I have decided to tell my son to leave the house after years of torment

Linda - posted on 10/09/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am a widowed mum of 2 years, my son is 23 years old, does the odd shift as a barman, sometimes he comes home drunk then wakes me up in the early hours when I have to go to work, he then lies in bed all day and most of the time doesn't get up till I get home from work. He has no intentions of getting a full-time job, all he wants to do is be awake all night, then lie-in bed all day till I get home from work. He does very little round the house. I have tried talking to him to no avail, therefore I have decided to take the plunge and tell him to leave the house and find somewhere else. It is killing me having to throw my own son out, but what else can I do. Do you think this might be a wake-up call and do you think he might want to come back after having to fend for himself, as he says he doesn't want anything more to do with me. I am at my wits end, don't really want to lose my son as I love him.


Ariana - posted on 10/09/2012




You could give him an ultimatem so he has a chance to do something. Tell him either he gets a full-time job and starts doing these specific chores (whatever they may be, be very specific, even write a list) or he will need to find a new place to live.

Maybe you should get him a councellor? He may have other issues if he's getting drunk. Sounds like he's lazying about with no purpose.

I would give him a chance but otherwise you are right to lay down the law. If he's not paying rent, doesn't have a job or going to school and isn't following your house rules then he is not welcome to live there. Make sure you tell him you love him but that it is unacceptable. It could be the wake-up call he needs.

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