i need some advice...how do i reconcile my relationship or do i just move one?

Ann-Marie - posted on 07/16/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




My boyfriend and I have been having a lot of fights lately. He seems to not care about anything. If its not his way then its a huge argument. So annoying. Anyways when we fight nothing ever gets resolved. Its a big blowup with no results. Any suggestions on what I should do? I am so sick of fighting. There is no compromise in this relationship
We have been together 3 years and have a beautiful 1 year old daughter. Please help!!!


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Lisamarie - posted on 07/16/2012




I believe that a lot of men (and women) act a certain way because, well, they can.
Firstly, your daughter is 1, I am hoping the arguments are away from her, although babies can pick up on a lot of emotions, this worries me.
If you have tried talking to him and he says nothing go to the next step, leave. OK, so you don't have to pack up everything, walk out and never come back but at least consider a break, figure out what you both want individually before working on it together.
The relationship you are currently in is not a healthy one for either of you or your child, when there is no compromise I think of control and you do not want your daughter growing up thinking it is ok to stay in a relationship that she is not happy in.

I really hope you can work it out between you and if not that you have the strength and courage to go it alone! Good luck :-)

Ann-Marie - posted on 07/16/2012




I have tried asking him what's wrong multiple times but he always says nothing..... the he reverses it... everything is always wrong with me and nothing is ever wrong with him. ( I'm always cranky..or have an attitude...or always do what I want) these little things is what he always says... I'm out of solutions and energy.

Louise - posted on 07/16/2012




You both need to sit down and have it out what the fights are about. Is he unhappy in his relationship with you in general or is everthing else ok? Is he stressed about money or his job. Sometimes things build up and petty arguements break out this is just stress busting. You need to sit him down and ask him what the problem is and work from there. If he does not want to talk then there is no point carrying on. If you have lost the ability to talk then the relationship is doomed. I hope you can sort it out together.x

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