I have anxiety/depression and need advice!Was put on zoloft stopped after 2nd day!

Barbara - posted on 06/11/2010 ( 192 moms have responded )

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I've had anxiety/ panic attack for over two years ever since my son turned 3months. Its gotten alot better but now i just have it when im alone i get a uneasy feeling. My depression is my bigger problem i feel like a zombie and cant stand this feeling. I went to the doctor today after sleepless night, night sweats, anxiety, and not being able to eat for a couple of days. He prescribed me zoloft and im suppose to start tomorrow but am very nervouse it might make me worse. I just wanna be happy i have overcome ocd when i was 11 and anxiety/ panic attack recently. I just have a uneasy feeling with depression and i just want some advice. Should i take it or should i just try something. Btw im only 21 with a two 1/2 year old. My spouse is somewhat understanding and trys his hardest to understand and help. Im a stay at home mom/ student and i have lots of family but not many friend due to the fact i never go anywhere unless i have to. My family is supportive but they dont fully understand and i talk to them alot but dont see them very much. Sorry for such a long explanation just thought i get it all out there so whoever wants to give me good advice knows my full story!

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Gaynor - posted on 06/17/2010

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I see most of the replies say "yay for medicine". Has anybody ever done tests to see if your hormones are out of balance since your pregnancy? Checked your kidneys/adrenal glands? Probably not. Doctors are just too quick to merrily prescribe medicines to suppress the symptoms. There is a quantum biofeedback machine called the SCIO which sends a sonar type of frequency through your body and gets feedback from your body on what areas are out of balance, etc. Have a look on the internet for a practitioner in your area. I had a scan done a few years back and it picked up that I had amoebic dysentry 2 years before that, which I did have (drank water from the tap in Mexico by mistake). Very accurate machine. See what the problem is and treat the root, don't just suppress the symptoms, otherwise you will be on drugs and feel anxious for the rest of your life. My mom is in the same boat at the moment. Now she's addicted to her tranquiliser. Brilliant stuff - thank you modern medicine!

Cindy - posted on 06/17/2010

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The zoloft really helped me. At first, I took it in the morning; but it made me sleepy. Now, I take it before bedtime and it really helps. Talking to someone who has experienced panic attacks may help. Some counseling also may help.
If the zoloft does not work for you, there are many medicines out there that may help. Sometimes it takes awhile before you feel better, so give it at least a month trial. I pray that you find the medication and counseling that will work for you.
I have been on zolft for almost seven years and it really works for me. I adjust the dosage depending on what is going on in my life.

Lexi - posted on 06/15/2010

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Hey Sweety, Big hugs to you and KUDOS for getting help!! That is the biggest and hardest step. Post partum depression (as you've learned) is a serious issue and so hard to deal with. I've been dealing with it too.

--First, take the meds the doctor precribed for you. Your doctor has evaluated your condition and chosen the one he thinks will fit best. It is true that sometimes the 1st med tried isn't the right one or at the right dose. Every body is different and reacts slightly different to the chemicals. It is important to keep a daily log of how you are feeling on the new med and take that with you to your doctor for your re-eval. This will help you and your doctor decide if the med/dosage is right for you. Zoloft is a good medication that can help both depression and anxiety.

--If you feel like the med is having negative side effects call your doctor immediately.

--When you pick up your med at the pharmacy, actually take the time to read that big pamphlet they give you about possible side effects and precautions.

--Remember that it may take some time for the meds to really get into your system and have an effect.

--There are people who struggle with depression from very mild to very sever. Some people do fine without meds, others find exercise helps or other small life changes, others cannot get better without meds. Each person is different and you will find what is best for you. There is nothing shameful or wrong about needing to take meds or the fact that you have this difficulty. So many people feel ashamed and hide it and that only makes it worse.

I know the whole situation is scary but it does get better, I promise! I have struggled with depression and anxiety my entire life. It's hereditary in my family unfortunately. There is situational depression, where something happens to make you depressed for awhile. Chemical depression (what I have) which is life long and "incurable" but treatable. And Postpartum depression of course, which can be long or short term and very treatable.

My story has lots of ups and downs, all really due to going off meds. Post partum I got a lot worse and am only just now able to afford to get on some meds again finally and I am so excited to soon be out of my zombie state and be able to function again.

It's very hard for people who have never dealt with this issue to understand. A lot of people (especially spouses) tend to blame themselves for your unhappiness. They may think "if she's not happy she must not really love me or want to be with me" or "why can't I make her happy, what's wrong with me?" That's the way my husband felt. It took time to reassure him that it wasn't his fault, it's nobody's fault and there is nothing that he alone can do to "fix" me.

It can help to sit down and just talk about it. Tell hubby that you love him and it's not his fault, then give him some specific ways he can help support you. Explain or have him read about what depression is and tell him how it affects you so that he can understand better what you've been dealing with and why. Tell him the side effects listed on your med sheet and ask him to help you watch for changes in your behavior. He sees things from a different perspective and can add his own notes to your daily log.

