I want to know why and how I can have two beautiful healthy children and all of a sudden suffer from two miscarriages in a row?

Shawna - posted on 05/04/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am really trying to grasp the fact of what i have been through in the past 7 months of my life, losing two babies to what the doctors say is just bad luck. No reason at all other than something wasnt right with the baby. i can totally understand that, but to happen twice what are the odds of that, they responded "very slim". which then makes it that much harder to believe that something wasnt wrong with me or my body or somehow someway it could have been prevented. I havent smoked in a year i dont use drugs and i dont drink, i dont even drink coffee or eat lunch meat or any other stupid crazy thing that they say not to do when ur pregnant.i dont work anymore and i am not overwieght. i just dont get it and probablly never will. but to think im only 25 and im scared to even get pregnant again is just plan crazy. i am a dedicated christian atleast to the best of my ability and i try not to question God and why this has happened but to be greatful with the two children i do have. but i still feel like a peice of me has died, or to think about this little being and what it could have been that is no longer, it just hurts. this time around i knew something might go wrong because it did last time but i didnt really think it would. if u can understand that. i havent even really broke down and cried yet i just keep trying to push it to the back of my head and tell everyone im ok with a smile, but i know im not deep down i do hurt and i want to just lay in bed and cover myself with my covers and cry and scream and yell at God asking him why. but that would ruin me and i dont want that. i just had my surgery last night at 635pm and i find myself all day today not wanting to eat and cleaning all day like crazy cleaning like deep cleaning shit no one wants to do. i guess i just dont want to stop and think about it. i know the painwill get better as the days go by but it never fully goes away ever. i guess i just needed to talk about this. i really havent talked to anyone not that i dont have support because i do but i guess i push everyone away cause i cant talk about it aloud without completly falling apart.


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Jodi - posted on 05/05/2012




I am really sorry for your loss. I do feel your pain. I had two miscarriages in a row between my son (who is now 14) and my daughter (who is now 7). I truly understand your questions and your pain because at the time, it was difficult to understand and accept. Even now, I still feel sadness at those 2 lost babies, but I know that there would have been a reason. Maybe there was something wrong. Maybe I wasn't ready to carry a baby, my body may not have been ready. None of it was any consolation at the time, but I have accepted it.

But actually, the odds aren't as slim as you imagine them to be. About 20-25% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. Even if you do the stats, the odds are still pretty high of having 2 miscarriages.

And just remember that it is normal to grieve. Allow yourself the time and space to grieve your lost babies.

Sarah - posted on 05/05/2012




1st of all im sorry bout ur loss, ive been thro the same thing.. had a brillent pregnancy with my oldest who was born in 2006 but den in 2009 we had 2 miscarriages 2 months within each other the drs couldnt tell me why.. i was terrified to try again but im so glad we did as we had our youngest who was born in 2010.. the drs told me they wont test to see wats going on until 3 miscarriages in a row, im guessing its just one of these things and maybe stress too.. give ur body a bit of rest and den try again in a few months time.. hopefully things will work out x

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