I'm sure this is normal but I still want some advice!?

Amber - posted on 04/20/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




Okay, so I have a beautiful 22 month old girl, who is my world. I babysit a 6 year old little boy who I have been keeping since he was about 10 months old. I pretty much raised him because his mother is a single mom who had to work 2 jobs to pay the bills. So I had in about 90% of the day mon-fri. Well my daughter is his "baby sister" and you can't tell him any different (not that I mind) I love the fact that she has on "older brother" she did things early because she wanted to keep up with him. Anyway sorry for my rambling while I'm at work on the evening my mother keeps my daughter and Colin (6 yr old). She told me the other day while I was gone to work that she caught him and my daughter in the bathroom with the door shut and she was naked. Now granted my daughter LOVES to stay naked and you have to redress her atleast 10 times a day. But what worries me is that he got really nerves like he was caught looking at my daughter naked and I know that its normal to want to explore but being the mother of a GIRL it makes me stomach turn at the thought. Has this ever happened to anyone else if so do I talk to him about it because it was my daughter or do I tell his mom and let her talk to him or do we do it together or just let it go? Any advice on which way to go would be SO great. Thank you ladies for your time!


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Bonnie - posted on 04/20/2011




If it was just a one time thing, I would just leave it alone. It could possibly be blown out of proportion by his mother and start something. Not saying his mother would be like that, but some people can really take offence to something especially having to do with their child. Just keep an eye on things and then if something happens to make you wonder then take it further.

Jennifer - posted on 04/20/2011




Definately say something to his mom. At 6, kids are curious to begin with, and they are also starting school, so their little ears hear about things from older kids that they just don't understand. Maybe his mom can explain some things to him (not an all out sex talk of course, but just some basics), and also stress about inappropriate touch. I have a 7 year old that we've had to explain things to, because of this.

Amber - posted on 04/20/2011




I do care ALOT about him he is like my son and I honestly don't think he took her close off because like I said all you have to do is say naked and the close are off, but at the same time I don't want to ignore it if it was something else. I think I'm just gonna start keeping a better eye on those two and not leaving them unsupervised even for a min. Thank you SO much!

Sonia - posted on 04/20/2011




You obviously care a lot for this little boy and have been extremely involved in his life for a long time. If it was a stranger's kid, I would feel differently but I think it's safe to assume that something may have been going on and not to over-react. Girls and boys get curious at even a very young age and it's our job as parents and care givers to protect BOTH of them. An alarm bell went off - so just be extra vigilant. Don't allow them to be unsupervised together. Be careful against anything he views in your care that might not be age appropriate whether it's intentional or not. I have two little boys. I'm very careful with them and who they get left with now and my personal feelings are - when they are older they will not babysit. I just think all the sexual hormones that flow through pre-teens and teen boys especially are very powerful no matter how much I teach them, I don't want to put them in ANY situation where they would be tempted and possibly make a very horrible mistake. That may be over the top, but when it comes to protecting kid's innocence, I don't care if people think that's over the top. As far as brining it up. It's hard when you don't really know what happened. Maybe your daughter took her clothes off and he felt awkward and was reacting because of that. Until you KNOW I would say be vigilant, have everyone practice modesty in your home and don't over-react for right now.

Schyla - posted on 04/20/2011




Maybe start off by talking to his mother but honestly if this was a one time offense then maybe you should let it go but keep an eye on him and I'd be more worried where the behavior is coming from and if there might be something going on when he's not with you.

Tinker1987 - posted on 04/20/2011




I would mention it to the mother. i babysat a 3 and 4 year old and i went into the room and they were under the covers pretending they were having s-e-x. and naked...i mentioned it to the mother and she laughed it off...another thing i herad of was a girl i know had her kids babysat by a 11 yearold boy who "molested" her 5 yr old daughter sooo its something you should take serious in case it gets more serious then just being embarassed about it...they are different ages so the boy is going to be more curious than your daughter.not saying he is a creep or anything but i dont think id just let it go. if kids were just being kids i dont think he would get all nervous when your mother walked in.maybe its nothing but maybe its something!

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