Thong - posted on 03/24/2010 ( 206 moms have responded )
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My boy is already 27mth old but still not talking. I am very worried.Is there anyone out there who is the same as my boy. what should i do??
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Meg - posted on 04/03/2010
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is he a only child?? i have three and the last talks only very little, doc said nothing to worry about hes lazy i was worry but watched him, he is lazy points to everything he wants and his sister or brother gets what he needs if you get everything he needs and doesnt need or want for anything he may just not feel the need to say anything, if you feel he is hearing you and you feel there is nothing wrong with your child dont let a doc make you think that :)
Mary - posted on 04/03/2010
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I have known children who did not start to speak until they were about 4 or 5 years old. They simply did not have anything "important" to say, until they started socializing with new children in school. One little girl was the youngest of three, and her parents and older siblings routinely "anticipated" what she needed/wanted, and were there to meet her every whim almost before she knew herself what she wanted, so there was no reason for her to ever speak a single word. Until she started to school, and found out that she had to learn to express herself. My daughter chattered all the time, but she spoke such gibberish that only the babysitter, her grandmother, and I were ever able to decipher what she was saying. The doctor cleaned her ears, her hearing was tested, and I even took her to a speech therapist. None of it helped, until she started to school and had to learn to speak so that other people could understand her, also. As long as you have determined that your little boy does not have any hearing disorders or other physiological problems that would prevent him from speaking, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Keep talking to him so that he learns language skills, and when he's ready to speak, he will.
Autumn - posted on 04/03/2010
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Ask his doctor about it and ask for a referal for him to have testing from a speech language pathologist. He should have a lot of words although there are some late talkers. It is better to go ahead and have him checked out.
April - posted on 04/03/2010
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Are you a bilingual family? My friend's son didn't speak until he was almost 4 and I think it was because she is bilingual and she spoke Romanian and English to him. But once he began talking he wouldn't stop and speaks fluent in both languages.
Sinead - posted on 04/03/2010
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i would suggest that you take him to see the health nurse at this stage the milestone should be that he is able to say 3 words in a kind of sentence although of course they are all different my son did have a slow start at that age he dose have some understanding of language difficulties which we are working on at the moment and he is doing great so my advice is if your concern at all seek professional help and dont be frighten it is horrible to hear that our child may have a problem but the sooner you find out the sooner you can start to help him. hope this helps and good luck
Brenda - posted on 04/03/2010
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My nephew was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder due to slow speech development along with other delayed-development behaviors. However, my daughter also was slow with almost every milestone because she is a perfectionist. Turns out, she's very smart, but won't attempt new things until she is confident enough to master it. Definitely consult your pediatrician to see if they need to evaluate his development as a whole, but don't get too worried.
Lauren - posted on 04/03/2010
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My son is like that and i took him to the doctors and now we have someone come to the house every week to help with his talking. Just go to the doctors.
Jennifer - posted on 04/03/2010
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whatever the reason you will find wonderful people to work with. professionals arent all the same. sometimes the magic is in finding the people to work with who are marvellous. the others who arent so marvellous also have value in your journey. they will trigger your more ciritical thinking and advocacy skills. your medical record keeping is going to come into play down the road so may i suggest you get a nice binder and start keeping records, from documents to phone calls and conversations and contact info with dates. also review for your region or area what the available supports are. get a pediatrician involved as well as a family doctor. there are many developmental delays in average children which are not cause for alarm. and there are also many conditions that involve delays. learn about the developmental timelines. do your research. when children skip the milestones it is not up to anyone else but you and your healthcare providors to decide whether it is cause for concern or not. a thousand people may have stories and opinions, but the ones that matter are yours and your physicians'. i can tell you about my child who has significant issues. my story is one of hope and encouragement tho you will hear from others who may not offer the positive tho well-meaning, may not suggest and support you in ways that are helpful. i encourage you to get information and go on from there. best wishes!
Michelle - posted on 04/03/2010
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at 2 years old my son wasn't really talking at all either but now that he is about to turn 3 in a couple weeks, he can say just about everything, he can count, knows his colors, i wouldn't be to over concerned yet.
