Is it damaging to leave a 3 week old for 6 hours of college classes

Carrie - posted on 07/01/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )





I am due to have my first child on August 3rd. I am hoping to begin college classes on August 23rd. The class I would attend would be 6 hours a day, four days a week. I would leave him with my female partner and I know he would be prfectly safe and happy with her, but I question how healthy it is for mommy to leave baby after only a few weeks in the world.

If any mothers have comments on the subject or experience of their own, please share. This is my first child and as time gets closer, I sem to be getting some anxieties about being a good mother. Thank you


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Tamara - posted on 07/02/2011




The baby will be fine as long as he/she is clean fed and cuddled.

First thing its hard to say how you will recover in 3 weeks may take longer. also yes you will be at school for 6 hours there is also hours of homework and studing that you will have to do so that will add to your time away, As Sharon said it will be hard for you not only lack of sleep but missing the little one.

Sharon - posted on 07/02/2011




No, I don't think it's damaging at all. It will be hard for you, but bubs will be ok. It's the same as when people have to go back to work. My hubby had to go away for a work conference, for 8 nights when our 2nd was 3wks old (he's 10wks old now). I went back to work (my husbands business) when our son was 5wks old, family looked after bubs (tried to do it earlier, but had a c-section, so I couldn't.). This is our 2nd child, and our first went into daycare 3 days a week at 11wks of age. There has been no harm to either of the boys and they are both extremely close to me. It has not made one bit of difference to the bonding or anything. Our youngest calms to me within a minute when he won't calm for anyone else, will smile the second he sees me and will nod off to sleep with a few simple rocks (none of which he does anywhere near as quick, if at all with anyone else), and that's with me working 3days a week, and being away from him for 9-10hrs on those days. Our eldest is definitely a 'mummys boy' and only mummys cuddles & kisses make him feel better.

It is heartbreaking for you, especially at the start. I still have guilt, even with our eldest who is now 20mths. Some weeks I absolutely hate leaving him, and still get emotional over it. Part of being a good mum is providing the best possible life for your kiddies, and sometimes that means having to be away from those little tikes when we really really don't want to be.

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