I want to leave my emotionally abusive boyfriend/father of my son, but my son wants me to stay

Beverly - posted on 03/13/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son's father is emotionally abusive. When I know he is in a bad mood I let my son know so he can watch his mouth or stay in his room. Don't want to make dad mad. I recently decided that I am going to leave because this is not the life I want to live anymore nor does my son deserve to live like this. Since I have been withdrawing from my boyfriend he has started to be nice. Actually trying to teach our son how to work on cars. I know it is a ploy, but how do I get my son to see it for what it is? Time will tell? My boyfriend has bipolar I and has anxiety. Living with him is an emotional roller coaster. It is double for our son cause I am now battling depression. I am staying strong for our son, but sometimes I feel as thou I have let him down. How to I get him to accept that this is the right decision for us and that we will be better off without having to walk on egg shells?


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Michelle - posted on 03/13/2014




It's hard on kids but you also deserve to be happy. I would suggest making sure you are both close to each other so your son doesn't feel isolated with the parent that has moved away, that way he can see his friends no matter what parent he is with.
You do need to be prepared for him deciding to live with Dad though, he is old enough to have a say on where he lives.

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