Is it ok to pull a 4th grader who struggles with reading out of school for a week to go on a celebration for her grand parent's 50th wedding anniversary?


Krista - posted on 09/08/2011




You know what? I'm probably going to be blasted for this, but I'm going to say yes. Now that my grandparents are gone, I cherish every family gathering and time that I spent with them. This is obviously a major family event, and I think that it's very important for kids to learn the value of family. Reading is also hugely important, but you can do some extra reading work during quiet times during that week, and also do some extra work on weekends to make up for that missed time.

Just with regards to struggling with reading...have you tried just letting her read something simple and pleasurable? Believe it or not, I learned to read on Archie comics. I didn't have to analyze the story or keep track of a plotline. It was just reading for fun. And it grew from there, and I became a voracious reader. I hope that your daughter eventually masters reading -- it's truly one of life's wonderful pleasures, to escape into a good story.


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Kelina - posted on 09/09/2011




I think it's a great idea. Take her homeowrk and make sure she does it but this isn't a vacation, it's a once in a lifetime family moment. I really don't think it would be right to keep her home and have her miss something this important

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Here's a different approach... Given the pressure and opinions of your family. Do YOU want to go? And if you do, do you WANT your daughter to go? If yes, then go. If not, stay home. I have learned that if people are going to make me have to defend myself or my family, they aren't people I want to be around. Even if they are relatives. So if you don't want to spend the week defending your reason why you did or did not bring her, then save yourself the aggravation and stay home.

Leasha - posted on 09/09/2011




Let me add another twist! My husband is a teacher in the district. He can't go. And in the state I live in teachers are being blasted in the media. This family members preasuring me are the same ones who feel teachers should be paid on student test scores. I've had to really stand up to them reguarding my husbands profession.

Krista - posted on 09/09/2011




Huh...I guess I wasn't blasted for my thoughts. :) Boy, did I EVER misread this crowd! LOL!

Tamara - posted on 09/08/2011




I took my daughter to see my parents for a week last year, I talked to her teacher and got some work and that was it, they already have to read 20 minutes a day so she didnt need anymore then that.

Tara - posted on 09/08/2011




I would say yes. This is literally a once-in-a-lifetime celebration (they aren't going to have a 2nd 50th anniversary unless we make great strides in medicine lol).

I would see if there are any workbooks that could be done or books that could be read while you are there for the celebration.

I also agree with Krista about reading something simple for pleasure. My parents always gave me that opportunity and I am a lifelong reader. Reading for pleasure and reading for "work/school" feel very different, especially to a child. If your child learns that reading can be fun, maybe it will make it easier for them.

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Ummm.... YES OF COURSE!!!!!!!!!! you can do more to help her one on one with her reading while on the trip than she can get one on one in school (most likely). And I still cry my eyes out everyday over losing 3 of my grandparents who I had great relationships with all passed away in the last 15 months and I didn't get to say goodbye to any of them. We only have one shot at relationships with our grandparents. Please give your 4th grader every opportunity possible to celebrate such amazing milestones! my dad's parents were married for 68 years and my mom's for 59. Amazing. Take lots of pictures too so that one day she can show her children what a beautiful event she got to celebrate with her grandparents.

Carmina - posted on 09/08/2011




definetly, its a special moment! i would just make sure she brings any homework and reads each night. :)

JuLeah - posted on 09/08/2011




What can she take with her to work on everyday? Workbooks? A books to read from for 30 minutes each day?.... ask her teacher ....

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