is diaper changing traumatic for anyone else's kid?

Melissa - posted on 08/12/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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it started a few months ago when my now 2 year old son yelled when he got his diaper changed. no reason, just didn't want to stop playing i guess. in the last month though, it's gotten really bad! like i'l tekk him in the morning "first we'll change, then we'll get breakfast." he'll fold up his arms and scoot to the back corner of the crib and scream "NNNNNOOOOOOOOOO!" but then he gets on the table and he's fine! it's just the getting him TO the table that's the big problem. anyone else have this problem? any suggestions?

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Amy - posted on 08/12/2009

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They all go through this...mine went through it at 10mos...he got over it pretty quick

Christine - posted on 08/12/2009

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My oldest daughter was bad for this. I had to change her on the floor with my feet on her shoulders. I finally potty-trained her at 18 months. It was easier than the diaper changes!! All of my other kids were fine, though.

Stina - posted on 08/12/2009

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Oh yes. I remember this. When my dd stopped wanting to let me change her, I abandoned the changeing table and wrestled her down wherever she was. As she cried and fought, I kept telling her the options she had: 1. Use the toilet. 2. or have your diaper changed.

The power of suggestion didn't work ... but eventually, when she was two an a half, she stopped fighting me and started instructing me in the best way to clean her but. The next day, I introduced the 'potty timer' and we said bye bye to diapers.

At least your guy isn't fighting during the change. Good luck. Won't be long and you'll be potty training. :-)

Melissa - posted on 08/12/2009

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OMG cindy! that's horrible/hilarious! keegan...just yesterday...got mad at me because i took a toy away from him outside because it was time to come in. he went in the neighbor's yard, sat down, folded his arms, and just glared at me. he's only 2! i called and told my dad, because i thought i'd have at least another 8 years before that blatant refusal started, especially with the attitude like that! boy was i wrong! dad said i used to do the same thing to him all the time! so it's true...we're always blessed with a kid just like we were!

and toni...i don't make the mistake of calling daddy anymore because of the way he reacts. i DONT want him to only behave for daddy! even when my hubby offers help now, i don't take it, because i don't want my son to think dad is rescuing him from mean old mommy! he's stuck with me, so he'd better get used to it! LOL!

Cindy - posted on 08/12/2009

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YOU ARE NOT ALONE. When he is ready for potty training he will tell you. I know 6 families of naked boys. My son is no different. When he does not want to do something, and I give in just one time it's a fight to get the job done.



I did not potty train until Cam was 32 months old.



***He decided he didn't want to be undressed for a doc's app, he screamed and screamed until I got him dressed again, and then he stopped the tantrum and said "I win." and walked out of the room. His Ped looked at me and laughed, he then said "well, I never..." and walked out of the room chuckling. He still bugs Cam about it everytime they see each other. (He's a great Doctor)

Our new bundle will scream and kick up a fuss when you go to put on the new diaper, but I just laugh and tickle him and try to make him happy. He's not happy, but the job gets done.



my point. you are not the only mom. Don't give in. sometimes you need to be the "bad guy." If you can find a distraction do it.



Good luck.

Toni - posted on 08/12/2009

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LMAO... That's too funny...but be careful. You don't want him to walk all over you and use the "I'll call Daddy in here" to get him to do things. My boyfriend wanted me to tell his kids that when Daddy gets home, they'll be in trouble if they don't behave for me. I didn't agree to that because they need to learn to respect me. So I just found different methods that work for them both to get through the day. It works...just gotta be creative sometimes. BUT being firm is something that I would never overlook. Meaning business is important and they need to see that YOU MEAN BUSINESS! LOL Have a great day ladies :)

Melissa - posted on 08/12/2009

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LOL valerie! i'm glad i'm not the only one with these issues! of course he doesn't do it with dad, so any time i changed him and called daddy for back up he didn't understand what was so hard about it! isn't it crazy how they fight and scream and kick and cry, and then they're just fine the next minute? then they look at you like, "what? let's play!" grrrrrrrr...

Melissa - posted on 08/12/2009

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i tried potty training...it's a struggle, that's for sure! he wants nothing to do with it...but he wants nothing to do with the pull ups either! LOL! he just wants to be naked...and that's not happening!

distract him...hmmm. he decided last week that his favorite song is the itsy bitsy spider...maybe we'll sing that when we change. i'll see if it works! thanks!

Valerie - posted on 08/12/2009

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OH man, I am having a really hard time myself. My son is 16months old and a mini Incredible hulk when it come to strength. It is a full on wrestling match to change his diaper. I have no strength to sing a song or do anything but hold his body, arms, and one leg down with my own body and struggle to keep him down and the other leg in control while I do the deed. I hope it passes soon. I'm out of breath when we are all done and he goes back to normal happy baby.

User - posted on 08/12/2009

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yeah my little boy is 19 months and he does NOT like his diaper changed. I just deal with it. I tell him to STOP firmly, from kicking and screaming and he usually does. I just try to catch his attention with something else.

Toni - posted on 08/12/2009

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My boyfriend's 2 1/2 yr old sort of did the same thing except he'd cry and make a big stink about going. I'd continue with taking his clothes off to get to his diaper regardless of his crying tantrum. While I was doing it, I came up with a song to sing him that was playful for interaction that kept him laughing instead of crying. I don't know if you know "Little Bunny Foo Foo", (LOL - silly, but fun) but something that moves your hands to have his eyes follow them to keep him distracted.



You may even try a warm wash cloth. Remove his diaper and put the warm wash cloth (or warm his wipes) there. Maybe it's the warmth he's liking. Good luck :)

Topaz - posted on 08/12/2009

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my daughter is only 3 months, but i have friends who have gone thru this and i suggested potty training.. it helped them out! good luck

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