Im a young single mother of three. This was not a dream of mine, and I didnt ask to be alone. Im just so overwhelmed! I cry, and cant seem to get everything done! I dont mean to complain, I just need someone to talk to!

Dee - posted on 03/08/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have three amazing kids. A 5 year old, a 3 year old, and a 2 mth old. I love them so much! It's just hard. Im alone. The father left when I was pregnant with our third child. I didnt want this! I didnt ask for this! I thought we were happy! Now, Im doing it by myself, and I need someone to talk to. I find myself wanting night time to come so I can go to bed and start my day over tomorrow, in hopes it will go better then today. it never does. Its always the same. Me yelling, crying because then kids just wont behave. My 5 year old is in kindergarten and hes not doing great. he has behavioral problems, so in an attempt to fix it, I signed him up for karate. Maybe it will teach him some disipline. However, while at the class, Im toting my 3 year old and 2 mth old, because there is noone to watch them. I dont mean to complain, Im just overwhelmed! I just want to go to bed so i dont have to think. I feel so worthless as a mother. Like im not doing enough! I even bought a white board so i could write down what i want to accomplish, and half the time, i don get it done! And to top it off i work from 7pm to 2 am and by the time i get the kids from the babysitter, it 3 and im in bed by 4am. Someone just talk to me. i need that1


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Jaime - posted on 03/08/2012




I'm sorry things are upside down in your world right now, but you should know that you're not worthless as a mother. You're overwhelmed and you're overextended, that's for certain, but definitely not worthless. Are there any counseling programs in your area that you can attend during the day when your oldest is in school? Or perhaps a playgroup that you can take the younger kids where they will be occupied for an hour or so while you talk with other moms (they often have resources available to help single moms through tough times and sometimes they offer respite care where you can leave the kids for an hour or two so that you can run errands or just have a coffee by yourself). The best advice I have is don't give up on yourself and also give yourself more deserve that. And keep talking and venting...that will make a world of difference as you're trying to sort your life out.

Brittney - posted on 03/08/2012




You are doing everything a mother should be, you love and care for your kids. You are a great mother, don't put yourself down, they are kids and doing what kids do and they need their mom to be with them too. Get down and play with them, maybe they act out cause they too feel overwhelmed. As for your white board, set it up so you can accomplish 1 or 2 things a day, instead of 30. Make simple goals and try to accomplish them, if you can't dont dwell on it, move on to the next one. Prioritize everything, have a baby sitter take the kids once or 2 times a month and go for a walk, get some fresh air, take a relaxing bath, or take a nap. Everyone deserves time to themselves every so often. You have a lot of courage to keep going even though it isn't easy. Your kids love you for it. :) I'm always on, if you need someone to rant to, talk to, or just anything!

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