Important Question about Pregnancy im despirate

Iridescent - posted on 08/08/2010

Your husband is being an @ss. He's intentionally trying to make you feel terrible. Not taking your vitamins will not hurt your child; it can hurt YOU. Your baby will get the nutrients he needs from your body, first option is from the food you're eating, but if that's not available he will get it from tissues throughout your body.

It's typical to be terribly emotional while pregnant. You crying will not harm your baby, but extreme stress can. It can also cause you to go into labor early. So make certain your husband knows if he is intentionally causing you needless stress, he needs to go away until he can behave appropriately for your baby's safety.

Don't exercise more than you were prior to pregnancy. Don't stop exercising entirely, either, unless you weren't before getting pregnant or your doctor says to stop (or bedrest). You'll do fine!

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Sounds like he just needs a good kick in the ass! HA :-) Honestly (from a mom whose had natural pregnancies & homebirths and done doctoral research on maternal health globally), the healthiest pregnancies are the ones where prenatal vitamins aren't even needed. I can give you more info if you message me, but first and foremost, vitamins aren't for the baby! They are for you but if your diet is well balanced and focused on fetal development and maternal health you don't need them either! And trust me that is not difficult to do. Most importantly MAKE SURE you do take Vitamin D and prenatal DHA all the way through breastfeeding! Otherwise prenatal vitamins are really just a conspiracy theory to make people spend money OR for women who eat terribly unhealthy!!!
Crying is a normal part of pregnancy and won't hurt your precious baby but it sounds like yours is pretty severe the way you are asking about it. It would suggest to me that you are a little depressed and definitely very anxious. There's a lot of negative emotion in that question and that can actually harm your baby's development. But don't panic. Get the vitamin D and spend time in the sunshine everyday (naturally raise your serotonin). Try to be around people who make you laugh a lot or watch things that do and try dancing a little bit, with others or while no one is watching, whatever makes you happy. Make sure that everyday you are already having fun with your child.... Exercise is great for you and your role as an incubator :-D. Don't start pushing yourself more than normal but get out there get lots of sun, walk a LOT, do some yoga/stretching, light weights.... it will also all help you balance your hormones. Listen to your body. It will tell you what is too much and when to stop and when to rest. CONGRATULATIONS on being pregnant and good for you for avoiding all harmful substances! Your baby is going to love you! Let's just work on you loving yourself! Feel free to message me if you need any other help/support.

Renae - posted on 08/08/2010

Ok, you need to remember that women have been getting pregnant and having healthy babies for millions of years (or something like that). Healthy babies were born long before prenatal vitamins were invented. Lots of women have done lots of crying during prenancy and their babies were all fine too.

Did you know some naturopaths say prenatal vitamins are a crock and we dont need them? (For the record I still think you should take them - but I'm saying dont stress if you forget).

How many heroin addicts have perfectly healthy babies? What about women in famine stricken countries who dont have enough to eat let alone vitamins and who have perfectly healthy babies?

You are doing just fine. Your husband on the other hand I'm not sure about.... he sounds a bit stressed out! :)

I just wanted to say something else. Some other mums have commented about stress not being good for the baby. I just dont want you to stress about being too stressed! Just try to see things in perspective. Your body is designed to carry and grow this baby, mother nature knows what it is doing, there is not much you can do that will cause definate harm to your baby because nature designed things in such a way to protect babies. -I hope that makes sense.

Krista - posted on 08/08/2010

Your husband is very misinformed at best, and deliberately trying to scare you, at worst.



No, your son will not die if you missed your vitamins for a week. The vitamins simply help to make sure that your baby and you are as healthy and well-nourished as possible, which will reduce the odds of the baby being born with health problems. Obviously you'll want to not rely solely on the vitamins -- make sure you're eating a well-balanced diet with lots of vegetables, lean protein, whole grains and calcium. And moderate exercise like walking or aquafit is great, and will help ease the sore joints that can happen during pregnancy.



And no, you can't kill the baby if you cry for a long time. If you're pregnant and hormonal, it's hard to NOT cry sometimes. Just try to stay relaxed and happy as much as possible, and take time for yourself. And tell your husband to stop stressing you out, because stress hormones won't do you or the baby much good.



