I Thought I would be able to understand my kids because I had them at young age.

Dolores - posted on 06/13/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )




Is it ok for me to be the Mother and the friend if need be?


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/14/2014




Be a mother first, and a friend after you've raised them. Parents who try to be their kids friends tend to give in to things that a parent would not, because the 'friend' in the parent doesn't want to piss off the kid.

If you are open with your kid, and aren't an ass, they will come to you with everything. If you only want them to see your 'friend' side, there will be trouble.

Barbara - posted on 06/13/2014




Hi Dolores
It is an awesome relationship if you can be a friend and a mother. I just had a conversation with my 12 year old son last night. I have always been a friend but he was a little confused about the mother part. I shared that although I am honored that he would consider me to be a friend that it doesn't change that i am still his mother. As a mother I am to be looking out for his best interest at all times. Therefore at times i will be giving him direction for best life choices. I told him that i only want the best for him and that the only people in this world that love him with there whole life would be his father and I. When we give him direction we have nothing to gain. Sometimes friends will steer you in a direction that best suits them. We are a teem and we will always choose what is best for him. Being a friend opens many doors that most parents do not get to walk through. Teens will shut down and stop asking questions if you are just a parent. Being a friend opens the door to excellent parenting with great rewards.


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