Is it normal for a 15 year old to feel like they're a grown adult?

Nori - posted on 12/01/2017 ( 3 moms have responded )




Starting around 14, my daughter began to feel "old". She thinks she knows a lot more than she really does. When she turned 15, she did start worrying more about part-time jobs and college. It's a great thing that she takes schoolwork more seriously now (as a result). I don't think my teen spends as much time with us anymore. There's that part of her that really thinks she's 24. Is it typical teenage behavior or should I be concerned about this "adult" thing? I didn't experience it with my older son, just her.


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Lexi - posted on 12/04/2017




Every kid is different, for sure. Only a few generations before them kids were considered adults around age 13. They were running the farm, cooking meals, and taking care of the other kids. A few generations before them kids knew how to build their own homes, start fires, and already knew a trade. In other cultures kids are considered adults around that age, as well. Probably a happy medium is the best. Not too old and not too young. There is a problem today with "adult babies". People who are in college and high school are treated and act like kids, stunting their emotional and intellectual growth. They graduate high school and college with literally no idea what to do with themselves or how to take care of their lives properly. Comparatively, there are kids these days who own and operate businesses at age 15! They are thrifty and self sufficient. I think you have a pretty cool sounding kid.

Sarah - posted on 12/03/2017




Showing signs of maturity is a positive thing and it is typical for an independent teen to spend less time with her family. The phrase you make: "There's that part of her that really thinks she's 24" is concerning. Do you mean this metaphorically or does your child actually think she is 24 at times?

Michelle - posted on 12/01/2017




Girls mature a lot earlier than boys and that's why she is thinking about these things before he did.
There's nothing wrong with her thinking about the future and what she is going to do. It's showing she is mature and wanting to be responsible.
There does have to be a balance though and she needs to enjoy her childhood still. Maybe sit down with her and tell her that you think it's great that she's thinking about her future but she still needs to be a kid. Let her know that it's your job to worry more about her until she is 18 (or older). Tell her that she needs to concentrate on her schoolwork and get good grades so she can further her studies in the profession she wants.

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