What I would suggest would be to bring your husband with you for your next prenatal doctor's visit, so that he can address all of those questions to the doctor. As well, does he have any male friends or relatives who have kids? Suggest that he talk to another guy -- a lot of guys get VERY anxious when their wife is pregnant. My husband was more of a nervous Nellie than I was, and it helped a lot when he talked to a friend of his who has two young kids. It really helped reassure him. As well, as your doctor to recommend a guidebook on pregnancy. You can keep it around the house and if your husband thinks that something is bad for the baby, you can look it up together.



Try to relax, Chelbie. I'm sure you're doing great. And any time you have questions or are worried, we're here for you.

Abbie - posted on 08/08/2010

You are not going to kill your child if you don't take your vitamins!!! They do need the folic acid but that isn't not something that a week of not taking your pills will really affect. I have never heard the crying will kill your child but again, its a lie. Its like the old wives tale if you see something really ugly when pregnant your child will be ugly- NOT TRUE!!! I saw many ugly things when I was pregnant and I had a beautiful child. Tell your husband to shut the &*() up and knock it off!!

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don't reply to him at all take your vitamins and eat well drink a lot of water and get moderate exercise. most of all love your baby and love him ..

Ashley - posted on 09/27/2012

Ignore him. I didnt take my prenatal vitamins cuz they made me sick and my baby is healthier than the ones I did take them with. Crying wont hurt the baby either. Your pregnant and emotions are running wild so yea your gonna cry. Tell him to kiss your ass cuz him stressing you out like that is more likely to hurt your baby than the otber 2 things.

Veronica - posted on 09/27/2012

Wow, your husband is an idiot or just plain mean. Really, why would he want to upset you in any way? You are carrying his child too! Whether he is joking or not, it is just a stupid remark to make. I highly suggest he go to the next doctor's appointment with you or even schedule a special visit, just so you can have all these questions prepared. He should be bending over backwards to make sure you feel (emotionally and physically) your best you can be.

Rayanne - posted on 08/14/2010

No, I baby can not die, at least if your diet is pretty up to pare, tell hubby to take a chill pill, A husband making life challenging for a dear wife and soon to be mother is a bigger problems. He needs to be supportive.. I didn't take any pills on my sixth son's pregnancy,, He is fine..

Keri - posted on 08/14/2010

Prenatal vitamins are very important before you get pregnant and in the first trimester. You need an adequate level of folic acid in your system to help with the baby's neural development. If your eat enough folic acid you are find without them. Crying for an extended period of time can be tiring for you but will not hurt the baby any. YOu husband is being a butt. Maybe you can have him come to your next prenatal appointment and ask the doctor these question and then he can hear the answer from the doctor and he will chill out. You can also get some books and let him read them. He does sound like he is just stressing you out.

Lisa - posted on 08/14/2010

I agree that a womans body is made to have baby's. If your body wasnt healthy, you wouldnt have gotten pregnant. You sound like a wonderful Mom. Prenanal vits are important, but I dont think it's going to have a long term affect on your baby. Just make sure you're taking them with or shortly after a meal so you dont get sick. Crying, it's a natural thing Womwn do!!! Especially during the up's and down's during pregnancy. Your husband needs to get informed, and not cause MORE added stress for you and the baby. If you're crying because you may be depressed, see a doctor, but it's probably the mood swings of pregnancy! :)
Good Luck!!

Tina - posted on 08/14/2010

Womens bodies are made for being pregnant. When you are pregnant the nutrients that you eat-go straight to baby. Your pre-natal vitamins are for you, so that you get the nutrition that you need, not baby. Crying is natural! And the hormonal changes that you are going through while prego certainly can lead to alot of crying-especially for no reason, it is no harm to your baby! Your husband maybe should take the time to read up on some things before cause unesscesary crying for you. :)

Kristi - posted on 08/14/2010

Yes, your PN vitamins are important and try to take one everyday but with my first pregnancy I was extremely sick, my doctor suggested I lay off the vitamins for a bit because I kept throwing them up along with whatever I was eating. Remember that woman have been having babies since the beginning oftime and PN vitamins were not. Women around the world are giving birth everyday and not all of them had access to PN vitamins and their children are healthy. Eat right, sleep, exercise...live a healthy lifestyle. Maybe find a book or website for new dads

