I've been trying for #2......and need advice

Shelly - posted on 11/30/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




Between work and trying to have another child I feel I am stressed and thinking too much about it all! And with each month going by and not getting pregnant it's making me that much more stressed to get pregnant the next month! I also would like my kids to be close in age so that they will have each other to play with. I know I need not to stress and just relaxe but it's hard and I can't seem to turn my mind off! Anyone have suggestions on how I can be more relaxed so I can just let things happen? Or what tricks did you use to conceive?


~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/01/2011




No tricks. Yes just relax. Easier said than done, but why worry about it in the first place? You know you can conceive, and I know you want them close in age, but in the long run, that doesn't matter. Your health and stress level matter. Also, this kind of stress over getting pregnant can make sex lose its fun and turn it into a chore. My son is 5, and my daughter is 19 months. They are 4 years apart, and they play together.

Amy - posted on 12/01/2011




No tricks I just went with the flow, I know it's easier said then done but if you end up not having them close in age too it's ok. My kids are also 4 years apart and it's amazing to watch them play and interact together, also a bigger age gap for me caused me less stress post pregnancy because my son was able to do a lot for himself and had a lot more patience when I needed him to wait.

I have heard only to have sex every two or three days and not to do it everyday.


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Katherine - posted on 12/01/2011




Try to take some time for yourself. Go to a coffee shop for an hour and read a book. My kids are 3.5 years apart and they play very well.
The more you stress the less chance you'll have. Stop fighting it ;)

Ashley - posted on 11/30/2011




How long have you been trying? It can take up to a year to concieve and most dr's wont even look at you until you go 1 year TTC. My tricks were to keep as detailed of a journal as I could about my menstral cycle. There is information at nearly every pregnancy website on how to do it. Also if you are willing to spend the money on ovulation kits I hear they help tremendously track so you know when to have sex. Mostly yes stop stressing out. I know you want the perfect timeline but you need to remember as long as there are no medical reasons your not conceiving it will happen when everything comes together. Hopefully with some understanding of your body you can make that sooner rather than later :)
Good Luck!

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