I think that my son is being singled out in pre school.

Kimberly - posted on 01/26/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




For the let few months I keep having behavior problems with my son at his preschool. They have even sent him home one time for his behavior. The real problem is that it did not start until they moved him to a new classroom. I have showed concerns that there are issues and they keep insisting that it has to be him. First I know my son is not a perfect angel and that he does have a temper but he has never let it get to him like he does now. The worse part is that the other day I was talking with the director about how good his week had been and she about snapped my head off trying to tell me it wasn't as good as I thought. I can not seem to get any help from them to solve the issues. All they want to do is remove him from the school. Today I walked into the school to get him and I have another child telling me how my son has been bad, but his teacher tells me he has been good. I feel like that since the kids have seen him get into trouble, they blame him and the teachers are believing them. What can I do, he is only 4 years old?


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Kay - posted on 01/27/2012




Have you talked to your son and his teachers? What exactly is the behavior?

I mean, I know that it can seem like singling out, but the truth is, if your son is misbehaving to the point that the teacher can't take care of the rest of the class, they may be considering that in suggesting removing him from the class.

Have you talked with your pediatrician? Sometimes there are other concerns that can cause behavior problems, things that can be addressed through behavior therapy, or medication (not a fan of that personally).

I know it is really hard to believe, but typically, a school isn't singling out a child. They just do not have the resources to handle it. Also, some teachers are truly better at maintaining discipline, and that could affect why your son has more difficulties in his current class. Some teachers are just better at handling it. Was there a reason that they switched him during the school year? That does bother me. With small kids it would seem like you want to keep them in a stable classroom.

At the end of the day, all you can do is be there for your child and make the best decision for him. If this truly isn't the right school for him, I would definitely move him. However, before doing that, I would exhaust every option, beginning with a long honest talk with the director, teacher, and anyone else to find out their opinions, let them know that you feel your son is being singled out, and try to come up with a plan to give your son a happy and successful school career.

Good luck!

Lyssa - posted on 01/27/2012




i would pull him from that school, right now, plain and simple. it definately sounds like they are singling him out. but that's just what i would do.

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