I walked in on my 13 year old daughter in the shower and she is VERY hairy down there. Should I tell her to shave?

Sarah - posted on 10/14/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




I want to know if I should tell my daughter that she can shave because I walked in on her showering and her vaginal area is very hairy, should I tell her to shave?


Denikka - posted on 10/15/2012




I wouldn't bring it up at all. Honestly, it's none of your business.

If SHE feels the need to start grooming, she will. Maybe she's okay with being all natural.

The ONLY time I would bring it up would be if she's in a bathing suit frequently. That's the reason I started shaving. It can be something a person doesn't realize, but it can be awkward at times. Other than it being obvious while wearing clothes (generally bathing suit, leotard is she's in gymnastics, etc), I wouldn't bring it up. She'll make her own decisions when it's right for her.

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No you shouldn't. It's her body and when she feels the need to start using hair removal she will either come to you or she will just do it on her own. If you draw attention to it you may make her feel bad about it. Besides, pubic hair isn't dangerous nor is it offensive so it is ok where it is until she decides otherwise.


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Liz - posted on 10/15/2012




Armpits, yes. Pudenda, er...why? There's nothing wrong with having pubic hair and nobody 'needs' to shave there just because they're hairy. It can cause more trouble, such as follicle infection and irritation...and that's NOT a nice area to get such issues in. It's also none of your business unless she asks you first.

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