Cheryl - posted on 08/13/2010

i didnt take my vitamins either i kept forgetting to take them and iv got a perfectly healthy boy who will be 4 in october it didnt do him any harm and as 4 crying alot its part of being pregnant hormones all ova up then down etc and i also did this it doesnt hurt the baby but why dont you try talking to your midwife whilst your husband is there and bring up the subjects your worried about this may help him to relax a little bit

Brenda - posted on 08/13/2010

yes, it is typical to be emotional while you are pregnant, but when you are crying over stress it is not good. try to stress as little as possible. it agrivates the baby, and it can also cause a miscarraige.

Sharon - posted on 08/13/2010

Sweetheart, hang in there. The first pregnancy is always the scariest because you want to do everything right and you try to listen to everyone else but you have to listen to your body and your ob-gyn. Just like any medicine you would take you may experience some side effects and stop taking medicine or take the vitamins sporatically that is okay. The Pre-natal vitamins made me sick and I had a hard time taking them so I did not take them everyday. I asked the doctor for something else to take and they explained to me that the Pre-natal vitamins were more for my body than the baby, however he did come up with an alternate way of me getting what I needed. Crying is normal. It comes from hormonal changes as well as stress. Sometimes we think too much. Again we are always trying to please everyone else. Remember that this baby is a gift from God and you should enjoy this pregnancy. If the crying is consistent please find someone to talk to about it because it could be that you are depressed or someone is causing you unnecessary stress and it is not the baby. You don't need that type of stress. This is the time you should be glowing and enjoying your pregnancy. This is a proud moment. If your husband is concerned, he needs to stop stressing you out. He needs to go to the next appointment with you. He needs to take a chill pill and be supportive not mean hearted. Enjoy your pregnancy with him or without him which ever will make you happy and comfortable. This is a gift from God!

Katrina - posted on 08/13/2010

I say relax and enjoy the beautiful creation god has given the two of you. You shouldn't over think while pregant and neither should your husband. Try doing things to get your mind off the risks and plan for the arrival by reading books on baby first year. Then you'll feel prepared and have your husband shop for diapers, little baby tees etc.. that will help him think about it's really a life coming. Have him feel your tummy every night and talk to your stomach trust me it helps get your mind off the what if's

Indra - posted on 08/13/2010

I guess the question would be why aren't you taking your prenatal vitamins? When I was pregnant with my triplets sometimes taking a couple of them a day was hard (I felt like a pharmacy). Explain to your hubby how hard it is to take the the large pill or why you aren't taking the pill. Do you forget? Perhaps he can help to remind you or be involved by getting you a pill box. Crying is pretty natural during pregnancy. Your hormone levels are changing. I remember watching the pregnancy channel and seeing all those cute babies and I would well up with tears on some days. Build a good support network with girlfriends to share your feelings. Paces is a good place to start if you don't have anyone in your area. Your baby is going to be beautiful because you seem so caring and compassionate. Just by reaching out and asking these questions it shows that you will be a great resource for your child. Your husband sounds very concerned and frightened about your child's welfare. Perhaps there is something more going on...

A past miscarriage or something that has caused him to be anxious about this birth. Help to talk to him about his concerns. He sounds like he will be a good father if he channels his concerns in a different way. Tell him you need him to be encouraging because the way he is going about things right now is causing more anxiety which isn't good for you or your baby. Ask him to talk to you about his fears or write them down. Perhaps a close friend or his mother can address these concerns with him to relieve you of more worry right now...Take care and continue to stay focused on keeping your body healthy!

Sandra - posted on 08/13/2010

When I was pregnant with all my 3 ( in the 70's) we had never heard of folic acid , the only supplement we were given if needed was iron tablets but we were encouraged to drink lots of milk - good for teeth and bones / plenty of vegetables and generally eat healthily with lots of gentle exercise / walking but NO STRETCHING and I had no problems and 3 normal healthy babies ( eldest now approaching 40 )

Kramale - posted on 08/13/2010

The prenatal vitamins sometimes dont agree with the child and I stopped taking mine when I was about 6 mnths pregnant wit my children and they cme out healthy but cying can put stress on the baby but it shouldnt kill it if u dnt cry alot which causes alot of stress andyou dont want that but you really should begin taking the pill again!!!