Holly - posted on 04/03/2010
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Out of my five children, three have had speech issues. My youngest son is three and had the same issue - he didn't talk. All he did was grunt and point to what he wanted. As a mother that had two sons prior to this that had speech issues, I decided to talk to the pediatrician about it. He too was concerned since my son (at 18 months) was so delayed. We did the typical thing with hearing tests and then were referred to our state's Early Intervention program. They did speech and language testing (free of charge for us) and found that he qualified for speech therapy. After being in speech awhile, we found that it wasn't enough and had an occupational therapist look at him. Turns out he has some sensory issues and some oral motor issues that the OT was able to work with.
Since you are concerned, I'd talk to your pediatrician and see if he can refer you to an audiologist and if he knows of an Early Intervention program where you are. Once we started with the OT, my sons speech improved by leaps and bounds. It's wonderful being able to understand more of what he is trying to say.
I wish you luck!
Kristi - posted on 04/03/2010
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Yes, Einstein didn't say a word until he was three. :)
Kari - posted on 04/03/2010
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Dont worry its not all that uncomon. Maybe he just doesnt have anything to say but boy watch out cause starts talking he might not stop. No but really if your responding to non verbal cue's he doesnt need words. Have you had his hearing checked.
LYNN - posted on 04/03/2010
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I don't believe that this is normal...but I work with preschoolers who are speech delayed, they can catch up. You need to get him evaluated ASAP, so that you can get him into a program to help him. What does you doctor say, have you talked it over? You DR. should help you get to where you need to be...good luck, and most of all BE PATIENT! bless both of you
Corlia - posted on 04/03/2010
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Stand behind him and talk to him or slam a door or just make a noise. If he reacts then there is nothing wrong with his hearing. If you tell him to do something: does he understand you and do the task?
As long as he understands you and you have established that there is no hearing problem then its fine and you have to be patient.
Susie - posted on 04/03/2010
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Out of all four of my children, the one that was the latest on everything...including talking had the highest IQ. I myself was a very late talker (3 or 4) however, out of 5 children I made the highest income. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. This is more usual than you know.
Maggie - posted on 04/03/2010
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every child is different. i would say my son was well over two years old before he started talking. for one thing, he was an only child, he always had his binky in his mouth, and he really didn't need to talk to communicate with us. he was very good at getting across what he wanted. my MIL would bug us about the fact that he wasn't talking, it wasn't normal, etc. and was very worried about it. our son was perfectly normal in every way so i wasn't worried about it. he finally did start talking, and was talking just fine. if you have concerns, though, there is nothing wrong with having him checked out.
Jennifer - posted on 04/03/2010
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Not to alarm you, but II have two special needs children and the first sign that something was wrong with my oldest was that at 2 she wasn't talking. (My 10- year-old son is still nonverbal.) Does your son have any words at all? I would have his hearing tested first, as others have suggested. On the other hand, some children are just late talkers. My youngest daughter (who is very bright) wasn't saying anything at all at 18 months and naturally I shoved her right into speech therapy, In six months time she was completely caught up and now that she is 5 I can't shut her up! Best of luck to you.
Dianne - posted on 04/03/2010
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Not at all unusual maybe he has got you and any siblings trained to answer to his grunts, etc
My grandson did not talk at all until he was almost 3 and then started talking in full sentences when his sister was born He is now in first grade and at the top of his class so it seems that he had nothing to say
Also, my sister did not talk until she started school because I did it all for her(Mom says I talked at 9 mos and have not shut since- I'm 60 now)
Don't worry yet, when he starts he probably won't shut up even when you would like him too
most boys are sower than girls to talk anyway
God Bless
Granny Di
Faith - posted on 04/03/2010
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Years ago my when daughter was just a little over 1 1/2 years and wasn't talking. It was determined that she needed speech therapy and it worked wonders for her. Within just a few sessions, she was actually saying words and then putting sentences together. The therapists said that some kids just need extra help with building their vocabulary. Seems they have the thoughts in their brains, they just haven't gotten the ability to process those thoughts into words so they can talk. If you haven't already, you may want to discuss this with your child's doctor. Also, we were encouraged to not give her things she wanted until she verbalized them. Just motioning and making grunting sounds no longer got her the things she wanted, now she had to actaully ask for them or make a real good attempt at asking. We were also feeding her words constantly, it seemed like 24 hours of therapy for a while there. Once she got the words together, she chattered away like most other kids were doing. Good luck.
