I just found out that my in-laws will be living in the house that my husband and I are remodeling...

MJ - posted on 04/03/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hello All,

I am 26 years old, my husband is 44 years old, and his parents are well into their 70s. I am also 6 months pregnant with our first child. I just found out that his parents will be living with us in the house my hubby just bought. He is in the process of reconstructing and designing the whole thing. Apparently, his parents feel that the house is not really "home" to them bc they haven't had much say to what is done with the house. They feel they should have a say in the paint, furniture, etc. The house was purchased a couple months back and I haven't even moved my belongings into the house yet because I don't want to live with them. I am very anal about cleanliness and peace and I want my privacy. I want our home to be for our growing family. I do not like my FIL. He is loud, obnoxious, a control-freak, and a very negative person. I do not like smoking, and they ALL smoke. I do not like profanity, and they ALL curse. Is it wrong that I don't want them to live with us? How do I go about telling my husband that I don't want them to live with us w/o offending him and w/o having him think that I am being distant with his family? If they move in that house, I will stay in my condo w/ my daughter bc I will NOT live with them!


Michelle - posted on 04/03/2013




In my opinion your husband is a bit of a control freak. A marriage is a partnership and there would be NO WAY my husband would make a decision like that without discussing it with me first.

I would be telling him straight out that you don't think it's a good idea and they should find somewhere else for his parents instead.

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