Devon - posted on 08/13/2010

Honey, I'm 9 months pregnant and haven't taken my vitamins once... If the doctor says the baby is fine -- then I would trust a professional over your husband.
Also, people have been having babies for years without any help. They just squated behind a tree. Lol.
No, you can't kill the baby by crying. But he may feel your stress, and stress himself out, which can cause early labor.
Yes, you can tell him he isn't the baby doctor and to shut his mouth because he doesn't know anything..

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Daddy's to be, are just as anxious of the unknown... Try and take his comments as him caring for the well being of your little baby, at least he's interested. You won't kill or harm your baby if you are emotional or forgot to take your vitamins... I think we over analyse everything when pregnant. Pregnancy is such a special and wonderful time, just relax in it and savour every moment. PS Read as much as you can so that when Daddy has a comment, you can tell him what is in fact true and what is not. X

Ashley - posted on 08/12/2010

lots of women dont even take the prenatals at all its just to keep your baby healthy and to give your baby all the vitamins that you dont consum in one day and crying if that had anything to do with how your baby turned out i think all womens babies would have something wrong with them its normal to cry! if you dont drink smoke or do drugs your baby will turn out perfect!

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Your husband is being a JERK! Not taking your vitamins will not hurt your baby, your baby can live off you if it has to and get its nutrients from you...If your crying because your stressed and if your husband is making you cry alot tell him to chill cause the stress can cause stress on the baby...It sounds to me you both need to take a chill pill....and to your husband dont be a jerk it sounds like you need to go to her appointments with her and get educated!!!!!!

Michelle - posted on 08/12/2010

The only thing that I know of that can cause a real problem during pregnancy unless you are high risk is Advil or any aspirin based pain relievers they are blood thinner and can cause the plesenta to seperate so if you need to use Tylenol and nothing else as for your husband tell him if he can't say anything nice or supportive to keep his mouth shut.

Danielle - posted on 08/12/2010

Okay, you need to relax. Your body is there to protect your baby. Prenatal vitamins and folic acid are very beneficial to your unborn child but not taking them isn't going to kill your baby. Neither will crying. I mean come on...pregnancy makes nearly all women weepy and somehow this planet has remained populated. I fell down the stairs, slipped on some ice, and fell backwards in my chair while pregnant with my son and he's 15 months old and very healthy and happy! I also cried on a daily basis...sometimes happy tears, sometimes sad tears, sometimes frustrated-I-have-no-idea-why-I'm-crying tears. Also, look at all the women who smoke during pregnancy and they go on to have healthy children (I'm not suggesting you smoke in any which way I'm just saying that smoking would certainly cause a baby more damage than forgetting your vitamins for a few days).

Tiffany - posted on 08/12/2010

first and formost your husband is the only one that could potentially harm your unborn child by stressing you out for no reason.... and second when i was pregnant with my twin boys whom our now three and healthy and very active little boys... i decided not to take any prenatal pills and only took fish oils once a day and a calcium and a mulit vitamin pill and a over the counter prenatal pill that you can by in a pharmacy section of any store.... and i asked both my obgyn and the specialist i had seen my whole pregnancy if i was doing the right thing and they told me what i was taking was far better than any presction that they could give me and to keep doing what i was doing... your baby will be fine you know what is the right thing to do and no one else can tell you otherwise.... so keep strong and keep doing what your doing =)

Maliah - posted on 08/12/2010

I took the vitamins when I remembered to and my daughter turned out just fine. I always forgot the vitamins b/c I had to take them with food so I decided to take flintstones chewables and my doctor said that those were just about the same as prenatal vitamins.

Erin - posted on 08/12/2010

i didnt take vitamins and i cried my whole pregnancy and my son was a perfect newborn! 10 lb 3 oz actually so dont worry mom everything will be fine. tell your husband he is wrong. wrong. wrong. :)

Karen - posted on 08/12/2010

You will not kill or hurt your baby folic acid I believe is one of the most important nutrients most of all your vitamins you can get through healthy eating. I do not know how far along you are and being emotional is normal. Want him to stop being an idiot then take him with you to your doctors appt and bring up his concerns he has expressed to you I guarentee you that will end it.

