I Think My "Kid" Is Developing An Eating Disorder.

Kalley - posted on 06/25/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hi. I'm Kalley, and I am not a mom. In advance I would like to thank you for reading this or even responding. I'm 18 years old and I have three little sisters; ages 15, 13, and 12. We live with my father, who is an alcoholic, and is incapable of raising my sisters. But that isn't the issue right now.

Food is scarce around here. We don't eat meals as a family. Dinner or lunch is usually microwave popcorn or something equally as nutritious.

I worry about my sisters a lot. I have an eating disorder myself (anorexia), and the youngest is starting to show signs of developing one. For now it's binge eating disorder, but that can turn into bulimia real fast.

She eats in secret. She puts salt and butter or sugar on everything. If you make a comment about what she's eating, she'll become embarrassed and angry. She doesn't have friends at school. Her portions are out of control. For lunch today she ate 11 (!) scoops of ice cream. She hides pop or junk food under her bed.

I'm not really sure what to do. I think our parents' divorce affected her the most, since it happened at a very important part of her development. Family life has never been stable but since the divorce it has ceased to exist altogether. I'm worried about her mental health the most.

How would you deal with this situation, or does it even need to be addressed? Thanks again


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/25/2014




Ok, honey, first, who does the grocery shopping? If you can get your dad to let you do it, that will help, because you can monitor what is purchased, and make healthy choices in that way. Its good that you recognize your own disorder, and I hope that you are handling that appropriately, as well as taking care of your sisters.

I would say your youngest sister is compensating for both the lack of consistent food available, and the divorce as well, since that's a tough age to begin with. One thing that will help tremendously is if (instead of pointing out "you had ice cream for lunch") is physically showing/helping her to build her plates, incorporating portions. My youngest, while not a 'problem' eater does tend to be a 'bored' eater, or simply will pile on his plate because the food is in front of him. I've found with him, it's better if I point out what appropriate portions for his height/weight are, and guide him to remember.

The main things I'm concerned about are this: If your sisters are in the care of your father, and he's in no condition to care for them, did your mom skip the picture entirely? Is it possible to get some 'girl time' with her at all? Is she a better or more appropriate caregiver for your sisters? You shouldn't have to feel like you're raising them!

Another thing, have the younger two been to counseling? Would they participate if given the chance? A thought, anyway.

I've got to sign off now, but I'll keep thinking about this one to see if I have other suggestions.

Stay strong!

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