After 10 years together my husband has lived seen it all with me and he knows what to watch for. He knows what to do when I randomly burst into tears for no reason, when he notices that I haven't hardly gotten out of bed in weeks or when I tell him that I want to hurt myself, he helps me remember to take my pills every day. It's hard for a husband when they don't know how to deal with it, but if you help him know what he can do for you, whether it's a hug, pill reminders, whatever, I'm sure he will be a huge support to you eventually.

You will get through this, it will get better

User - posted on 06/17/2010

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Your gonna hear a lot of people telling you to take Zoloft or try this or that, but the truth is the only person that's going to know if it's right for you is YOU! I am not in the medical field, but I know a lot about depression, anxiety, panic attacks, loss of memory, blackouts, manic episode, ppd, all of that. I am 29 years old and a mother of two boys. I have had clinic depression with bipolar tendencies since I was 13 years old. I have pretty much been through ALL the medications! I even concidered shock therapy for awhile. Is it tough trying out a new medication? Absolutely! Does it suck experiencing side effects? Absolutely! Is it hard swallowing the fact that you have to take meds for the long term? Yes, it really sucks, but you have to really weigh what's going on with you. Do you like feeling anxious and horrible all the time or would you rather take a chance to feel better??? Yes, it take at least 3 weeks for the meds in get into your system and start working, but you can't just stop and start it whenever you feel like it. You have to be consistant and take the pill every single day, at the same time. Or you are not giving the medication a proper chance. If you don't trust yourself to take it put it in a seven day pill planner and (most dr.s recommend you take it at night, which might actually help you sleep.) And have your husband remind you everyday to take your meds. Then after awhile you will notice a difference, but don't stop the meds! Always always talk with your doctor before stopping any medication, because that's when you can experience all kinds of horrible side effects and withdrawl symptoms.
Look the truth is only you are going to know what's right for you. There are other alternatives to medication like Yoga, meditation, and counceling. I have done a lot of meds and a lot of therapy, but do you want to know what has worked the best? Time, patience and a lot of trial and error. I am absolutely sure you're going to be alright. Just talk with your doctor and set a plan that works best for you! Good luck to you and I hope you find peace of mind, I truly do from the bottom of my heart! Nicole

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try Jesus, he gave me hope, and saved me.... I could throw away my Zoloft 100mg... and now through the love of Jesus Christ, have helped others, loved others and in helping comes healing. you can do it. I have faith in youX

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Depression is very normal after pregnancy, and also very normal for any woman, due to our hormones. My daughter is a therapist and thinks Zoloft is a very good drug. Don't expect it to work overnight, though. It takes 4-6 weeks to really get into your system and give you the support you need. It may cause dry mouth and fatigue in the beginning, but you will get used to it. The most common mistake is to try it and then stop when you are about three weeks into it. Don't do that. As with all antidepressants, you can't stop it cold turkey. If you decide to stop, a doctor will have to help you stop it little by little. My best advice is to take it. Your doctor is trying to help you be the best mom you can be by overcoming depression and being healthy and happy for your baby. When you are feeling more well-balanced, I believe the panic attacks will stop, too. Find someone who will listen when you talk. Talk to them about how you're feeling. We usually figure our own problems out when we hear ourselves talk to someone else. Also, journaling is a good strategy. Write down your feelings, even just a paragraph, at the end of the day, or in the morning--whenever you have time. Read it a year from now. You'll be surprised how you've changed in that year. God bless you, your baby, and your husband.

Courtney - posted on 06/17/2010

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if your doctor prescribed that, then take it! he's trying to help you.

i had bad anxiety after my son was born, had a constant knot in my stomach that wouldn't go away. i was eating all the time trying to find a way to feel better...and nothing worked. i went to the doctor, and i told him that i wasn't depressed, just riddled with anxiety. he prescribed me lexapro, which is an anti-anxiety/depression medication and after one day that knot in my stomach was gone, and i felt much better. i lost 11 lbs in a week because i wasn't stress eating like i had been. its been a blessing for me.

Samantha - posted on 06/17/2010

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Hi,
I was in pretty much the same situation! im 21 also, i had depression when i was a teenager but was able to overcome it and then i had my daughter and it came back swinging! i went back to efexor for the 2nd time in my life when my daughter was 2 months old. she is now 15 months old and i am in the process of weaning myself off the efexor as i feel alot better in myself.
my partner was like yours by the sound of it, and he tried to understand but having never been depressed he couldnt fully comprehend what i was going through.
i think my postnatal depression all came out when i realised i refused to go out of the house with my daughter by myself. i used to have panic attacks when i did try.
my family is not completely understanding.. my father doesnt think drugs are the answer but it was my decision.
im glad i was able to see the signs this time, and get help, having already been depressed.
i hope everything works out for you, and just a warning,
when i first started taking my tablets, i felt like a zombie for a while, everytime i took them i felt spaced out... and if i ever missed a tablet i felt sick, but all in all, im glad i stuck with them because once that inital feeling wore off, they started doing there job.
so just dont expect to take one tablet and feel fabulous. dont give up on them, it will help i promise!
xx