Helen - posted on 08/12/2010

Nothing will happen to your baby if you do not take your vitamins your husband is being an idiot saying these things to you and that will cause more harm than anything as he is causing you stress you dont need.

Rosie - posted on 08/12/2010

there is a reason for prenatals, but nothing is going to happen if you miss a couple here and there or even if you miss them all together. and crying? for christs sake, tha's just the most assinine thing i've heard. if that were true my kids surely would've been dead, i was a bawl baby. i cried at soap operas, and commercials!! have the doctor tell him so he knows from a "professional" that you are alright! :)

Alexia - posted on 08/12/2010

If he keeps this up it's not good for YOUR safety! Go stay with a relative and talk to your doctor, the doctor will more than your husband or anyone else.

Victoria - posted on 08/12/2010

As if there's not enough stress on a woman to "produce" a healthy baby!!!!! I think that your husband should learn to support you and if it's a "forgetful" thing as to why you have not been taking your vitamins, then maybe he could be your daily "alarm clock." It is important to get enough Folic acid before and during the beginning of the pregnancy while organs and such are developing. I wouldn't stress out about missing the vitamins for one week, however, you should resume taking them. As for the crying thing, some women have more "hormonal issues" than others and may cry more, however, if it is due to the stress of what your husband is saying to you, that is NOT healthy for you OR the baby!!!!! You may want to talk to your doctor about possible ways to deal with the crying if it is due to the hormones. I hope that this helps, remember that it is both a beautiful and amazing thing to be pregnant and try to enjoy it while you can!!!!!!

Carolyn - posted on 08/12/2010

there r alot of things u can do to hurt ur son, but CRYING and NOT taking prenatal vitamins r not in that group. ur husband is going to be the way he is going to be. just focus on what u do for u and ur baby. if u have a question about doing something u can always call ur doctors office. u will be a good mother as long as ur main focus is on ur children, doing what u feel is best for them. take care of urself and that will help ur son alot.

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I think that you should take your prenatal vitamins, because they are to ensure that your unborn baby gets enough vitamins and stuff so that they can grow when you don't eat enough in a day. That being said there are people who don't even know they are pregnant until they are 5 months in or in labour and their babies survived so not taking your vitamins won't kill the baby. I skipped taking thema few times, but tried to always take them at least 6 days of the week. If you have bad morning sickness it's more important to take them

Lisa - posted on 08/12/2010

You should always take the prenatural vitamins until doctor says to stop! As far as i know crying is normal! If he is too worried why don't u make a appt. w/your doctor so your husband can be reassured!

GOOD LUCK!

Jenifer - posted on 08/12/2010

I didn't take my prenatals because I was getting to much iron as it is and I had a 9lb. 1oz. and 20.5 in VERY healthy baby boy! Eat right and don't be paranoid and you will be fine, tell him to let you trust YOUR body and trust that you know what your doing.

Tanya - posted on 08/11/2010

I can tell you I have let my kids cry for a long time and it didn't kill them at all. I don't think if you stopped taking vitamins for 1 week that will cause any problems maybe over a long period of time. I would talk to your doctor.

Tanya

Sonia - posted on 08/11/2010

First - men are idiots. They dont know whats going on and probably hear bits of information and then make comments that are based on the bits of information they have. You need to explain to your husband that he needs to CALM you at this stage rather than stress you out. The vitamins are there to help your body get what it needs because the baby takes what it needs if you take the vitamins or not. Its better to make sure you take them so that the baby has whatever it needs to grow. Finally - I had a rough pregnancy and someone told me that the more stressed I got the more my baby would inherit this behaviour and turn out to be a stressed baby. Its bull$hit! My son is so happy and smiley. You can cry but doing so will only dehydrate you. Just relax and be at ease - easier said than done.

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I barely took my prenatals and my daughter came out just fine. I has such severe nausea that I would throw up just smelling the vitamins.

