I need some help from my fellow females!!!

Adina - posted on 07/06/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I just had a baby three weeks ago, so I want to do something romantic for my boyfriend and myself. We haven't had sex in a while, and we still can't have sex for another three weeks, so I am very sexually frustrated. And he has told me that he has been looking at porn and masterbating which he says is better then cheating. He says it's quicker if he sees a wet pussy.

Well, I want to please him, during my pregantcy I wasn't into having sex, and even before my sex drive was low. Now I am horny as ever! So, my aunt is going to take my girls for a night after I can have sex so that we can have a night to ourselves. But I want to get some ideas on what I should plan. I am a very shy person when it comes to the bedroom, but I want to change all that, maybe get him to stop watching so much porn. I need help with what kind of wine is good. I would like a sweet wine, I plan on making chocolate covered strawberries. I need help with a website for buying sexy nighties, and toys. I need help with maybe differant posistions....which for some reason when we have sex he sometimes hurts me. I want to try the body butter stuff, and massaging oils or lotions.

So, I need alot of help so if you have any ideas or things that i haven't said, please write me back i would love to hear from you! He also was wanting to tie me up...so if anyone has tried that and liked it or didn't like it let me know! Thanks so much!

P.S.How long after having a baby do you bleed? I am still bleeding after three weeks, but now it's starting to smell...sorry it's nasty!


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Medic - posted on 07/06/2012




That is an aweful lot of thought to put into something so natural. He will not care about all of the fluff.

Krista - posted on 07/06/2012




Oh lordy, honey. With a newborn infant you're thinking of all of that? Bless your heart.

I think if you two are that hot for each other, after another three weeks, any wine and chocolates and lingerie will likely be a waste. He'll just be so happy to get to screw his girlfriend again that he wouldn't care if you were wearing a burlap sack.

If he does hurt you in certain positions, then I'd recommend you being on top, so that you can control the angle and the depth.

And you'll likely bleed for a few more weeks, I'm afraid.

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