i want to have a baby for my friend

Jessica - posted on 01/21/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )




my friend just found out today that she is going to have to have her overys taken out and she want me to carry a baby for her n i dont no how to go about doing it i need help


Louise - posted on 01/22/2011




I think your friend is being a bit premature. There are many steps she can take to have a baby of her own. First of all she needs to get her eggs harvested and stored until she is ready to have a baby. If her womb is undamaged then she is perfectly fine to carry a baby full term she would just need IVF to implant the baby. I think you are a wonderful friend to even consider this but your friend needs to look into all her options before you go down this line. Do you really think you could do this and step back and watch your child grow up so close to home and not feel maternal. It takes a certain type of woman to be able to do this. It is a very difficult decision to make for you and it could stretch your friendship to the max!


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Kathy - posted on 01/24/2011




A fertility specialist should be contacted to see if her eggs can be harvested first. If they can be and are healthy, the next step is for them to be fertilized. You will have to take medications to prepare your body for implantation. The fertility specialist can walk you all through the steps, cost, side-effects, complications, and risks. I commend you for considering this. I was more than willing to do this for my friend. She knew that the option was always there. She got a wonderful surprise pregnancy. It was high-risk and she had complications but her son is an amazing gift. You both should talk to her ob/gyn and get a referral.

Candace - posted on 01/22/2011




it is a great thing you are wanting to do but believe me it is never easy to willingly give up a child that's heartbeat once intermingled with your own you might want to check out about this procedure with your doctor because it is not a common practice the general public will probably not be knowlegeable enough to answer any questions you might have.

Brittany - posted on 01/22/2011




Well if all that's being done is her ovaries being taken she should be able to carry a child still. It's when they take the uterus that you lose your ability so that part I find pretty confusing. It could get weird and it would definitely be a very emotional journey so I would say to do your research and look at other peoples' stories and decide if you think you might be able to handle it. Familiarize yourself with the whole process of IVF, call doctors and talk to people who have been there. I don't know though, I think she would be able to do it on her own just fine and one of the best parts of that is that you don't have to worry about a friendship hitting the rocks.

Stifler's - posted on 01/22/2011




I would do it too. My husband's cousin and his wife have done 3472309473 thousand rounds of IVF and sometimes I feel like just saying I'll be your surrogate they would be awesome parents. You guys definitely need to talk to doctors/fertility clinic etc. about this.

Casey - posted on 01/21/2011




I agree with Stephanie, she really needs to talk to her doctors about her options before she goes ahead with this, cause it is important to see if she can have her eggs harvested because if it is only her ovaries that are being removed then she is still able carry her own child but she would have to have ivf to do this but at least it will be her own biological child that she could carry herself.
Good on you though for wanting to help her and if you still decide in the future that you want to be a surrogate for her then you need to get in touch with a very good conception specialist in your area cause there is lots of things you need to know before going ahead with it.

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Tell her she has to have her eggs harvested before her ovaries are removed. Then, she can have invitro fertilization with her husband's sperm and can carry the baby herself. Sounds like she needs some medical counceling so she knows all of her options bc she really doesn't need someone else to have a baby for her, unless there are problems that you didn't mention.

Dora - posted on 01/21/2011




I commend you for doing this for your friend. Giving her the gift of life is something she will always love you for. You are truly an amazing person for offering that to your friend. I offered the same thing for my girlfriend. I did indicate that it would have to be her egg and her partners sperm as that is the only way I would be able to do it. I couldn't use my egg or even my partners sperm then have to give up the baby. I would definitely sit down with a fertility doctor and ask all of the questions. Good luck with everything.

Angie - posted on 01/21/2011




If she's only losing her ovaries she can still carry a baby to term once she becomes pregnant.

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