Kia - posted on 08/11/2010

Okay, don't listen to your husband. I'm sorry to say this, but he is causing you stress, which yes, can contribute to hurting your unborn baby. But no, not taking your prenatals, will not kill your baby. I also stopped taking mine because they were making me sick & my daughter was born healthy! And as far as you crying, try not to because you are, of course, causing yourself stress. So just try not to get so upset to the point where your spending endless hours sobbing into a pillow. But as far as crying alone, it's not hurtful. Showing your emotions is definitely a big part of pregnancy! Just keep your stress levels to a minimum! That's the key! And if your not going to take your prenatal vitamins, some good advice would be to maybe take a gummy multi-vitamin for women, yes, they do have them. Also, try to eat as healthy as possible according to your likes & dislikes.

Marie - posted on 08/11/2010

pregnant women cry all the time it is not just you, its from hormons changing

Marie - posted on 08/11/2010

no ur baby won't die. the reason why the drs. have u take vitamns is to make sure u and the baby stays healthy

Karla-Dawn - posted on 08/11/2010

Your baby won't die if you are not taking prenatal vitamins. I missed out on vitamins for the first 5 months of my pregnancy with my son, and he is a very healthy 14 month old now. Don't get yourself upset about it cause that is what could cause issues for your pregnancy. If you stress out and get depressed the baby knows and that can affect the child. Prenatals do help alot, they make sure that you don't miss any vitamins at all and that your baby is able to get everything it needs. But they are not a necessity. As for crying, we all cry and its natural. You crying won't hurt your baby I cried a heck of a lot when I was pregnant with my son and I cry constantly now that I am pregnant with my second. My son is healthy and happy. Your horomones make you cry, but its not hurting the baby.

Heather - posted on 08/11/2010

YOur baby will not die becasue your not taking your vitamins or because you cry. When I was pregnant I was very emotional I was happy one minute, bawling my eyes out the next. Its just your horomones. Prenatal vitamins help give your baby certain vitamins it may need but it can also get those vitamins from the food you eat. I only took my vitamins on the days I remembered to and it wasnt very often, and my son come into this world as "healthy as a horse". If you cant take the prenatal vitamins take Flinstone vitamins they give the exact same vitamins thats what I did cause I couldnt swallow those huge pills. I wish you the best of luck ..... Congrats =)

Ashley - posted on 08/11/2010

Your husband is just being a jerk! there are plenty of women who don't take prenatal vitamins at all the ENTIRE pregnancy, I didn't take mine the 1st 3 months because I was always so nauseous and the huge pill made me want to throw up so I didn't take it, my son is 17 months and perfectly healthy all around!
Crying during pregnancy won't hurt the baby at all, 9 months before I got pregnant my older sister was killed by a drunk driver and I was pretty depressed about it for over a year (during my pregnancy as well!!!) and my son didn't get hurt in any way by me crying all the time. You're a great mom and nothing you're doing seems wrong!!

Beth - posted on 08/11/2010

The prenatal vitamins are good for the mother & baby, but just because you stopped taking them for a week doesn't mean your baby will die. Your husband needs to calm down. No you can't kill your husband because your crying for a long time. Although most of us have thought about it once, during stressful times. Your baby will get the nutrients from you & the food you eat. Just make sure to eat right & try your best to stay healthy during your pregnancy. You are not a horrible mother just because you didn't take your vitamins for a week. Start them back up again if you haven't already. Your child will be fine. Congratulations by the way!

Mellissa - posted on 08/11/2010

Missen your prenatal vitamines is not going to make your baby die. It may cause some other things but there is a 1 percent chance that would happen. Im on my 3 child and my husbond is a first time father and is very scared. Some men over think things and think of the worse. Just tell him he can relax. If he is very concern to go to the docter and ask. :)

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You're not a bad mother. There were times in my pregnancy when i didn't take my prenatal vitimans either and both of my boys came out perfectly healthy. Do you think that prenatal vitamins have always been around? No so it is not like if you don't have them that something is going to happen to your baby. Just make sure that you include a variety of foods in your diet that way your baby can get the nutrients he/she needs. Crying does put stess on the baby. They can sense when something is wrong. With my first son i went through a heart breaking break up and i sobbed so much for months and he is a very hiper child. I am not sure if the crying had anything to do with him being hiper but while i was pregnant my mother would always tell me to calm down or i would have a nervous child. Just don't stress out. You should be enjoying your pregnancy.I wish you the best of luck on everything!