T.S. - posted on 04/03/2010
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My first child, now almost 8, was like this. Does he watch and listen to you and respond accordingly? I asked the pediatrician at the 2 year check-up. He aked my son some questions, he responded. The doc said not a problem unless it lasts past 3. He's totally normal.
Kate - posted on 04/03/2010
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My son was the same way and his pediatrician suggested a program called birth to 3. We had a speech therapist come to the home and she taught us techniques on how to get him to speech. Is your son afraid to get his hands dirty...literally? Picky eater? She taught us how to pull the words out of him...he will be 3 soon and he is now a chatterbox.
Angela - posted on 04/03/2010
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Get his hearing checked as it could be something as simple as this that is stopping him talking.
Another reason could be an older sibling that does everything for him, my eldest used to run around after his little brother after he had as much as pointed to something so there was no reason for him to talk.
Shipra - posted on 04/02/2010
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i guess there is nothing too much to worry about. But precautions are better than care.
so i feel you must consult a professional in this. Earlier we act faster we will be able to resolve. Concentrate and focus with priority on this for a little while.
Amy - posted on 04/02/2010
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My first grandson was 3 and not talking. My daughter was encouraged to put him in preschool as soon as he turned 3. They started teaching him sign language. He has been talking ever since and is now 8. She was living in Colorado Springs at the time.
Christina - posted on 04/02/2010
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I had the same problem with my son now 5years. I called a hot line which sot me in touch with some services like speach therapy I want to say it was called S.E.P.A but I do remember the name of one center E.L.I ( early learning institude) it's in R.P they should have info for you but I can say my son talks just fine now.
Anne - posted on 04/02/2010
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Ask for a speech assessment at your ped/regional center, your child should have a hearing evaluation done also.
Diane - posted on 04/02/2010
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Is he not saying any words, or is he just not understandable? Sometimes peolpe worry that their kids aren't talking and then they realize that it's more that they can't recognize their words. Another thing that could slow things down is if he's had a lot of ear infections or even just a few if they're bad ones. I would let the Dr. know and keep an eye on things. Sometimes it's not a problem at all but if he's behind in several different things then that could indicate a problem.
Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010
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It's actually NOT 14-mths that a child should be using 2 word sentences it's more like 2 years.
Samantha - posted on 04/02/2010
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Late speaking can be a sign of Autistic/Aspergers. I would go see your pediatrician and get him to assess him and maybe have his hearing tested.. Your doctor can run a few tests to see what the problem is, If you are concerned, go see someone!
Iris - posted on 04/02/2010
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My son only grunted until he was 3 yrs old or so and even when he started speaking it was hard to understand. I asked his pediatrician and he said that everyone is different and everyone learns at their time. He'll be 5 in May and speaks fine and is a smart kid... a little too energetic but perfectly normal. I wouldn't worry too much unless there's other areas that you are worrying about as well. Hope this helps.
Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010
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My youngest son (my middle child) didn't talk until he was 31 months old, but he used sign language fairly well (I taught all 3 of my kids to sign at 6 months) so my doctor was not worried and said he'd speak when he was ready - which he did. He has done EVERYTHING on his own timetable (such as not eating solid foods until 12 months, riding a bike w/out training wheels at age 4, etc.) He is now reading his name, writing his alphabet, and writing his numbers to 20 and he won't be 5 til June 4th.) I would not worry if he can otherwise communicate well with you.
Linda - posted on 04/02/2010
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My grandaughter who is three now was not talking and we found out that she was not hearing good because of so many ear infections....so tubes were inserted to keep the ears drained and a speec therapist worked with her for a few months and she jabbering away now. My daughter noticed she was not saying many words and also she would not turn around if you were talking to her.....just was off in her own little world. Ask for a referral from your pediatrician.
Hope this helps.
Kathy - posted on 04/02/2010
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If he is not saying any words at all definitely get hearing checked. If he points or makes noise to get what he wants be sure to talk to him and if he wants water say water. Don't just give him what he points at. Give him a reason to talk. Does he respond if you say his name behind him where he can' see you. Then he does have hearing and just may be lazy. Do discuss with your pediatrican though. He should know resources to send you too if needed.
Crystal - posted on 04/02/2010
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That sounds like a sign of autism to me, I would get him tested.