Nicole - posted on 06/17/2010

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Hi there. I help run a support group in Bundaberg Australia for post natal depression. Not sure where you are but try looking for a support group to find women who understand. My opinion is YES take the drug. May make you feel strange at first but try others if it doesn't get better after a few weeks. All the best, Nicole

Judy - posted on 06/17/2010

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Barbara, you have many people posting valid suggestions and awesome words of encouragement. Give medicine time to work, remain in contact with doctor. If this med doesn't work, there are others you can try, but make sure it's under doctor's supervision. Now is a time to be easy on yourself. Realize that we take medicines for other types of illnesses; this is no different. It you need the medicine to get well, there's nothing wrong with that. I strongly encourage you to get in some form of exercise. Perhaps you, baby, and husband can take a walk in the evening. Finally, you mentioned that they tested you for diabetes. Did you also do the glucose tolerence test for reactive hypoglycemia? You fast night before, go in they test your blood. Then you drink this terribly sweet orange drink. They take two more blood tests at timed intervals (1 hr and 2 hr, if I remember correctly). I've suffered from depression/anxiety/panic for 36 years and must remain on medication. But I did some reading and found symptoms to be so similar to those of hypoglycemia that I requested my doctor do a glucose tolerance test (hypoglycemia cannot be detected by a diabetes test) and the results came back that I do have reactive hypoglycemia. I won't mislead you and say I was able to get off all medications (that would be wonderful), but I can tell you it has made a remarkable difference in levels of severity in my anxiety/depression/panic. Great thing is, it's all controlled by the food you will learn to avoid, and the fact that you need to eat more often than 3 meals a day. I just had to put this suggestion in because reactive hypoglycemia is an often overlooked medical problem. Good luck Barbara. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Charlotte - posted on 06/17/2010

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I am much older than you, but I had similar problems when my children were small. At that time, there didn't seem to be a lot of options and what I tried didn't work. I really suggest you give the zoloft a chance to work...remember it will take awhile...and the level may have to be adjusted...so make sure you stay in touch with your doctor and go back if you're not feeling better...good luck...

Carmen - posted on 06/17/2010

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I know the feeling of anxiety/panic attacks, but my doctor put me on Paxil and after a week I was feeling so good! Sometimes we need the little push to recover our well being. After some time I stopped and I get the anxiety mostly during the winter.

Tammie - posted on 06/17/2010

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I have been taking Celexa and Lexapro for years, I switch between the 2. The reason I stick with those is they are a more mild med for anxiety/depression. For me they worked silently I don't feel the change but trust me my family noticed! Best of luck to you !

DIANA - posted on 06/17/2010

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I haven't read everyone's responses to your question, but I see a naturopath and fish oil tablets are used for depression, adhd, etc. Look it up on google. I take 1 twice a day. You just have to make sure you get a good brand and not something cheap. My friend takes it for her post partuma nd my friend who is a labor & delivery nurse reccomends it and she also gives it to her son who has ADD. Exercise is also really good. They call it nature's prozac, lol. Take a walk for like 15 mins. even. I hope this helps. Good Luck!

Mary - posted on 06/17/2010

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I have been a clinical social worker for 12 years. All medication can have a drawback. But I have seen the meds literally save people's lives. Try the medication and watch for any side effects. The doc should have you return to the office about 2 weeks after to assess for SI or other issues. I would recommend that you have a therapist as well to help with other ways to stabilize your depressive/anxious symptoms.
Good luck. It will take about 4 weeks before you see what the meds can really do for you.

Monique - posted on 06/17/2010

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It sounds like you have or had post partum depression. Why don't you try a support group? Zoloft will not usually make it worse, I took it as a teenager for anxiety/depression. Getting out of the house is the best thing you can do and don't push your friends and family away! Also getting a part time or even on call or subbing type of job would be the best thing for you. Maybe even try volunteering or an ECFE, mommy and me playgroup or exercise class and/or join a gym or exercise class, this is a good thing to help depression. Also SAMME an over the counter natural med I have been told works well. Good luck and remember, get help and continue to get better for your son! Also you won't have to be on meds the rest of your life. I took them for a couple of years during my teen years and once I went to therapy for a few yrs and worked thru my anxiety, depression and PTSD I got thru it and haven't needed meds since.

Afifah - posted on 06/17/2010

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Have you try counselling and work therapy? i understand that if we have tendency to get depressed it means we are sensitive in nature but have rather weak self esteem. This hinder us to take action. So.. take action... anything... go out a little bit more then make something, build something.. find things that give you good feeling, no matter how small. And I find, working gives more satisfying effect than doing something fun. Both are good, but the first really boost my self esteem...

You don't need people to understand you... You are the one who is going to understand them! Good luck...

Rosie - posted on 06/17/2010

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my medication helped me IMMENSELY. do it for yourself and your children.

Barbara - posted on 06/17/2010

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Ok i tried acupuncture today and it relaxed me but i still feel down. My spouse finally comes home tomorrow i havent seen himin over two weeks so im a little happy about that. Im hoping he might snap me out of this for a coulple of days so i can atleast get some good sleep. Anyways i go see my counsler monday and i keep hearing about st. johns worth and im thinking about that. I really appreciate everyones support and advice!!! I feel ima try everything possible and keep the meds as my last resort.Thanks again !!!

