I Said Some Hateful Things


Jackie - posted on 09/29/2011




Although, I should've said this in the beginning, she said the first words after I had asked her politely to move her car and she called me a white bitch. That is when I got mad....anywho, I saw her today and did indeed apologize for the words I did use the other day. She accepted my apology and things are okay.

Now, as I was standing on the sidewalk waiting for my kids to come out, she got into it with another parent. This time an african-american, older gentleman who lives across the street from the school and put garbage cans in front of his driveway so he doesn't get block in. So, apparently I am not the problem with this woman, she is just that way.

Just to let everyone know that I appreciate your comments and will choose my words wisely next time. No racial slurs were said on my behalf!!

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Her nationality has nothing to do with the fact that she blocked you in. You need to apologize because it's the right thing to do. Not to ease your own conscience and make yourself feel like you're a great person for doing the right thing. You, lady, are a racist. And the more I think about this situation, the more it pisses me off. Especially since you posted it twice. Grow up, act like a woman, put your big girl panties on and apologize. Set a good example for your kid(s).

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Johnny - posted on 09/29/2011




I think you should apologize at the first opportunity. You had the right to be frustrated and to call her to task for her impolite behavior. You should have left it at that, and avoided any hateful, racist commentary.You are responsible for your own actions, and you can take steps to make amends. She is responsible for her own behavior and can respond as she wishes. At least then you will have done the right thing. How she responds is inconsequential.

Amy - posted on 09/29/2011




If it were me I would apologize...maybe she has an attitude because of the way she has been treated. Her nationality should not have come into play at all. What I mean is if i had done the same thing (I am white & born here in the US etc) what would you have said to me because you could not have said move back to your own country. Unfortunatly I am sure you are not the only one who has noticed her nationality & I'm sure it has made her "on guard". Since you feel guilty I am sure you realized all this but just wanted confirmation :) good luck

Jackie - posted on 09/29/2011




I'm thinking the same thing, however, in the city i'm in it is a very diverse group of citizens. I think there are 19 different nationalities there with the majority being 46% Middle Eastern. So there is no problem with her making friends.

Not sure why this is bothering me, I am know to my family and friends as Queen B****. lol Wow...maybe i'm becoming a softy! I don't know, in my eyes, i'm the ignorant person in this matter! Off to pick up the kids, so we'll see how this goes.

Tyrae - posted on 09/29/2011




If it is really bothering you, then yes apologize. Although by the sounds of how she has been acting with the other parents at the school I can not guarantee that she will accept it or even act nicely to you for apologizing. Then again, maybe she just needs a little reassurance that there are people she can talk to. She is probably new to the area and doesn't know how to react/talk to people to make friends.

I probably would have acted the same way and then felt horrible about it later as well.

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