is okay to take toys away from 2yrs old to learn there bad behavior

Talorwood - posted on 02/22/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )




My mother said wrong for me to take her toy's from her and tell her i am throwing them away in which am not hiding them till her behavior change then she will get them back whom is right, my mother that why those kids see on news were always saying their mother did them, I am saying she need to learn bad behavior equal a taken of items until you act good


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Paul - posted on 02/22/2015




I grew up in the mountains of Kentucky, We were so poor that we did not have toys, we lived in a 2 bedroom shack, a wood burning stove, and sharing a bed with 3 brothers.. I wanted it to be different for my kids, and when it came to their toys, I wanted my children to learn how to treat others and respect me and my wife. I only took the toys away, when they behaved bad, I wanted to learn that life is short, and you don't get you way all the time, and I have been successful and they are well behaved, so good luck to all you moms, being a mother is a fly by night job.

Jodi - posted on 02/22/2015




It depends if it is a logical consequence. For example, if your 2 year old is throwing a tantrum in the supermarket because you won't buy her a lollipop, how is taking a toy away going to teach her? On the other hand, if she is having a tantrum and throwing her toys around, then yes, I can see the point in removing them. You need to make sure that the punishment fits the crime and that there is a logical connection between the behaviour and the consequence.

Secondly, make sure you reward her for the RIGHT choices, otherwise she won't necessarily know what is the right behaviour. Children who are only punished for wrong behaviour struggle to understand what they are doing wrong and continue to repeat behaviours if they aren't shown the right one.

Finally, don't take toys away and tell her you are throwing them away if that is not what you are going to do. Tell her the truth - that she can't have them back until she earns them back, and then let her know how she can get them back.

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