry.

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By getting to the reason why he is doing this. Is he hungry? Is it junk food that you won't let him have? Etc...

Jane - posted on 11/07/2011




As others say you need to find out why he needs more food than he is getting at meals. He is probably lying because he knows you don't want him to do it.

For my kids I set up a snack cupboard full of healthy things that they could eat any time they were hungry. I stocked it every morning so I knew how much they were eating, so I could be sure they were getting the right foods. As they got older I included items that were a bit more complicated to eat, such as things that needed microwaving.

Having a snack cupboard keeps the kids from going hungry, gives them some independence, and helps keep them out of things I didn't want them to get into.

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Me too, Amanda. Granted, my 3 year old has to ask for most things, but that's cuz he needs help getting them. My almost 10 year olds just help themselves whenever they're hungry.

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Michelle - posted on 11/08/2011




My girls can also eat when they are hungry but they always ask before they help themselves - as I think that shows good manners - mum can I have a yoghurt please, or mum can I have some fruit please, etc. I will always say yes, unless it's just before dinner. However, they are restricted on what "rubbish" food they can eat. I have a "treat cupboard" and, after dinner every day they can choose something from that cupboard. They don't touch it any other time and don't ask to either. It's also a useful tool to deal with certain misbehaviour, for instance, if they are naughty as school they don't get a treat after dinner!

Bellinda - posted on 11/07/2011




He's obviously feeling deprived so stop the feelings of deprivation. We brought our sons up this way & they've never been an ounce overweight in their lives & it even helped some of their friends. We had a 'Lazy Susan' in the middle of the breakfast table where we kept Twinkies, Hostess Cupcakes, candies, chips, cookies, you name it. Then on the kitchen counter we had bowls of fruit & vegetables & in the fridge lots of juices, cakes, pies, sodas & bottles of water. Many people would tell you not to put the cakes, candies & such there but the living proof was how many times mothers called me after my sons went to their homes for Birthday parties telling me they thought my sons were getting sick because they didn't want birthday cake & ice cream....they didn't care if they ate it because better was available @ home BUT because it was available they didn't obsess over having it because it was always there.

Plus...we didn't ever make them finish their plates. If they wanted it later,, it was in the fridge & it was never an issue. Their friends had major issues with foods with parents restricting what they could have & more & more the kids were overweight. Just relax the reigns & make it available but with healthy alternatives next to. He may binge at first but don't worry....he'll level off when he knows it's all there all the time & set a good example.

Amy - posted on 11/07/2011




Why can't he have the food in the kitchen? What is he taking that he can't have? Is it junk food that you don't want him to eat, then don't buy it. But if it's healthy food I don't understand why it is he can't have it, someone might be able to help you better if they knew why you want it to stop.

Kyleigh - posted on 11/07/2011




When my DS9 gets something out he always asks me just so he knows I will be looking for it and then he says opps i ate it, I was going to say something to my dh about missing "snack!" lol My DS is going through a growth spurt somedays hungry as can be eating for a full ARMY then some days not so much. I just told my DS let know know or ask I wont deny him extra food, he is a growing boy and when he is hungry there isn't anything wrong snacking here and there.

Michelle - posted on 11/07/2011




I agree with Teresa - find out why he's doing it. He may be going through a growth spurt and have a sudden increased appetite. If it's because he wants junk food and you limit it perhaps talk to him about why you limit it. In the meantime, I would suggest leaving only certain food, e.g. fruit, and a certain amount out where he can eat it when he wants and locking the rest away. You also have the think, has something upset him that is making him comfort eat at times - how is he doing at school, etc - hopefully it's nothing like that though.

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