I need some advice about a problem i have with my husband. We have only been married 2 months and he has a daughter from a former girl-friend. This child is 11 years of age. She's very smart,She knows that her dad and i are married,The problem is he will not stop from sleeping with her. She come over every other weekend and he sleeps with her in her room. He even takes his naps in her room. When she is here it is like i'm not.My husband has told me not to show him affection in front of her,because it upsets her. She has no rescept for me.I'm not to try to make her mind.They go everywhere together and i have to stay home. I started going to my mothers house when she is here because it upsets me so bad.We have been together 3 years and he has always slept with her but i thought after we were married this would stop.I don't think it is a good thing or healthy for her or him. And yes i have to admit there is very hard feeling between this girl and i.When she lives on Mondays it's days before he and i can even talk because he is mad about the weekend,saying i should understand and not be mad about it.I'm sorry i can't help but be mad..


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Susan - posted on 10/14/2012




I want to thank everyone for there reply. It is a very bad situation,She comes this weekend from Friday till Monday morning.Since the last time she was here things have been great between myself and her dad. But today Is Sunday,i can feel the tension already.I did know before we married that he slept with his daughter and never did approve of it.He was court-ordered 2 times not to sleep with her.She starts screaming and crying at bedtime and he sleeps with her. When he ask me to marry him we talked about this for along time,He said he would have to tell her over time. She knows and he still will not sleep with me. He acts like he is doing her wrong by sleeping with me. I have told him i would sleep in her room with them,He got mad and said that would not work,She would not want me in there. I have did everything i know to do,If i mention it again he gos into a rage and will not speak to me. I don't know what to do,she controls everything,part of my life to. I had no idea this would be such a problem,If i had i would have did things another way. I feel it's them against me. He was laying on the sofa and was going to turn over,He went in her room first to tell her,I ask why,He wanted her to know so she would not be upset. It's crazy.Again thank you for your help and it's all good advice. He also said that he only gets to see her every other weekend and he should get to sleep with her. He wants to spend every second with her.

Amanda - posted on 10/11/2012





This sounds like a horrible situation. I am confused about a couple of things. 1. If your husband really loves and cares about you enough to be your husband, why he is letting his daughter control the relationship? 2. If you knew all of this prior to getting married, why did you get married in the first place. 3. An eleven year old should probably not be regularly sleeping with an adult male, even if it is her father, but this could just be my opinion as an American.

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