I really need advice? Am I being unreasonable

Louise - posted on 12/03/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




Ok to cut along story short, my ex was abusive even after I split he tried to control me pull me down , he then tried to kidnap the boys and hasn't seen them since that day almost three months. Now he keeps trying to get his brother in law to bully me into letting him have the boys over night. Which I am not comfortable with as he can barely look after himself he just plonks my 4 year old autistic son in front of video games and doesn't change his clothes all weekend, he smokes weed around them. Now I have said I will consider contact IF he moves to his sisters town as then I know she can keep an eye on the boys and make sure they are ok and not stuck indoors all day. Iv said if he does this he can have the oldest for 5 weeks during the summer alternative Christmases, one week at easter. But he says I'm being unfair and he wont do it, now his only other option is go through court which he also wont do, now am I being unreasonable by wanting my kids to see their dad but to want them in a safe environment which with his sister I know they will be?


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[momoftwo] - posted on 12/03/2013




Dont blame you for keeping him away if he tried to kidnap them, and sounds to me he's not father of the year so I'd take him to court for sure.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/03/2013




What do your court orders say?

If you don't agree with your court orders, perhaps it's time to request a new hearing and adjustments.

If you don't have court orders, each of you has exactly the same "rights" to have the kids, so he can remove them from your care, and not be prosecuted, because they're his kids too. If you DON'T have court orders, get some.

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