Christie - posted on 06/17/2010

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Take your meds! You will feel so much better, and that awful feeling of the onset of a panic attack will lessen pretty soon. The depression aspect will eventually go away too (for the most part - just really depends on if you are an introvert naturally or an extrovert that has discovered that you can't bear to be in public any longer). I've been on every anti-depressant known to man pretty much. I really liked the Zoloft (although, you might gain some pounds, but that's better than feeling like you are freaking out in public). I also had great results with Paxil....that is the prob if you are pre-disposed to being depressed, you will lose effects from the drugs after a time and will probably need to switch. And most of all, DON'T feel guilty for needing help to overcome what you clearly know is not right or doesn't FEEL right with you. Some people can overcome this by themselves with cognitive therapy, or "mind over matter" mentality, but the truth is.....depression and anxiety are REAL medical problems and you should treat them as such. You wouldn't try to talk yourself out of the flu, would you? Being a new mom is a rough deal whether you have one or several....a new baby means additonal stress. So, for the well being of you, your tiny new creature's main life line and support, take care of yourself, be the best can be and keep yourself healthy....in MIND and body! Good luck, I wish you all the best and please follow your instincts...if the meds aren't for you (but please give them at least a month to fully kick in), talk to your doc about alternative method for coping. It really SUCKS to constantly worry about a panic attack coming on and it SUCKS worse when it is happening! I do understand! I had it with my daughter and constantly feared about the weirdest things for her, feared about a panic attack hitting me and then freaked out completely when they did happen. The most important thing to remember is don't think you are the only person that this is happening to....You have a life line here on the boards with so many people who've experienced this same stuff. Nothing is too extreme to post....Hugs, whishing you all the best! Christie

Dorothy - posted on 06/17/2010

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You should get professional help wether it be your family dr or a good support group or mayb a mental health dr. Don't just sit at home and wait for it to go away by it self. Depression can become a very serious illness. Even life threatening.Ask for help. Really inteligent people strong people know when to get outside help. Getting help is the first step to getting well. Don't wait.

Natalie - posted on 06/17/2010

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Have you visited this site?

www.Stop-Anxiety-Panic-Attack.com

Not sure if it actually works but it's work a look at.

Sandy - posted on 06/17/2010

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I was your age and had 3 babies at once, how can I say been there done that? I now have grandchildren so you will survive LOL I did everything I could including having hubby care for the babies one night a week and I went out in the world, I would go to a craft store, the ladies who work there always are willing to help you with a sewing project. I began sewing by using an old thrdle machine I borrowed from my mother in law and buying the cheapest fabric possible and one pattern bought at a rummage sale. I made my boys jumpers/rompers etc. Now I'm sewing all the time to prevent that nasty empty nest syndrome. I try my best to not allow anything to get to me. Keep smiling, they will wonder what your up too! :)

Carolyn (Nana) - posted on 06/17/2010

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I can emphathize and have great compassion for your current health problems. Sometimes a perscription drug is necessary and also a great assist. With regards sleep. I was adised by a Franciscan monk many years ago (I am a young 75-yrs young!!) to squeeze the juice of half a lemon into an 8oz glass of warm-hot water about an hour before I went to bed. This worked for sleeep!!! I have also taken St. John's Wort for depressiion/anxiety. It really depends, Barbara on the severity of your symptoms. I have suffered two very tough depressions and was on perscription drugs each time. IIt's not worth suffering for an indefinite period of time. Each of these times for me, I eventually took the medication and then transitioned to St. John's Wort. Yes, there can be some side effects, and you just have to see what works. You'll know what is best. Trust your inner knowing. Get quiet and ask your Higher Self, your Inner Being what is appropriate - and then listen. Be open to professional assistance. I wish you God Speed!!!

Sincerely . . . Carolyn Wegner

Debbie - posted on 06/17/2010

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Hi Barbara, I am very understanding of how you feel. I have a husband that suffers from Depression and Anxiety. He did not want to try any medication and so our family all just suffered.
I recently started a new business with HERBALIFE. This is a company that has been around for a long time. I have tried my husband on 2 of herbalife products (NRG and Tan Kuei) both natural product, with great success. He depression is almost not existant after only 4 weeks. Contact me is you want to give it a try. Or log onto www.myherbalife.com and have a look at the products. I can ring you if you like to give you more info.
What ever you chose I how you can find something that works for you. Also try Beyond Blue website - very helpful.

Regards Debbie

Pamela - posted on 06/17/2010

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Good for you for getting help and not trying to gut through this. Whatever you do, don't isolate. Surround yourself with your family and any friends that you know who will support you. Communicate what you're feeling with them - even while taking the medication. Get out and do some fun things for yourself - with your husband or even just by yourself. Going to school and having a young child can be pretty stress inducing. So take care of yourself. Try to get some exercise - especially outside. Get quiet within yourself and listen to the sounds of the natural world. Perhaps seek some counseling as well to get to the root of the problem. Depression is real and often physiological but it can have roots in other areas as well. Hang in there and be blessed. I'll be praying for you.