Emily - posted on 04/02/2010
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My friends daughter was like that and they finally checked her hearing and she has 60% loss in one and like 40% in the other so once she had hearing aids put in she started
Stephanie - posted on 04/02/2010
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my mum told me that my brother did not talk at all untill he was 4 years old. nothing at all. he had hearing tests and other tests from doctors, when he did talk he had a stammer and it was found he was dyslexic.
none of this had a bad affect on his life, he dosenot stammer anymore, has a very large property company and is happy.
Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010
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Hi there, just thought I would share with you what my daughter did... She's now 4. She didn't start talking until well after 2 years of age. She hardly babbled. At around 25 months, she *literally* went from making sounds to forming nearly full sentences in the span of about a week. During the day, she wouldnt say anything, but we found that at night, she was sitting in her room alone, talking to herself! It was almost as if she didnt want anyone to hear her say something wrong. Once she was comfortable with it, she did talk in front of us almost overnight. Barring true medical problems, either with hearing, or a connected tongue, or something to that nature, her Pediatrician said she would just start talking when she was good and ready... So hang in there, the day WILL come, and then you can't get them to shut up LOL!!!! :D Good luck!!!
Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010
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Hi there, just thought I would share with you what my daughter did... She's now 4. She didn't start talking until well after 2 years of age. She hardly babbled. At around 25 months, she *literally* went from making sounds to forming nearly full sentences in the span of about a week. During the day, she wouldnt say anything, but we found that at night, she was sitting in her room alone, talking to herself! It was almost as if she didnt want anyone to hear her say something wrong. Once she was comfortable with it, she did talk in front of us almost overnight. Barring true medical problems, either with hearing, or a connected tongue, or something to that nature, her Pediatrician said she would just start talking when she was good and ready... So hang in there, the day WILL come, and then you can't get them to shut up LOL!!!! :D Good luck!!!
Sarah - posted on 04/02/2010
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You should definetely get his hearing checked and might also consult a pediatrician about it. My son only said about 3 words at that time and has since been determined to have autism. I am not saying that is what's going on with your son, but you might want to have a pediatrician evaluate him.
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Speaking as a speech pathologist myself, please take your child to your local school and ask them for a reference for a speech pathologist. Most schools have an early intervention group linked to them somehow or they can connect you to the closest one. Get your child evaluated just to be on the safe side.
Marianne - posted on 04/02/2010
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Don't worry my daughter never spoke a word until after her first day at nursery at the age of 30 months. I picked her up after one morning and she chatted to me all all the way home in the car. She is 11 now very bright,clever and a perfectionist we often say to her that we think she could always talk but wasn't prepared to babble she wanted to wait until she could speak perfectly before doing so.
Shauna - posted on 04/02/2010
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does he understand when you give him instructions? if so then his speech will come eventually. However, if he is lacking in understanding then you'd be better to speak to your health visitor and have him assessed
Heather - posted on 04/02/2010
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sometimes boys don't talk or talk as much as girls do. my nephew didn't really talk at all for the first two years, but eventually did. he is almost 10 years old now, talks just fine, but still has a quiet personality. be sure to read a lot to your son and maybe even show him some sight words on index cards. i bought some flash cards with sight words on them to show my son to encourage reading and talking.
another suggestion might be to check to be sure he has normal hearing. they usually check that when they are born, but it could have gotten worse. there are over 400 genetic causes of hearing loss and usually shows up after several generations of all normal hearing family members. if not that, then i am sure he is fine and will start talking in his own time. :)
Efe - posted on 04/02/2010
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Don't panic, boy don't talk quick, my first son had the same problem, he is seven now am the one telling him to stop talking now, when he start pre- school he will talk fast. I hope dat help you.
Tiffany - posted on 04/02/2010
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my son turned 2 in oct 2009. we put him in daycare in aug 09. he was not talking any then. he can now say quite a few words. even with an older brother around he just would not talk. he is doing better now and is still considered behind by the pediatrician but he is making huge progress. hope all turns out ok.
Eileen - posted on 04/02/2010
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A lot of mom's on here are right, it might not be anything to worry too much about. My son was 3 when he started to talk. He understood things when you would talk to him, but his speech was mostly babble. And he had a very basic vocabulary. Then one day he woke up and decided to talk and use real words! He's now 4 and he's still not talking nearly as clear as some of the other 4 year old's but you can understand him - not to mention he's very intelligent. If it is worrying you that much, talk to his pediatrician.
