I want to have another baby but i dont know how my kids will react about it

Toni Ranee - posted on 06/10/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




how do you think my other children will react to it? and how can I deal with it if they dont like the idea? I don't want them to get jealous or feel any kind of resentment, I am no longer with there father either and I feel like they still think me and him might get back together and that's not the case.. I really don't want them to think I don't love them any more I love them just as much... I would just like to have another child what should I do?


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Michelle - posted on 06/10/2013




It would help us to know what age they are.
Also they can take it either way, I have a child from my 2nd marriage and my older children just adore her. They had been asking me for another sibling anyway so were thrilled when I said they were getting one.

Ev - posted on 06/10/2013




You have to sit them down and depending on their ages explain to them on terms that they can understand what is going on and tell them that no matter what you love them as much as you did before. Also explain to them that this baby has a different father than they do but will still be their brother or sister. Then work with them on getting ready for the baby and include them in everything that goes on from choosing colors for the new baby to maybe even helping to pick out the names for the baby. Once the baby gets here let them help with the diaper changes, bringing bottles to you and putting the bottles away, bringing you other items that you need when taking care of the baby and if they are old enough to do so let them take turns "babysitting" while you do household chores. Anything to involve them is good. But that does not mean there will not be some resentment or jealousy going on with the older kids. It is taking time from them that they have been used to getting but continue to assure them that you love them but baby needs more time because baby can not fend for itself. Keep them involved...that is the key along with reminders everyday that you love them.

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