Ashley - posted on 06/17/2010

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hi, i was 21 wen i had my first child and suffered from anxiety and panic attacks with depression from wen i was about 16 but my doctor didnt do anything then wen my little boy was 8 months old i was diagnosed with postnatal depression and the doctor put me on citalopram anit depressants but to be totally honest i too them for a few weeks and didnt feel any different so i came off them and went to see a councillor which didnt help at all the way i see it now is only u can help urself u just need to find the trigger of what sets you off then learn how to control it. i know u may think it is easier said than done but believe me it works, u are really lucky tho to have an understanding partner mine told me i was mental and everything which made it harder. things will get easier though x

Michelle - posted on 06/17/2010

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In the UK we have a product called Bach Rescue Remedy which is herbal remedy available at any chemist - I don't know whether its the stuff in it (plant extracts) or just the psychological idea of it, but every time I chew one of their pastilles or gum I do feel a little better.
I have suffered with something similar to you since son was born and he's now 27mths-constantly worried I have a terminal illness, constant fear something will happen to my son, great desire for control in every situation, concern that my home is not neat/clean enough even though I'm sure it is, dieting/bingeing. I too am a stay at home Mum and truly believe that the pressure of that causes the anxiety because you are constantly in an unnatural heightened state of awareness to your childs dangers. I say unnatural, as in tribal society mothers/grandparents/sisters/friends would all share the responsibility of the children's safety and were an integral part of the upbringing. Myself, I too have a family I can talk to but can't ask for help - my brother has a baby too, my Mum is ill, my Dad lives a long way away and my grandma has cancer. All these things on top make asking for a break from bringing up baby seem like a silly problem but its not, its your peace of mind and you deserve to be able to get it back!!! Being constantly hyper aware mentally exhausts you.
The only advice I can really give is remember that you're going to have to relinquish control eventually, your little one will go to pre-school or school and you will HAVE to stop worrying or you won't function. So you need to train yourself, for everyone's sakes, to try and let go. I know its really hard and i really hope you can do it, if you manage with the drugs fine, if you manage without them - really well done. I have a friend on Prozac and he has tried unsuccessfully to get off them twice so bear this in mind in your decision.
Best of luck!!!

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Hi Barbara,

I have been on Zoloft for many years. It is a very personal choice whether or not to take medication. Many people will attempt to tell you not to but always remember to do what works for you. When I first started on Zoloft it made me very jittery and spaced out almost. If this happens, don't stop taking the medication. Ask your doctor about Clanazepam. I found that by taking that along with the Zoloft the transition was much easier. After a short period of time (a couple of weeks maybe) you will be able to drop the Clanazepam and the Zoloft will leave you feeling less anxious and just rational to be able to handle the everyday things life throws at you. It is not a drug that will change you it just makes it easier to cope and that is always a good thing for you and your baby. Good luck.

Mariza - posted on 06/17/2010

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I have battled depression and anxiety for over 15 years. I have been able to manage it with and with out pills. I have been able to do so because I have accepted who I am. I recognize when I really need help and when its okay. There are some medications that will not help, but its up to you to maintain regular communication w/some one to help recognize the symptons. If you dont, it can be worse. You know you. If you feel you need the help, take it. If not, find what your "triggers" are and find an outlet. I like to sit down for 10-15 mins and do a "mindless" game. Something that focuses my mind on it rather than allowing it to wander and think about what it was that "triggered" me in the first place. After I feel calmer, I can then choose to tackle the issue or set aside.

Alyson - posted on 06/17/2010

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hi, i've been on anti-depressants a couple of times-and initially it may make you feel worse for a weeks or so. this is normal so don't give up on it. keep going until you're feeling well enough to get out and about. then you can start to help yourself, meet people and continue to feel better in yourself. when you're ready, get doctors advice and decrease the dose. just remember-it's not forever. taking medicine in the short term to help yourself long term is a fair trade i feel

Krystin - posted on 06/17/2010

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Hi im 21 and im the mom of a 1 1/2 year old. I was having really bad anxiety and panic attacks too. my depression started when i was about 14 i never got treated for it and about the time i got pregnant i started having anxiety/panic attacks. they got really bad this last year i used to not be able to go in the shower for some reason i felt like at any minute something bad was gonna happen. (i think mostly cuz i couldnt hear what was going on). or if id get upset n start crying i wouldnt be able to breath sometimes. anyways i got on zoloft. and its done more than what ive expected it to do. the first two days it made me feel a little funny. i was really motivated to do stuff and just felt good about everything. after about the 4th day i couldnt even tell i was on a drug what so ever except for it continued to give me an easy feeling about everything. its not a happy drug ur not gonna instantly become a happy perky person. but it just sorta makes u less stressed about everything. i didnt have any negative side affects that i noticed except for about a half hour after i take it i get really tired but it goes away about as fast as it comes. i felt like zoloft made things better and i wanted to see if i tried another drug if it would even better. i was put on buproprion* not sure how to spell it..but it gave me really negative side effects i was really emotional and crying alot so i switched back to zoloft and everything feels normal again. i would deffinetly recommend zoloft for most people. my husband takes it as well and he does well on it. sorry to sound cliche' but it honestly inproved my life as well as my marriage. i never even realized how much my depression and anxiety was affecting me. but of course it doesnt work the same on everyone, but hang in there cuz ull find something that works for u and u should be proud of ur self for taking control!!