Colleen - posted on 04/02/2010
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It sounds like you are pretty concerned and I agree that you have reason to be concerned. I would recommend contacting your pediatrician's office and ask for your county's Early Intervention program (ours is through a devision called Maternal Health and Child Development). They can do evaluations, usually no cost to the family and they evaluate your child's development in speech and language domains, social skills, gross motor and fine motor skills and more.
Kimberly - posted on 04/02/2010
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Hi my son is now 15 and he also did not talk for almost the 1st 3 years - he had an older sister and me who anticipated all of his needs so he did not have to talk according to the physician - when he did talk suddenly - it was in fluent sentences - and I am here to tell you his is now 15 an honor student and a star athlete - My daughter who is older was using words at 8 months but they both have ended up with the same intelligence. We took him for hearing tests and talked to peds about it but like the physician said - when he did finally start expressing his needs verbally it was on his own terms and I would try to make him tell me what he wanted rather than anticipating his every need!!
Lee - posted on 04/02/2010
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many states have free early intervention. ask the peidtaircan for the name of someone in your area to evaulate him. it is often free to have speech therapy up to age three. then they get re tested when they turn three. they will most likely also do motor and a psycholoibigcal profile as well . they have to evualate for everything. if his motor skills are on track and he doenst requrie OT or PT, then you will most likley be able to get a speech pathologst to come to your house twice a week or so. GOOD LUCK
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Nancy - posted on 04/02/2010
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Yes boys can develop speech more slowly sometimes. My from an Autistic parents point of view is check his other behaviors. How is his eye contact, desire for attention, vocal sounds. How is he communicating with you (by pointing, taking your hand). Does he notice when you walk into the room? Does he respond when his name is called? Does he follow any directions (appropriately for his age)? If all of this seems normal I would talk to him constantly and sing with/ to him and play games where words are involved like follow the leader using words to describe movements. Do not panic, It could just be speech delay which can be common. However, I listed some of the markers that you can talk with your pediatrition about.
I hope this is helpful. Please message me if you have any questions.
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Children talk at different ages. My girl did not talk well until age 3. It depends on how much she needs to talk. Begin by having them express a request verbally instead of grunting. Children now hae much less interaction with parents than in previous years. Age 27 mos is normal for some children to not be talking.
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I had the same problem with my son. Since there was nothing medicall wrong with him, the Dr. just told me his speech is just not developing as fast as it should but was nothing to be concerned about. Boys tend to develope slower in general, but if you haven't already, I would take him in to see if there is something that may be causing speech delay.
On a side note, if you can't afford a speech therapist and there are no underlying medical issues that may be contributing to his speech development, there are different learning pathways you can try with him to enhance his auditory and speech. I will attach some links of stuff I tried with my son.
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Or, you can view all of them for your sons age group by clicking the link below.
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Of course there are a million things you can try to stimulate his speech development but you can start anywhere. Good luck!
Leia - posted on 04/03/2010
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I was/am in the same boat. My son spoke no words other then Mamma when he turned two. Despite well meaning family members and even a doctor saying "he'll grow out of it", we decided to check out his speech delay. We went through the testing with Caleb and it turned out the speech therapist diagnosed him with childhood apraxia of speech. Basically it means he has trouble forming words...he knows what he wants to say but it doesn't come out right. He has been working with a speech therapist now for about 5 months once a week. Since then he has made great improvements. He definitely still has problems with speech but he has been able to make many more attempts at talking and asking for things. I would look into seeing if your school district offers any programs for therapy. That is who we went through and it is all funded through the school district. Best of luck to you and don't get discouraged. Do what you feel is right for your son!!
Vicky - posted on 04/03/2010
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I went through this with my son. There are several reasons why this may be occurring. If your household is bilingual that may be one reason why due to something known as bilingual interference. If you or his dad spoke late, then thats another reason. He also just may not be ready. Some kids dont talk till 3, which in the field of developmental psychology is normal. If you are still concerned, get him evaluated. In the NY area just call 311 and ask for an Early Intervention evalaution. In other states look online for early interventionin your area.Both my kids get early intervention and speak beautifully-they are 4 and 2. Hope this helps, good luck!