In Laws

Techfem - posted on 12/01/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )




I to have a mixed family.

His mine and ours.

Concerning my husbands Mother I just don't make it an issue in front of the kids.
Yes she ignores her step kids birthdays/Christmas but she lives 1000 miles away
that makes it easier to over look. I still put something in all the kids stockings from both sets of grandparents,, Its because I want the kids to believe that when they get older it can be a good thing,, I want them to think getting older means you become wiser and not a dumb ass old fart lol.

My mother in law will mail something to her bio grandchild at times and put something in there for my younger kid but I always intercept it open it and check out stuff - why - because I am the household manager and no one sends my young kids anything through anyone where I don't know about it.

I don't play the little games with relatives, I just watch and know that God works in mysterious ways and how ever you treat others effects your future..

Its entertaining to watch how things unfold and its more than obvious they all reap what they sow...

Do I rub it in their face when it comes back on them, NO NOT AT ALL....

Again when they are 1000 miles away why care ?


Jodi - posted on 12/01/2015




Has anyone actually ever said something to her? I will admit that when my husband and I decided to blend our families, part of that was that our respective families embraced each of the children and treated them equally when they were together. And both sets of grandparents treat all of the children as if they were their own grandchildren. So I understand where you are coming from in your expectations. But if you guys can't have a conversation with her about your expectations, then you shouldn't complain if they aren't met.

Sarah - posted on 12/01/2015




I am a little confused why a step-grandparent who lives 1000 miles away is supposed to send gifts to your kids? You are playing games by letting your kids believe that the relationship between them and your mother-in-law is something that it is not.


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Dove - posted on 12/01/2015




I wouldn't buy gifts on behalf of someone else unless they sent the money and asked me to do so. It actually sounds like you may be creating issues that don't need to be there.

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