Christine - posted on 06/17/2010

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I can empathize having had depression in the past and anxiety after the birth of my son (linked to Post Traumatic Stress). For the depression I went on meds and found them to be helpful at first but I personally experienced side effects I didn't like (not the case for everyone though - you don't know until you try). For me, the biggest difference was made through therapy. Having someone listen to me and help me come up with new ways of thinking/acting was completely transformative. For the more recent anxiety/PTSD, I was able to heal through therapy alone without meds.
One note, as an ex-nurse, make sure you keep your doctor informed of how often and how much medication you are taking - it will help her to help you find the right one for you.
Best of luck to you. You've already made it through some hard things, you CAN get through this too.

Mindy - posted on 06/17/2010

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It's really a very personal decision - as you can see from the other responses there are people on both sides of the fence. I overcame my anxiety a couple of years back, but in order to do that I started out on the medication they gave me and after taking it for a year with no big episodes I was slowly weened off of it. Your doctor knows what's best for you, and he has your best interest at heart. This is an important point to note. I would say that before beginning it (or if you have already started then starting now) tell your husband to tell you if he sees signs of you getting worse, and try to keep track of this yourself as well. From experience, sometimes you can't tell when a medication is affecting you negatively, which is why it's good to get the support of your spouse. If there is any sign of you getting worse after the first few weeks, go back to the doctor and tell him what's going on and they can try a different med. My sister had to go through 3, but when she found the right one it was such a relief for her and all of our family. Trust your gut mostly though, and I would say that if you need the help then get it. Good luck on making this decision, I hope that it gets better!

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I would love for you to contact me or I you so I may get some of your suggestions?

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I also had/have anxiety/depression since my youngest was about 7mo old, going on 6 years now...It is more common than you think but at the same time hard for those who have never experienced it to even have a clue as to how debilitating it can be.
I didn't get any real results taking anti depression meds but found with control over my anxiety I was able to rest, relax & sleep which helped my depression.
At the time my Dr. prescribed me Ativan, I am told it can be highly addictive but I never became dependent on it & it allowed me to sleep & not feel groggy, it also helped my anxiety tremendously.
I stopped taking it just over 2 years ago, but I am fighting some pretty tough anxiety issues as of late. I have had several sleepless nights laying in bed asking myself why I hadn't been back in to see the Dr. yet. Stubborn I guess.
Know that you are definitely not alone in dealing with this, it is very common & you should discuss your concerns with your Dr. There are thousands of different anti depressants & some may work better than others, just keep trying until you find one that feels right for you & helps.
Did you ask your Doctor if there was an alternative or perhaps something natural you could try? It's worth a shot, you can go online & read about all different ways to relieve depression & anxiety without prescription if you are hesitant on taking the medicine.
Feeling like are right now do is normal. I went through the same apprehension & had the same questions. I was desperate and the need to feel better was worth it for me to try. I hope this helps & I hope I made sense!! I'm going on a 3 day headache, so concentrating on writing is a task. :-)
Feel free to contact me if you have any other questions or just need someone to chat with, I am here, always.
Good luck & keep on keepin on ♥♥
Kerri

Jenn - posted on 06/17/2010

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my heart goes out to you because i have been right where you are. first of all recognize that there are medical and underlying reasons behind anxiety/ppd that have everything to do with your body.
1. if your sleep patterns are severely disturbed by getting up every couple of hours and not getting into a deep a restful sleep, your body can't cope without sleep you lose serotonin which is essential to your health and well being.
2. have you had your thyroid levels checked? i ask this because i have a thryoid condition (hypo and hashimotos) and depression is a common side effect of a thryoid problem. it has been the underlying cause of my depression with each pregnancy because my levels were way off. i would encourage you to at least check this avenue out and see an endocrinologist who is a little more skilled and trained than a regular family doctor.
3. stay connected with people. this is where it may take you having to go an extra step and seek out a mom's group or something equivalent to not only help you get out of the house but to also meet other moms and have some support there. We move around a lot and I have 2 children (3 and 5) and am just weeks away from having #3. I KNOW how hard it is to meet people, to try to form friendships, BUT having those connections in my life has made all the difference because it not only gives me an outlet to get out of the house and involved in conversation, but also the opportunity to learn from, share with and be part of a community of other moms who may be exactly where you are at.
4. don't be afraid to TRY the zoloft. remember YOU are the one who controls it. if you feel it is doing no good or helping you- speak up. Only you know what your body responds to. If it is working for you but you find you need a stronger dose, share that with your doctor as well. Do you like/trust your family doctor or whomever you are seeing that has suggested Zoloft? Make sure you are comfortable with who is prescribing it and if not go somewhere else...remember you are a mommy, and that comes with a lot of responsibilities, pressures, 24/7 hands on- you are not just a patient in a waiting room needing medication or help.

