I have a son who is 18 and a daughter that is 16 they r both I dependant and I feel they don't need me anymore only for washing cooking and cleaning, how do I show them how it is effecting me and making me feel sad and I feel I am loosing them x


Dove - posted on 07/22/2012




Growing up and being independent is a GOOD thing. You don't want them mooching off of you forever. Though at that age... if you are still doing most of the cooking and cleaning... I'd be changing that REAL fast.

You don't let them know that them growing up makes you sad (though that is a perfectly normal feeling), but instead let them know how proud you are of the mature young adults they are becoming. Clinging to them is a good way to push them away. Instead, celebrate their independence, but reaffirm that you will always be there for them when they need you.


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MeMe---(Past And Present) - posted on 07/22/2012




They are growing up and it is normal for them to be independent. It is time for you to get to know yourself again and find things that make you happy. You have to let your kids grow up and move on, to become adults and be a successful, contributing part to society.

They will always love you. This is how parenthood goes, unfortunately. ;)


If I were you, I would feel good that I raised a pair of kids that are independent and are beginning to take on an adult life. ;)

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