Irish Twins? Advice?

User - posted on 01/31/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




My husband and I are thinking about trying for another baby two months after the last one was born, any advice? We also have a 2.5 year old. And we are trying to decide if it right for us and how difficult it would be.


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Caitlin - posted on 02/01/2012




I love my kids close together.. mine are 15 months apart (first 2) and 19 months apart for the second two.. It's damn hard work - but I am fortunate enough to be home with all 3 at the moment. Wouldn't change it for the world!

Isobel - posted on 02/01/2012




I got pregnant again when my first was 9 months...and it is hell on earth trying to take care of a year and a half old at the same time as a new born.

The new born was waking through the night because that was his job, but the older one was also waking up teething.

Two sets of diapers, two sets of bottles if you don't breastfeed. Having to sit and breastfeed while the older one is tearing the place up if you do breastfeed.

Now, that sounded horrible and I'm sorry because NOW they are of an age where they are friends and pretty much forget that I exist (which, believe it or not is nice sometimes).

If I had it to do over again I would've gone at least 2 years apart if not 3.

Emma - posted on 01/31/2012




My 2 are 14 months apart, they are great friends, on the down side hell its hard work when they are both small.

Tara - posted on 01/31/2012




Medical research as well as research on infant development and emotional attachment etc. would indicate that the best spacing is approximately 27 months apart. The reasons for this include medical reasons, as well as psychological reasons. I would do more research into this before making any decisions. But I personally had my kids between 29 and 32 months apart. (I have six kids) ages 18, 15, 11, 9, 6 and 2. The spacing has always been great, they play well with each other but were always somewhat independent when we had their next sib.

So you currently have a 30 month old and a 2 month old? That's a great gap. Your oldest child was able to receive all the personalized care and attention he/she needed when in infancy, your new baby benefits from the same quality of attention and your older child gains independence naturally.

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