Ignoring my ex at a party...

Raye - posted on 04/27/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




So, a friend of mine had a party for his son. He sent email invitations to his whole address book, which included my ex husband. My ex only knows this guy because of me, and they are not like the best of friends or anything, so I was surprised that he chose to go to the party, knowing I would be there with my current husband and my stepkids. He didn't even bring a date, he was there alone.

Here's what makes it more awkward... my current husband and my ex husband used to be friends back before my ex and I got married. In fact, me and my first husband went to the wedding of my current husband and his first wife. My ex was the one invited, and it was a shock to my current husband that I was the +1, because my current husband and I knew each other from High School. Fast forward ten years, and we were all divorced, and I got reacquainted with my current husband. And the rest, as they say, is history.

So, we're all at this party, and I sort of just ignored my ex. He spoke to my current husband for a few minutes before the festivities, and I took my step daughter to the bathroom and hung out back there for a while. Then afterward, as we were walking out, my ex said "well, nice seeing you" really sarcastically. Then he kinda followed us out as we were walking to the car. My current husband felt awkward and tried to make small talk, but I walked on ahead in front.

I feel I treated the situation very badly, by not being conversational to my ex, but I was really confused as to why he was there and didn't really have anything to say to him. He and I have no kids together, so I don't see the need to chit-chat. He's still friends with some of my other friends, so there could be opportunity to run into him again at another function.

Should I apologize, or just let it go?


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/27/2015




Raye, I would let it go until you see him at the next function. Then, socialize with him, and do the small talk thing. LOL It's the 'adult' way to behave...LOL

If he mentions the previous time, tell him the truth! You were flustered and not sure how to react. Make it a joke on the whole 'high school drama' thought, and move forward. Any of my exes would take it as the off hand apology it's meant to be and move on.

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