5. When it comes to family and them understanding, I KNOW, I SOOO know, my family has had a hard time understanding in the past and at times have tried to make me feel guilty for taking anti-depressants. This is where my husband and I bonded together so much more. He was very supportive of me, but his understanding of what exactly I was going through was not there. It took him having to GO to the doctor with me, to have the doctor explain the MEDICAL side of ppd and depression, having him explore the thyroid link, and then working together to figure out how i best needed help at home (I'm a SAHM too) and with the kids and now I have to say he is my biggest most fantastic support, help, sidekick in all of this. Get him involved - communicate, communicate, even if you think what is coming out of your mouth sounds ridiculous, irrational or pointless, if you DON'T share what is in your heart and your feelings when you are struggling with depression it is suppressed and causes you to feel even more disconnected. The fact that he already tries to understand and help is a great place to start...take the journey together to get this treated. Remember PPD or depression is NOT a sign of weakness-getting help IS the best thing for you to do right now!

Monique - posted on 06/17/2010

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GOOGLE Lucinda Basset. She has a series of tapes on Attacking Anxiety and Depression. This will help you alot. I do understand. You also need to try reflexology.Pray and meditate on GODS words. Psalms and proverbs are my favorite.You should try and take the meds if you can. Is it out of fear that it may make you feel worse? Thats your anxiety. I have been there. May God give you peace that surpasses all understanding.

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Remember that anxiety and depression are nothing to be embarassed or ashamed of they derive from a chemical imbalance. That said, take the Zoloft but be aware that Zoloft causes weight gain. This can deepen depression. Whatever you do, don't stop taking the medicine without talking to the doctor and if you are uncomfortable with the side effects be sure to discuss this with your doctor as there are MANY medicinces on the market.

Hannah - posted on 06/17/2010

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I would suggest finding a good therapist! Worked for me. I think there is a misunderstood hormonal balancing period after giving birth that can be very difficult. Remember to breath!

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Just want to let you know your are not alone with the depression. I used Zoloft for 18 months and successfully got off of it over a 3 month period while working with my doctor.

My husband was very supportive though it. Just make sure while you are on the Zoloft to work through the issues your were having problems with. If you were having a hard time being by yourself talk with your husband about what triggered that. The medication will help you be able to rationally talk about the problem and figure out a solution or help you understand that way when you are ready to get off you will be able to handle it. I do still have an attack her or there, but I don't live with it hanging over my head anymore.

I wish you luck in your journey.

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Hello barbara: hope youare feeling better....

First off, I had the same reluctance to medications of all kinds, so I can relate... but it took me a while to understand thsi:

*depression is a chemical imbalance in your brain*, there is no shame in asking for help, you have no control over the problem, you did not cause it and chemical can only be fought with chemicals.

after I got that into my stubborn head, I have been doing a lot better....

zoloft did not worked for me, i got allergies... I can't remember the name of the one I'm using (darned generics!) but I'm feeling a lot better....

vitamin D also helped me, but in combination with the anti-depressant.... alone it was not enough...

also, talk to someone!... go out... you don't need friends for that... take your kid to chuck e cheese or the nearest chik fil A... there are always people there with their own kids....it's a great way to interact with people, if only for a little time....

be well... and happy... choose what si best for you!.. and keep posting... love it around here... :-)

Lisse

Lee - posted on 06/17/2010

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Zoloft will absolutely help you while you are learning to deal with your complex life (wife/mom/student). I had post-partum depression, didn't get a lot of support from my husband when my child was young and I didn't get help until my son was about 2. What lost years! Take the Zoloft, and find a counselor who you can talk with about how to handle the anxiety issues without meds. You also might need some sleep aids (like Lunesta, and there is a coupon to get it free online), since Zoloft can cause insomnia. Otherwise, the side effects were tolerable/minimal. Good luck. You deserve to feel well.

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try taking it in the evening before you go to bed. i take something and i like taking it in the evenings because it makes me drowsy and makes my head swim at times so when i take it before i go to sleep then i wake up feeling like a new person and most of the side effects have worn off during the night.

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its not an easy thing to over come, i tried pills after my daughter was born (shes now 7) but they made me feel worse also they are addictive even tho the dr tells you they are not, i just tried to go out to groups like mother and baby just so your not alone, its great that you have support from your family and partner, talk to them, dont bottle up your feelings hunni xx

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I feel for you Barbara. I too suffered with depression for many years, I think I was just born that way. Medication did help but all is addictive in some way. Be very aware of the side effects but I would take them. Sometimes meds will help balance the imbalance we are experiencing.

What helped me more then any medication could though was meditation!!! I encourage you to do it everyday. Also staying in the present moment has worked miracles in my life. Eckhart Tolle has many books that will help. Staying positive and continually searching for the things in your life that you are grateful for is another way to counter balance the sad feelings with more positive emotions.

To your happiness!

