is 14 to young to date?

Candice - posted on 10/11/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




My Friend told me she saw my 14 year old Kissing on a boy that lives close to us I asked her about it but of course i got the ewwww and i would never do that but she kinda seemed upset that i was even asking her I want to believe my child but If she was seen It has to be True im ok with her being in a relationship I just want her to be honest with me cause I don't want her to become a teen mom like i was im lost my first teen out of 4 kids and im don't what im doing when it comes to boys


Bobbie - posted on 10/11/2012




Be more alert to signals that she has too much free unaccountable time. That is where most teen girls get into trouble. At 14 it is too young to date, absolutely. They don't have the emotional confidence to say "no" to that boy who is a lot more ready than they are. Also a 14 year old is very unbalanced as to what is happening to them inside. Their body and thoughts are changing and can easily be mistaken for love. That is why they call it puppy love. Too young to know what really is and way to young to act upon it.

The best time to talk to her is when you can be yourself and not put her on guard. Parent's of teen should never say, "we need to talk". Just start talking. Ask her how she FEELS about boys right now. Is there someone special she likes to talk to? Then throw in your motherly advise WITHOUT judgement on your own young experiences. Being a parent means giving them guidance regardless of if you were there or not. Parents can make the mistake of saying to their girls that they made the same mistakes, or don't make the same mistakes I made. Rather than that conversation focus on what you expect from her because you want her to feel good about herself, honor her body and self with choices that do not take from her anything that she doesn't want to save for her husband.


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Bobbie - posted on 10/12/2012




@Rachael, "if she is too young to marry and then have a baby" :) Girls can have a baby at any age, but being married to have the baby, that is a different age.

Rachael - posted on 10/12/2012




If she's too young to have a baby or get married she's too young to date, after all that is the point of dating, right? Just my personal philosophy, I have 4 daughters ;)

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