I told my emotionally abusive husband to leave after 23 years of marriage.

Alisha - posted on 06/06/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have read some of the other posts and emotional abuse is a horrible thing to experience. I cant believe I put up with this for so long. I love him, but since he left I have not wished him dead once. If you have experienced this kind of abuse, you know that you wish anything would happen to make it stop. Always trying to make sure he doesn't go off. The swearing and name calling and expecting everything to be perfect all the time and nothing is ever good enough. You walk on eggshells all the time waiting for something you do or say to make hime angry. I need to know there are other people like me. He left 3 weeks ago and contacts me every day crying and apologizing, saying he can change, that he can't live without us. Well, we can live without him. This is so painful.


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Good for you!

I left a man for very similar reasons and I'm going to tell you this. He wont' change. No matter how much he pleads, stay strong. It won't be easy. You will find that you do miss him. Even 2 3 years later for me, I sometimes wish I was still with him because I think of the good times we did have.

But what I did while we were married was save every abusive email and recorded several of our arguments. I listen/read and remember why I left.

I know I'm a stranger but woman, I am PROUD OF YOU!


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Michelle - posted on 06/07/2012




It gets less painful. I was there 7 years ago and it took me while before I felt happy to be on my own. I craved physical contact, even if he would berrate me all the time. The best thing I ever did was leave his as I have since met the most wonderful caring man.

Be strong. He says he will change, and he may for a while but bad habbits are very hard to break and eventually he will go back.

Well done on making that move though, it's takes a lot of courage.

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