Tarra - posted on 08/11/2010

I tried to take vitamins my first time around and I have a problem taking them due to the size of them and so I took em here and there plus to me they smelled and tasted funny which made me sick, but the point is I didn't just miss a week I pretty much didn't take them, and I was having twins both girls came on their due date and were 5lbs each. So no its not gonna hurt the baby but like everyone is saying it may hurt you. I never ate red meat or iorn filled veggies growing up so I had to take iorn pills for and during my first I craved steak and iorn filled foods. My doctor then tested me and I was low on iorn, so your body will tell you if you need something cause it will crave it. As for crying your not hurting the baby at all, a good cry is sometimes very much needed and it sounds like you needed it. The books help a lot with explaining what you are looking forward too. They also explain what not to do as well but it sounds (the way I read it) your having twins, or you have an older daughter and if you have a child already, how did you get thru those 9-months? If your having twins its not so bad and just be normal, your husband may just be scared and men can be very silly or even very insensetive when it comes to women and our feelings more so when we are pregnant!!! It will be ok!! Oh and with my second pregnancey my doctor told me to take childrens vitamins since she knew I didn't do so hot with the others but as long as your eating healthy and not drinking, or smoking you should be fine.

Mona - posted on 08/10/2010

No it won't kill ur baby if u dnt take dem but those pill are whts helpin ur hild be healthy bcus when u have ur baby, he or she is taken alot of ur blood and calcium and if u dnt be careful u could lose alot of blood and kill both of u during labor... But it dnt always happen... Jus try to take dem and about da cryin, no it won't it's part of being pregnant, ur horomones changes, mood swings. Next ur gonna be mad all of a sudden for da most smallest things ever... And ur gonna wanna have sex all da time... But jus dnt worry or stress out dats really bad for u... Calm down and tell ur boyfriend to understand u, and guys could have it to so he might change his mood like crazy... Ull be alright

Dorothy - posted on 08/10/2010

i agree with all the other ladies. what your husband said is false. the only things that can harm baby are medications and some herbal medications/teas ( such as rose leaf tea, it can send you into labour if drank consistantly), falls, cigarettes, caffine and aspertame. that being said you will hear people say many things during your pregnancy that they think will hurt you or are good for you i found the best source is your doc. And take your hubby with you! this was my saving grace with all my pregnancies because my hubby is WAY overprotective and having an expert tell him made him calm down way faster than me telling or sometimes arguing it with him. I took prenantals with my first and she was born a healthy 9 lbs, i hardly took them at all with my second because i would forget and she was born 10lbs 12 oz, and i took a multivitamin and folic acid with my third and she was just born 5 weeks early at 8 lbs 2 oz so i would not worry about your forgetful vitamin regime. the most important advice you could hear is what i was told with my first " just relax, trust your doctor and enjoy it before you know it 9 months will be gone and you will be up at 3 am wishing for just 1 more month of pregnancy!" LOL

Phyllis - posted on 08/10/2010

My prenatals made me sick to my stomach, so I switched to a regular multi vitamin and a folic acid daily. The reduction in iron made me feel better. Stress is not good for you, but neither is bottling up your emotions. Crying a lot won't hurt baby, but if you are crying a lot, you should ask your doctor. Maybe he can help find someone for you to talk with and help you through this emotional time. It does not sound like your husband is being any good in THAT area.

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Oh honey I love you just because of this. I TOTALLY understand. My ex was this way. I finally asked the same question to my mother and she was appalled. I was lucky. She got her hands on him and let him have it. I didn't see him for almost 24 hours. When I did again he was different. He stopped acting that way towards me. You know what I want to be in your circle if you let me. you can talk to me whenever you want. There is NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU! You are a wonderful mother already JUST for worrying. Yes you need your prenatals but NOT if they make you sick. You can cry all you want it doesn't hurt the baby. You do what YOU think is right for your child and other children. That includes getting rid of your husband if he presists in the verbal abuse.

good luck and god bless.