Nela - posted on 06/17/2010

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I would urge you to have your thyroid hormones checked first. I had all the symptoms you're having (except for panic attacks but have heard of people who have) and found out that after pregnancy my thyroid wasn't producing enough hormones. Good luck

Karen - posted on 06/17/2010

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The Doc prescribed them for a reason - I'd take the dose reccommeded then go back to the Doc fairly regularly after they have had time to work to adjust the dosage to what your body requires. Also TALK to the Doc about how you're feeling cause there may be alternatives available - I'm going to be heading to the Doc soon to check if I need meds to help me cope cause I'm not feeling 'myself' either. Lately I've been getting angry a LOT easier, whether it's the cat tripping me over EVERY TIME I go outside, or my little girl kicking, hitting or hurting me in any way. I'm also a stay-at-home Mum (family is 12hrs away) but I don't have an outlet yet (thinking about joining a choir or something I'm good at to help lift my self esteem again).
I'm not much on pills either, but taking that chance is better than the alternative - although it sounds like you've made up your mind on them anyway... If you do choose to take the pills, remember to keep talking to your family & especially your spouse he can't understand if you don't let him into your WHOLE world even the bits that don't smell like roses.

Laura - posted on 06/17/2010

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I take Zoloft for depression and it's been very effective. That said, PLEASE go see a psychiatrist for the prescriptions. General practitioners have a bad track record for prescribing it incorrectly. You should start out on a pretty low dose, then get stepped up in 25mg increments. It won't work as effectively if it's taken in the wrong doses or stepped up too quickly.

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Hi firstly well done you for making the first move and going to your dr.........!!!
I had bad posnatal anxiety & depression which was hard to acknowledge but with the help of meds i got through it and came off them gradually a yr later. Then about six months later i had a major anxiety attack followed by depression.........i spoke to dr/ health vis but they all put it down to postnatal still even though i was telling them it felt totally different! i felt like no one was properly listening to me....just talking AT me! in the end i did something for myself and took the first step like yourself. The dr did put me back on my meds and i found myself a psychotherapist to talk to......it was strange talking to her at first...this complete stranger ....& i felt like i wasnt mad or had mental probs so should i really have been there! I am sooo glad i did though as she helped me work through things that were lying deep down, some even linked into childhood. It made me realise i had been suffering in one form or another for many years without knowing it....I was glad i was on the meds whilst talking to her as there was a lot of emotion involved but she helped me work through sooo much that was bothering me subconciously and gave me various stratergies to deal with situations of anxiety/depression. I honestly feel stronger in myself now than i EVER have done before! I saw her for about a year and a half and came off the meds about 2 months before i stopped seeing her. That was almost a year ago now. It hasnt been easy and i still have low points when it affects me but im managing it myself without meds or talking to her. Although i know both options are there should i need them.

As for the meds making things worse...........initially they made me feel queesy, headaches etc but thats them getting into your system......it took about 3 weeks but it made such a difference...i felt like i was able to function again. If you do ever come off them its the same thing but in reverse.

I noticed someone else mentioned about your thyroid......has the dr checked your thyroide levels? I happened to mention to my dr that i was feeling really low and tired, thought it was just motherhood but wasnt sure. I hadnt had any bloods taken since childbirth 1yr earlier so she did a full sweep and found that i had an underactive thyroid. This can shift your hormones and cause increased anxiety/depression sleeplessness etc.....might be worth looking into?

Whatever happens good luck and do whats right for YOU! not anyone else........you made the first step, knew something wasnt right and have gone to the dr......listen to yourself and your own body! I know it seems like theres no way out but just remember there is light at the end of the tunnel and the only way from here is up!!!

Good luck i hope it all works out for youX

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I suffered postnatal depression and anxiety- the medication and group therapy, plus a psychologist saved me! If it wasn't for these things I would've been a complete mess. Also my mum's group was amazing as others were suffering too and I so looked forward to meeting every week and just talking with other mums. Eight years later and we're still friends. Even if you don't want to go out, eventually the meds will make this easier and at least go to a mum's group so you can be with people who understand. Good luck!

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I sympathise with you as I have had panic attacks for 25+ years and find that if my breathing becomes too fast, I breathe into a paper bag which helps. Also I at the moment being signed off work because I am due to have a knee replacement operation at the end of next month and with the pain being so severe the attacks are coming on pretty frequently. Like you I have a very understanding partner as my children have left home, but believe it or not I am taking Calms which relaxes you and take one twice a day after meals and two after dinner and this has helped to eleviate it. Good luck

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2010

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Hi.. I'm not a doctor... but it sounds like you may need to get out. If you join a play group, or something that both you and your kids can enjoy and possibly meet some people like you, or with kids the same age and you can start to visit back and forth. Having kids can be hard... very hard. You need a friend who understands a bit of how you feel that you can talk to... it will help you feel better and also like someone understands... even having one friend you can hang with or go to the park with and rely a little on each other for some back and forth childcare will do you a world of great!

Antonette - posted on 06/16/2010

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Hallo

My name is Antonette and I know that feeling....I am 43 years and had strugled with the same disorder. This is very hard work. I take Cipralex every day for the past 2 years, It is very important that you take your medication, not sure what your doctor prescribed. You also need to go for help...it is the most important thing to do..You need to speak to a professional that will guide you through this...Then my dear friend...prayer was and still is what helps me every day. You need to write down your thought and monitor what makes you anxious...This is a process and takes time to heal....

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