Is anyone out there? please help

Samantha - posted on 12/30/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have not spoken to my mother in over a year, nor have I seen her in person.
I got married almost 2 years ago to my wonderful husband. We are both born again Christians.
I have an almost 1 year old baby girl.
My life has been great ever since I moved out of my mothers house a couple years ago. I am suprized that I am normal and do not have any mental problems.
I never turned to drugs either and I had a natural labor with no pain meds when I gave birth to my baby girl. I also have never smoked in my life.

I never met my biological dad, he commuted suicide when I was just a baby.
My mother has bipolar and depression.
When I was about 5 years old my half brother and I got taken away to foster care for a couple years and my half brother then lived with my dad and I got to live back with my mom because she had a stable man at the time.

I love my mother but I just don't want my mother near my daughter ever. My mother and ex step dad are not right in the head.
My mother has been in and out of mental hospital more than 3 times. My mother has cut it the past and she drank antifreeze a couple years ago and I was only 17 when my mom almost died. My mother has attempted suicide so many times. My mother would abuse pain meds and my mother even did meth. I was only 15 when I caught her in her room doing meth. I remember I was doing her laundry and I found a needle and almost got poked. I thank the lord for protecting me.
My ex stepdad is crazy. He use to verbally and mentally abuse me. He would threaten to kill me and he would call me awefull names. My ex stepdad would get drunk and just beat my mother up to the point where she had 2 black eyes and a busted lip. I was just a kid so I didn't know who to turn to and I was scared to go to foster care again. I remember when I was 18, a couple years ago and I was in my room. My ex stepdad came in my room and demanded to know where my boyfriend at the time lived. I refused to give my ex stepdad my boyfriend at the times address because I knew my ex stepdad would harass him and his family.
My ex stepdad then threatened me and then grabbed me by the neck and was chocking me. He then hit me on the heels. I couldnt take it. (I texted my BF at the time beforehand to come and bpick me up)
I then tried to run out the front door and ex stepdad grabbed me again. I was screaming and urgg I remember the smell from his hands of weed.. I twisted my body and ran out the back door, he was chasing me and my mom didnt even care she was just in her room. Then I saw my boyfriend at the time car and I ran to his car and got in. I was so happy to get out of there.

My ex stepdad also came to my hubby with a baseball bat threatening to hit him for no reason. My ex stepdad was drunk.

Almost 2 years have passed. I visited my mom when I was 4 months prego to get my jury duty papers and that was the last time I have seen her. She had no Idea that I was pregnant. Now another year has passed and We talked on Facebook about 6 months ago because she told me she was pregnant. So now I have a half sister.

My mother found out where i am living and at 1:30 in the morning they decided to try and break in. The cops came and didn't arrest them they got away with family dispute. I almost got the restraining order, but never had time to get it.
Well, my grandam on my moms side cant even stand her own daughter, my mother. My grandma is on my side. Today we talked on the phone and she told me that my mom, aunt and ex stepdad found out about my daughter. I am a little freaked out because now my mom and ex stepdad know where my hubby and I am living and now they know about my 1 year old daughter and her name. How did they find out? Through the hospital? The internet? DO you think my grandma on accident said something?

I am just scared that my mom or ex stepdad might try and take my baby I feel so violated. I dont want my baby girl to ever go through hat I did. My moms not right in the head. I forgive her, but I just never trust her watching my baby. Like, I know no one is perfect and I know she is my mother but when It comes down to my baby, I want what is best for my daughter. I mean I only give my daughter organic food and I still breastfeed her and never given her any soda or junk food.


Rosie - posted on 12/30/2013




Not to be disrespectful but I couldn't read all that your childhood sounds awful, you are the mother of your daughter hun remember that! You don't have to let your mum see the child let alone have her. Does she know about your daughter? Maybe you should focus on maybe building your relationship back up with your mother if that is what you want. If not don't talk to her yet see how u feel in about a year. Your child should not be in your mums life until ou think she is capable of being a good role model for your daughter.

Vivienne Frances - posted on 12/30/2013




sorry in regards to your situation,I would definitely be getting a restraining order if i was you!sounds like the drugs control your Mothers life,in some ways a sad situation.You may have to move for peace of mind eventually if it comes to it.I would.sounds like you have a great and supportive husband,and a beautiful baby also.Concentrate on the two most important people in your life,dont let this woman try and upset you too much,you are better.when you get restraining order,get some advice from the of wishes to you all


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