I'm worried about my two year old son

Samantha - posted on 04/01/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




I'm very worried about my two year old son who's becoming more and more hyper as the days go by. I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. Up until one week ago, I had a very strict dinner time, bath time and bed time routine. He's never slept much throughout the night and still wakes up at least once but he thrives on this routine. Last week I had an accident and threw my back out and now have a slipped disc in my back. It's extremely painful and has rendered me immobile. Since then, my sons routine has not been the same since it's my husband or other family members who are taking care of him. Lately he's not sleeping on time for his naps or bed time and tonight we put him to bed at his regular time and it's now past 2 am and he's literally bouncing off the walls, jumping,laughing, banging his head, biting, it's unbelievable. I have no idea where this energy and aggression has come from but it's very worrying and upsetting bc this is not like him. He's been acting out so much this past week and defying and challenging us whenever we say no or punish him. I'm so exhausted and feeling angry bc this back pain isn't helping the situation and my son just won't rest or settle down or listen and we don't know what to do. My husband has just taken him for a drive, hopefully he falls asleep. On a side note, he has not had any sugar, he's never had chocolate or candy yet, and I dilute his juices. He has healthy meals and I try to provide all food groups every day. He drinks whole milk before bed. I feel like I'm failing as a parent and that he might be developing ADHD. I'm so worried. Any advice or suggestions will be greatly appreciated, thanks.


Dove - posted on 04/01/2016




You were injured about a week ago and he's been acting like this for about a week while his routine is being disrupted.... Normal. Frustrating, but normal. I know YOU can't do as much about it, but whoever is taking care of him needs to get back to his normal routine as much as possible. He also likely needs some reassurances that you are OK (as much as possible). Perhaps some extra one on one time w/ you watching a movie or reading some books can help him feel more secure.


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Sarah - posted on 04/01/2016




I agree with Sarah H. he is two, this sort of behavior is not uncommon especially give the fact that you were injured and his routine changed. While it may not seem like your injury affects him, you fatigue and inability to get around changes his world. He sounds like he is way overtired with the late night and that will make for a crazy toddler. He is testing all of the new people to see if the limits you have set are really limits, or are they just your rules. Consistency is what he needs and everyone involved needs to be on the same page.

Sarah - posted on 04/01/2016




He is acting out because of the life changes that are happening not because of ADHD. He is 2 yrs old not a newborn. He should not be taken for a drive to settle down or fall asleep. Consequences need to be put in place and enforced for bad behavior. He is 2 yrs old he understands. Life has changed for him and he is reacting to that change and testing the limits. The boundaries have not been set AND enforced. No matter who is taking care of him boundaries need to be forced. Also those watching and helping out need to keep in mind his routine and schedule. This is his safety net in his life, so the more off schedule things get the more he is going to react to that.

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