I Just Can't Get Happy?

Pamalla - posted on 01/24/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




I am 5 1/2 Months Pregnant with my second child. I was SO happy and giddy with my first. I just can't get happy about this one. I know part of it is I didn't really want to have another kid.

No matter what I try I can't get happy. I know I would be devastated if something happened that I lost it.I was heart broken and scared when they couldn't find a heart beat (it was too early).

Why can't I be happy and glowing? I hate myself and start crying when I think about it. I thought when I saw the ultra sound and heard the heart beat it would change but it hasn't. I feel horrible. I am also scared that this might turn into sever post-pardum. I can get happyish but not about the baby. I can laugh at a funny joke but I can't BE happy, Does that make since?

I can't afford to see a counselor right now so I thought I might try to get some support from some other moms that might have gone through the same thing.

My hubby is great but he just doesn't understand. He just tells me, "Its okay, Your just pregnant. Its hormones. You'll be fine when the baby comes." I don't know but it just doesn't seem good enough. ( I kinda just want to punch him in the face when he says it.) He's just trying to help but like I said he doesn't understand fully and I have tried to explain it. It sounds pathetic when I say it out loud. And when I type it.

Please Someone, Anyone Help.


Monica - posted on 01/24/2013




I was also like that! I had no emotional attachment to my child during my pregnancy at all.There was nothing like I knew I was pregnant but lived my life normally with no real thought of my daughter.I didnt drink or anything like that but everyone around me was so excited and I was kinda like whatever.Even when she first came out I was kinda blah but when I looked into her beautiful eyes my heart melted and knew there was a reason she was brought into my life...Dont worry about now having a connection now enjoy your other child and your life while you only have the one and then see what happens when your child is born.If you dont feel a connection then ask for help while your in the hospital because the quicker you get treated the quicker your new family will be one.But you may be suprised and love that child right when they come out as much as you loved the first

Mary Carol - posted on 01/24/2013




Honestly, I completely understand how you are feeling. I felt the exact same way when I was pregnant with my son. I could never get happy, I was always very depressed. And to be honest, I REALLY did not like being pregnant at all! I found it to be one of the hardest times of my life. I tired to talk to my OB, but she put me on drugs so fast, it made my head spin. So I figured it was up to me to try to make it through it.
If you can, try to get into an activity that will help relieve some stress. Like take up sewing, or writing. I started a blog, and it helped me from time to time. Try activities that will help take your mind off of the pregnancy. I know, easier said than done, but I blogged and read my entire pregnancy, and it helped me a lot. I did not feel as depressed, and I usually would think about the next book I was going to read. I also set aside one day where I gave myself a spa day. I did my own nails, I made myself something I was really craving, I would make myself a face mask, or just soak my feet and watch a movie. If those things don't help, I would really talk to someone. It's not healthy to keep these feelings pent up inside of you. I hope this helps at least a little.
P.S. My husband was the same way. Just blamed it on the hormones. When really I just wanted to kick him in the you know what and say :Blame that on the hormones!" :)


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Pamalla - posted on 01/24/2013




Thank you its good to know that I'm not the only one. I mean I was sure I wasn't the only one but its nice to have someone say it. My mom can't wrap her head around it, she loved being pregnant all 7 times. Thank you for responding. :) As for an activity, I don't know what else to try. I love to crochet & other crafts & reading, but I just don't feel like doing any of it, I've picked it up a couple times but lose interest quickly lately. I am going to start a yoga class next month I hope that can keep my interest. A spa day sounds like a good idea too. I will try it. Thanks again. :)

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